i went on meal with this guy. he wants to remain as friends i agree but what i don't understand was the following:
he kept staring at me and winking at me at the table and even when he was driving i had to tell him to keep his eyes on the road!
at the table he had his leg on the base of my chair...what does this mean?
He also said "there is the right person out there for everybody"looking away while saying it.....
he asked intresting questions!
Does he like me more than a mate>im confused!
we ended up making love but im scared i will never see him again!
what can i think to calm my nerves and stop worrying as the last guy i liked (i made love to him the first night) said he didn't want to be friends!the only thing i did was txt him loads but he didn't contact me! until two weeks later.....
this guy im talking about i met in a club and didn;t see him for 3 weeks and then we made love
what should i do i don't want to lose him like the other guy....
thanks
2007-02-18 08:48:24 · 13 answers · asked by thecoollioness1985 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop getting laid on first date
2007-02-18 08:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by guru ji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say don't be making love to anyone until you know its right. Some guys just do things like that trying to tell you they just want laid because it is a way to get onto a females softside. I would talk to him in person and see what he wants friends or more which ever would make you happier but don't get your hopes up keep them for the worst so if its what you wanted you feel happy and relieved and if its not then you don't feel as hurt as you would have if you kept your hopes high.
2007-02-18 08:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by ho0k4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to stop having sex with guys on the first night. It sounds like this guy isn't really into you, he just wants you as a back-up sex partner. Don't be scared if he doesn't want to see you again, just move on. Next time you meet a guy get to know him for a few weeks before you decide if he's a good match for you. Some guys will do anything to lead you on, to get you into bed. If he says he only wants to be friends, than believe him (don't have sex with him), if he wanted you as a girlfriend, he'd let you know, & he'd respect you.
2007-02-18 08:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off,stop having sex the on the first date.Men generally don't date girls that do those things.We might call you late at night as a booty call.but for a serious relationship that's not happening.Second,stop being overbearing with the texts.If a guy want's to call he will call.You can call or text first but don't be a freak about it.Those kinds of thing make you seem crazy.
2007-02-18 08:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by messenger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well candidly, there's nothing you can do! obviously this guy is just flirting with you. if you have a race in his heart, he'll miss you and will start sending you sweet msgs. otherwise, u need learn the right stuff next time. never ever jump into bed again if you are unsure of somebody else's feelings for you. relationship are build in more talks and nurtured through times
2007-02-18 09:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by jagmyth88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop making "love" on the first date because the guys just see it at that point as getting "laid". If you want guys to lust after you slow down and build a relationship...Good luck :0)
2007-02-18 08:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by The TrutH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to lose him then have sex with him and then you officially will lose him.
Silly...silly girl...
Don't you understand the stock market? Look at men like this..
Let's just say you had about 10 million bucks..and you wanted to invest it. Now would you put that 10 million bucks into one stock? Hell no!!! You would put it into various stocks to find your better outcome.
Having said that...how much is your heart worth? Men are like the stock market..do not put your heart into one basket...
Do I make myself clear...????
2007-02-18 08:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okj your not making love to anyone your screwing them.. if you want to find a guy to date and make love to then get to know them, become friends, then lovers. sounds like this last guy just want to have a friend with benifits. he tells you he wants only friendship but flirts just enough so that when he feels like it he can sleep with you. get rid of him and close up your "shop" for a while witht the next guy
2007-02-18 08:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by super_dooper_dooooper_man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you that he will call or not. Let me give you a piece of friendly advice. If you want to keep a man, please don't sleep with them so quickly, unless you are only looking for a quickie.
2007-02-18 08:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋