Anyone else have a horrible mother-in-law?

Question

Mine doesn't like my ironing, my nails are too short, I spoil her dogs, I don't listen to her son, my house is dirty, and I need a proper job.
I can't wait til I have her grandchildren, what fun...

Whats yours like?

By the way (janine) I don't invite her round! She has house keys (we rent off her) and we just hear her coming up the stairs... gives me nightmares!

Can I just mention that I'm not the one who's been putting a thumbs down to all the answers (just in case you thought I was being rude!)

Answer 1

A total nightmare:

She was great with me and we got along until i moved in with her son.

She claims I am only with him for his money - he is on minimum wage.

I want to trap him and has told other family members that I am already pregnant - I am in the middle of studying at college and would completely f**k up my life getting pregnant

has told us that we arent allowed to have kids at any point and wanted my boyfriend to have the snip - because we would just dump our kids on her. - I wouldnt leave her in charge of a goldfish.

has shouted at me and threatened me in the middle of a shopping centre when I was with one of my friends and then got straight on the phone to my boyfriend to tell him that I said I didnt love him - I was with a witness!!!

I have tried and tried to talk to her in a calm way to sort this out - she wasnt interested and said that she had too much on her mind - that night she went down to the local pub to get drunk and take part in the quiz.

She claims she is doing this out of love for her son but if that was true would she not sit down with me and tell me what I had done? She would rather her son was caught in the middle than do that.

She has never encouraged him to do something he loves with his life so he is in a job he hates - I encourage him to enroll in a college course because I would rather that he had a job he loved than stuck in one he hates.

Just wish she would f**k off now - but I would never tell him to choose between the two of us because that is the most selfish thing a person can do.

She would ask him though given half the chance.

When we used to talk she used to go on and on about what a freak his ex is - that she has stalked him for years (which is true, other people have corribirated this story)

Now she chats away to her and tells her all about my boyfriend and what he has been up to.

Answer 2

Have you thought of changing the locks? You could tell a massive lie and say your bag was pinched, and your keys and a a bill with your address was in it!

Just because you rent off her does not entitle her to come and go as she pleases. Landlords are not allowed to do that.

There is a saying - Be nice to your children, they choose your nursing home. You can find it on a cusion cover. Just a thought for a mothers day present.

Answer 3

Thankfully I never got to stage of calling my ex's mother my mother in law. Her voice could cut glass, she had more rings on her than an Italian mama. Her dress sense was awful. She used to think that I would look after her lazy son 24 / 7 like it or not, (Dont think so, hence he's now my ex). She used to treat my house like a second home and let herself in when she felt like it (dont ask how she got a key, definately wasnt from me), so you used to come home to her watching TV or she'd let herself in when you were even having a bath. I would threaten your mother-in-law with no children if she doesnt leave you alone with all the nagging, Im sure she'll back down

Answer 4

I have yet to marry, but my heart goes out to you.
May you one day have a home away from this delightfull example of how not to get along with one's son's wife.

Perhaps a bit of humour will brighten your moments: Think of these when she starts a go at you:

(1) Mixed Feelings: You have a dream of your mother-in-law driving a new car off the Dover cliffs, then you realise it is YOUR car!
(2) A brighter future on hold: She says she is not feeling well, and damned if she winds up living.
(3) Endless questions such as: You wonder how such a wonderful man as your husband could have been born of his mother.
(4) And sudden revelations: You do, finally understand why his father walked to the corner shop and got apparently lost--he hasn't been heard from in twenty years!

--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 5

I wasn't sure when I married my husband what I was getting myself into. Was my mother-in-law going to be the Wicked Witch of the East or The Good Witch of the North?

Turns out I married into the Brady Bunch, the least dysfunctional family on the planet. She is the kindest, most thoughtful person I have known. I am lucky that Carol Brady/Glinda the Good Witch is my mother-in-law.

Sorry yours came from the East. Maybe a house will fall on her.

Answer 6

That stinks. Just keep your head high and keep a happy relationship between you and your husband.

I'm not sure how it's gonna turn out for me when I get married. I think my boyfriend's mother is genuinely a nice person, but we haven't gotten to know each other very well and sometimes I feel uncomfortable around her. When he and I eventually get married, the mother-in-law thing could really go either way. Hopefully the good way! :-)

Answer 7

We have an unusual problem w/ my mil. She lives about 5minutes away but she totally ignores our kids until maybe about 1-2 times a year she'll decide to show up. When she does this, it excites my kids and then they want to see her and go to her house. My husband and I have spoken to her about this to no avail. Her 2nd husband was abusive to my husband as a child and she knows this and now my husband has issues. She's never apologized or even acknolwedged his pain. She knows it happened. When my husband was struggling w/ alcoholism, she never got involved. When he struggled w/ drugs, not a word. Every holiday she wants everybody together at her house. Then the cheap gifts and the same ole food every year and the same pretentious pictures. I've said many times, if my husbands family really tried to be everything they pretend to be on the holidays, the family would heal.

Answer 8

have u ever discuss this with your husband?
if not do that and let him know that you need your own privacy
and she is getting it from u
u don't have to suffer just talk about your problems
and remeber who cares if she likes your nails or not
your husband needs to like your nails not your monster in law
besides once you have children whith her son then she knows yo are not going anywere and for the rest of your life
so she gets to the point that she must accept u just the way you are.
good luck

Answer 9

Listen, at least you people can complain about your mother-in-laws and not feel like crap. My mother-in-law developed a mental disorder a little bit after her son and I got married. We were living together and the first year and a half of our marriage was a living hell. I was a B^&*$ who was also a witch who was poisening her, her children, her family and sleeping with everyone including her husband. I was to scared to go in a car with her because of numerous attempts she made to cause a car accident in which she hoped ide be the only person who died. She threatened to burn the house with me in it. She called all my sisters and female friends hoes. I would find my clothing in pieces in the garbage, in the yard, on the floor, everywhere because i was a spoiled little snot who stole money from her to buy my clothing. My food had drugs in it so she would wait till i was done cooking and throw it in the garbage before anyone could eat. She broke down our bedroom door TWICE, in the middle of the night while we were sleeping so she could throw things at me, scream, and curse at me. She followed me around for a week so she could gather evidence to prove to my husband that i was sleeping with his father, his brothers. She also would walk around with a knife and once stabbed a guy in the street in his hand. Was arrested twice, and had my husband, her own fricken son, arrested once. She would pressure me and my husband to have kids, hoping that if we got divorced she would get to keep them. She was institutionalized but eventually released into her familys custody. She was better for a while till she decided to stop taking her medicine, and has continued to make my/our lives a living nightmare. The stress from some of these events have led to my own emotional downfall, depression, self-mutilation, black-outs. Through this all, i have TRIED to get emotional support from family and friends, but have been accused of being stuck up, unsympathetic, cruel and a jerk for not feeling bad for her for being sick. I dont understand how i am supposed to feel bad for someone who KNOWS they are sick, yet refused to take their medicine. Everyone can ***** and moan about their m-i-l's but I have to sit there and take everything without having no one there to help me out, all because she's not well in the head.

Answer 10

Mine is evil. At our wedding she threatened not to come coz she couldnt organise it, she put in nothing to the wedding, but then told everyone there that she had given us 3000 and that we had called her every day asking for more, she told us again that she wasnt going to come, then showed up anyway, and whinged about me all day to my family, saying how horrible i am and stuff, she comes into my work and talks about me to my co-workers, calls us drunk at 2 in the morning and abuses me for all kinds of imagined slights, she threatened to have me killed at one point. She has told my husband that I am sleeping with his brother sister and father, at christmas we were sposed to go and see my family (they live far away but still make the effort to come and spend time with us, she doesnt and lives 5 minutes down the road) she had a huge tantrum and after 7 abusive phone calls we ended up not being about to afford to go to my parents. She had hubbys brother there too, and tried to turn it into a competition between me and the other daughter in law. Then asked me to set the table while telling everyone else that we were having a picnic, then bitching about me while i was still setting it. She told us to sleep in her shed christmas ever (not a nice shed) coz my husband has a skin disease and she couldnt be bothered washing sheets. I am now 8 months pregnant and still she is calling and abusing us, she todl me that coz she couldnt plan our wedding she would plan the birth (What time?) My parents got us a car seat and heaps of clothes, and his stepdad and his new wife got us a cot and she is telling people that she got it all for us and that we cant afford a baby coz she has to pay for everything for it (once again she has done nothing, we have everything we need and have bought the majority of it ourselves, the rest was gifts from family and friends). I MARRIED INTO THIS!!!!!