I feel frustrated when one of my in-laws stares when we're having a conversation. I mean , he listen with no expression on his face when i talk. I feel it's rude and impolite. It hurts me too, boz i feel like he doesn't buy into what I'm saying.
Anyone been there? Advice please..
2007-02-18 08:37:07 · 11 answers · asked by She-whom-shall-not-be-named 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
And I can't forget his big expressionless face, ang big eyes for that !
2007-02-18 08:50:06 · update #1
Actually, it is both my parents-in-law, and he is very happy I'm with his son. No harsh feelings between us, but he still does that to me. I'm don't think he has any social problems. His RECENT life change is only having me as his daughter-in-law!
2007-02-18 09:20:39 · update #2
Oh, u got it all wrong. My dad-in-law has no Petit-mal syndrome whatsoever! He doesn't look right thru me, but he just has this arrogance look like he is not impressed or influenced by any way to waht I'm saying. They are French Candians and very stubborn!
2007-02-20 08:51:07 · update #3
Well if it is not medication or a mental condition, are the this stoic to everyone else?
If they are not don't bother coming there, I tried to win my nasty in-laws over for years until I realized life is too short to play games with nasty people.
2007-02-18 09:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by mitchell2020 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is always possible that he is trying to convey exactly what you think: that he has no interest in, or does not believe/support what you are saying. Perhaps you can limit your in person conversations for awhile, and stick with the phone while you work on developing a bit of inner strength and resilience. This way you won't be quite so bothered.
His ridgidly held expression could be his way of controlling his features so that he reveals neither negative or positive facial responses, to make you feel uncomfortable, small, insignificant, foolish, or otherwise.
On the other hand, it is very possible that he or she (or both) is dealing with an undiagnosed medical condition that has not yet been disclosed to the family.
Try to relax, and assure yourself that as long as you & your spouse have no problems with the content of your conversations with his parents, you shouldn't either, regardless of what either parent does.
Hope things improve.
Hope this helps!
2007-02-24 07:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can identify with you- I must admit that I find it rude. To me, an expressionless face is cold and unfriendly. I once worked with a guy like that, who would just stare at me no matter what I said to him, or what I did. He even gave me the icy stare one afternoon when I tripped over a computer wire and nearly fell flat on my face. I felt as if he didn't even care about whether or not I got hurt. Coworkers are one thing- you leave them behind when the whistle blows. But with in-laws, it will have to be dealt with as they are family. Ask your significant other, sometime in private, as to how you can go about getting around any hard feelings. Perhaps his family is reserved due to cultural reasons or something along that line. Once they see that you are trying to reach out, things should improve.
2007-02-18 09:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys just don't have much in common. Something what you think it's a interesting topic might not be for others. Just keep you conversation short or find something you both are interest in. Remember a conversation it's a two way street. And if that doesn't work, go talk to someone who's interested like your friend.
2007-02-23 17:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Helen3879 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've read some good answers here, but I have to agree with Chocolate. He may have that seizure disorder. I have petit mal disorder and I just space out for a few seconds to a few minutes and I lose track of time and miss out on conversations. I know it's annoying for you, but it's also annoying for the person who's missing out on your conversation. It's embarrassing to ask the person to please repeat because I didn't get some of what you said. Ask him if he's feeling okay. Discuss this with his spouse or other loved ones to see if he has seen a doctor who can examine and diagnose what's going on with him. If this is a seizure disorder then he needs help and medication.
2007-02-18 13:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by angelcat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could you be trying too hard to make conversation? Maybe if you withhold a little--maybe if you're a little stand-offish--he'll be intrigued and make more of an effort himself. He may pick up on the vibe that it REALLY matters to you what he thinks, so I'd suggest acting like it matters a little less.
2007-02-24 09:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by gina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Rock His World Girl
2016-03-29 01:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Teresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you observe his reaction to others to make sure you're not being singled out and go from there.You DID marry his son and not the parents.Isn't it funny that from two people that you don't seem to have anything in common with you married their wonderful son.lol.Good luck.
2007-02-26 03:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by frank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah rude but some people dont realise it. Some people are just ''there'' with no expression at all. Some people just listen and dont comment. Some people DONT listen. I hope your husband does not take after them! If he doesnt feel lucky. You dont live with them hopefully...
2007-02-24 19:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by nikogal2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suspect petit-mal seizures. I'm not kidding. Especially if he has no idea how much time has passed or if he's not even aware that he did it.
2007-02-18 12:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋