me and this guy have been talking now for about amonth, and it's starting to get a little serious. i'm wanting to tell my parents, but i know that they won't like him because he is black and even though i have 2 biracial babies, they still don't want me seeing a black man. how should i go about telling them and break it to them easily?
2007-02-18 08:50:47 · 10 answers · asked by trisha_r_c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dcam, if ignorance is bliss, you must be in heaven right now.
2007-02-18 08:58:23 · update #1
I think that if u really like this guy then your parents opinions can't really impact on your decisions. I know having dad and mom support u is important regardless of what age u r but in this case your parents are racists and u should be glad that u managed to be influenced by someone other than them in that area. Realistically, do u want to approval of someone with such distorted world views. If they are so far off on that topic how do u know that they have good judgment about other things. I don't know your parents, but people that think the way that they do and try to destroy their childrens minds with that type of unfounded garbage don't deserve to be taken seriously in any capacity. If I had ever had a problem with one of my girlfriends parents when I was in a interracial relationship I probably would tell them just that (in so many word). I think that u need to realize what u want and what makes u happy. If u don't want to be like your parents then u should not prioritize their opinions on your romantic life. It's really disrespectful to your boyfriend that u are ashamed to tell your parents that you're with him even though he hasn't done anything wrong. By the way, u should really think about regulating the amount of time that your parents spend with your kids.
2007-02-18 09:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally feel that maybe the reason they do not like you dating a black guy, seeing that you already have two biracial babies(im guessing if they are both from a black guy). Also you should wait to see how it goes with this guy..your parents dont automatically have to know your love life. Because when things do go wrong(not saying they are), your parents are just going to be even more "I told you so". So yeah I would wait and see where things go with this guy then tell them!
2007-02-18 16:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by denise70814 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of your history with the babies' Dad they are not trusting of the race. Your parents will love you no matter what you do. All a parent ever wants for their child is happiness. They'll come around, just respect them enough and be honest. How serious though can anyone be in a month? It takes a lot longer to get to truly know a person. Are you sure you're not going too fast.
2007-02-18 16:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have two biracial babies. I think it is unrealistic for your parents to have so much say about your life. I had 4 biracial children and disowned across the board. But my blessing is that I am surrounded by so much love. My children have always known why I was disowned. They respect me for my strength and for loving them so much that I would not compromise. The biggest long term issue is that your children have great pride in you and thier selves. They have to know that ignorance is contagious and instead of being angry with those that have to hate something so that it makes them feel superior. You should pity them and pray for them. Make sure your children have a strong sence of their heritage and who they are it is your job to educate them. And as for as the new boyfreind goes stand up for how you really feel if he is a good man then that should be the end of it. But your children will see this and they will know that there is nothing wrong with being black. They will have a great pride in you and themselves. Their is no easy way surely you have figured that out with the birth of your first child. It's time to stand up and be their mother instead of trying to be the daughter they want you to be!
2007-02-18 17:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by mrlyndms 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you have to face the fact that it is you that will be spending the rest of your life with this person and not your parents. you should however let them know how you feel about this guy and tell them all the good things that he has done for you. if they are honest to themselves hey will accept any descission that you make and encourage you to go for what you like.
2007-02-18 16:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by thicksauce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them know how u feel about that.they r alot of ppl in the world that like someone of the opposite sex with different skin.tell them that ppl r ppl and some ppl r not like others.and that the way they taught u was well and to love everyone of all shapes and sizes,color and uniques.
2007-02-18 16:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by ღ♥MadamA.A.♥ღ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is just come out and tell them. Because if they find out any other ways they be ticked. And its not like they can "really" control who you talk to its not like they're talking to him.
2007-02-18 16:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by 1 confused chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm i think you should just tell em theres no easy way 2 break it 2 em
if there gunnna like him there gunna like him if not then there not thats the only way sorry no easy solution
2007-02-18 17:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by wizard_man130 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show them a taype of you and a million black guys having sex
2007-02-18 16:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Crancrab1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well. m i would go the easy way and not. why does colour matter. does he make you feel special? why NT wait a little longer? its Ur life. do as you please.
2007-02-18 16:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by one who has no name 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋