I've been engaged for about a week. So far we have plans to get married abroad, just the two of us, then come back to a huge reception. My family prefers I have a wedding where they can come though. The main reason I don't want to have a wedding is that I don't really have people who can be bridesmaids. I graduated high school early then transferred so many times in college that I just really dont have any really close girlfriends anymore. I feel pretty embarrased and upset that I don't have people to choose as bridesmaids. Are bridesmaids necessary? Can I just stand up there alone with my fiance and still walk down the aisle?
2007-02-18 08:56:25 · 24 answers · asked by nonlinea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hello Dear,
NO NO NO - Bridesmaids are not necessary for your wedding.
I have hosted and been to more weddings then I can remember. and bridesmaids are not a requirement.
Don't beat yourself up because you don't have any. Remember this is one of the happiest days of you life.
When you walk down the isle where by yourself or with an escort and stand there with your soon to be husband, everything and every one around you will be invisible. And you will be absolutely beautiful.
See some photos on differsent site to see how many couples don't have brides maids.
http://www.gulfbeachweddings.com
http://www.tbwo.us/
Amber
2007-02-18 10:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by amber d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason you have to have ANY wedding party is because some states require witnesses.
Here in Ohio you no longer need witnesses, so I perform a lot of ceremonies that might have a just MoH & B/M or the couple only. Seems smaller weddings both bridal party & guest-wise are becoming more popular.
There is no reason why you can't walk the aisle or be escorted without anyone else being in the front. Some of the most elegant wedding are being done this way.
Ps. Some counties require that you have a witness when you get your marriage license. Call your County Clerk to get the specifics for your area.
Congratulations!
2007-02-18 09:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not having bridesmaids, and it's perfectly fine. The reason I am not having any is that I have no sisters/female cousins and my one good friend feels she is too old to be a bridesmaid. My other close female friend is the ex girlfriend of the best man, and feels that she does not want to be at the wedding, so that rules her out, which is fine, I respect her choice. I don't have anyone else remotely close enough to ask.
2007-02-18 19:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding is exactly that...YOUR wedding. I had no bridesmaids and the only reason that I had a matron of honor was because he was having a best man. That was the end of the wedding party. Do you have a sister or a cousin or another woman that you feel close to? Ask her to be the matron of honor and consider it settled. If you do not even want that, then do what YOU want. Don't let someone else take over the preparations of the wedding, it is for you not them. The reception can be for them if that is what YOU want.
2007-02-18 09:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by cat14675 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to have bridesmaids. Do whatever you want. I really like your idea of getting married abroad. Thats something I have always wanted to do. I think marriage has become too much about the wedding day and all the crap you have to buy for it. Make your day special. Its about you and your husband becoming one. Its a bond between the two of you. That would be really cool for the two of you to do it alone and w/o all the hype.
Dont feel bad about not having close girl friends. Its nothing to feel bad about not everyone has close friends.
Also, dont get pressured into doing what your family wants. Remember its about you and your husband. Do something special. B/c it only happens once (hopefully.lol) <3
2007-02-18 09:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's BS! A coworker of mine just had a Catholic wedding like 2 months ago and their an older couple and her maid of honor was married. My best friend had a Catholic wedding last year and one of the groomsmans was married. The bride even had already had a baby and he walked in the wedding and I am baptist and was the Maid of Honor. One of my boy cousins just got married this past summer and the maid of honor was his sister who has been married for like 8 years now and has 2 kids. Now I don't know much about the catholic religion but where I am from Catholic is the main religion around here so I know enough. But I know that some priests have different viewpoints. Like when my friend with the baby got married the priest in our hometown would not marry her but the priest in the town over did and he married her in like a different town not even his chuirch. Maybe she really did lie to you and maybe she didn't. She is the only person who really knows. If it really is bothering you then maybe she is the only one you can really ask. This is how I like to think of things sometimes. If your husband or even your mom or sister did something that aggravated you or pissed you off you would tell them right? So we do we treat our friends so differently. If you really care about her then why not treat her like somebody you care about. A couple of months my best friend started being all weird and stuff and she would like never call me but her brother would tell me that she is alwasy with this other girl and I started thinking about that. I asked my fiance the same question "Why can I get so mad at you when you do wrong but I can't tell her how I feel"? And so I did. She understood and apologized for how she was treating me and we're fine now!! Maybe you should talk to her. That's the only way you'll really ever find out. Good Luck!
2016-05-24 03:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I've been to several weddings lately, and all of them either had just a Maid of Honor and Best Man or, they had no attendants at all, and just asked two family members to stand up and witness the vows.
And they were beautiful weddings!
I had bride's maids way-back - and now I wish I had really thought about not having them because that's exactly what I would do now!
2007-02-18 10:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie your wedding can be however you want it...with dozens of people in it, or only you the groom and the offical (as long as there are witnesses).
If you do not have family or friends you feel you could ask to be bridesmaids, then have none...they are not a requirement...make it what you want it to be!
2007-02-18 09:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have anyone in your wedding party you wish, or ... you can have a quiet, intimate ceremony with just you and your groom, and close family members. There are no rules written in stone that a wedding has to consist of bridesmaids and groomsmen.
2007-02-18 09:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do need at least two people to witness the marriage certificate. Other than that, you can have as many or as few as you like. It's your wedding. If your family wants you to have a big wedding, have one on your first anniversary.
2007-02-18 09:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by janejane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋