What would you do if your 7 yr old daughter was left home alone without your knowlege?

Question

I let my daughter stay the night at her Aunties house. My sister ended up leaving to the store, and left her 2 kids aged 18 months and 4 and my daughter 7 with her husband so she could go shop alone-toltally understadible.

Except her husband left all the kids home alone so he could go party. Infact he never even came back home. I'm furious because I would never leave my child home alone my GOd shes only 7!.

To make matters worse she was left with my sisters kids aged 18 months and 4.

I'm really mad, and not sure what to do about it. My sister doesnt seem to want to do anything about it. If that were my husband i'd kick his *** out. I told my daughter she cant stay the night over there again, and she is upset over it. But i'm worried about my sisters kids. What if she decides to leave them with her husband again, and my daughter isnt there to protect them?

I'm just really upset, mad and confused

what would you do?

I'm more angry because he left his own kids, and jepordized mine. I mean if the police had been called what would they think? They might try to take my child away thinking I'm neglecting her. The thing is I should be able to allow my daughter to stay at her Aunties. It is a shame that they cnat be trusted.

What if someone tried to break in? My daughter would not know what to do. I havent really talked about that kind of stuff to her, because she wasnt expected to be left home alone EVER-especially at 7.

But i wonder if he would have left his own kids home even if my daughter hadnt been there. I mean a 4 yr old, and 18 month old cant really care for them selves.

The thing is im kinda required by law to report this. I work for the school board, and have taken a oath. But she is my sister, and she would enver have left him with the kids had she known he would leave them home alone.

AT the same time she wont do much about it other than yell at him. He is a drunk, and often leaves for days. She is just young and too nieve to stick up for her and her kids.

Answer 1

Ok... calling child services is a good choice especially if you are concerend for the safety of her children.

Yet, as one of our friends here said, that this will just cause trouble with your sister. You don't want that! This will hinder you from helping her ...or ever having a normal realtionship with her. It shows you care about her and so, I would expecct, you would like to have a long-term realtions with her. I dont think she will ever understand your good intentions in the case of child services.

Moreover, personally, I am kind of concerend for your sister's own safety with this negligant person. I mean he is the type of person that could burn down the house by leaving the stove on or something.

If I may, how about you talk to someone she really listens to no matter what like your mom, or a good common friend, before considering talking to child services.

Moreover, in a totally objective way try to point out her husband's mistakes as they occur. I mean she cannot be blindly in love with the guy...blind love should not continue until you got your second child...I thought people get sober around the first child's birth!

Try to reason with her...try to understand her feelings...be close...she is sure lucky she has someone who cares like you..

Good luck!

Answer 2

I don't blame you for not allowing your daughter over there again without you. If it were me I would tell your sister and her husband that if you ever find out the children are left alone again then you will not hesitate to call child protective services. I'd ask your sister if she really intends on staying with that loser. If not then maybe y'all could move in together to help make ends meet, then your daughter could be around them more. What do your parents, if they are around, say about this? I hope your sister doesn't leave her own children with him anymore. The kids could be taken away from her for leaving them with someone that she knows is irresponsible. Thank God there wasn't a fire or something.

Answer 3

If you value your sister's friendship and love you will not contact Social Services just yet. Make it clear to her that if this ever happens again you will have no choice but to notify them. Although you can understand that it was not entirely her fault she has to understand that you have put your child's life in her hands. She has to ensure that the safety of your child and her children is top priority and should not be left without a trusted adult. Her husband has now been considered untrustworthy and unreliable and you refuse to leave your child there unless she will be there at all times. Make sure you are clear and tell her that your daughter loves coming over and hope she can understand your concern.
Hopefully she'll clue in that her husband is bad news, eventually the partying will put a toll on the marriage. I would hope this incident would make her see how uncaring and heartless her husband really is. If she can't get control of this marriage now she will lose in the end (her marriage or a death of a child).

Answer 4

Talk to your daughter first and let her know that she did everything that is commendable. She took care and oversaw all the other younger ones.
Then talk to your sister and let her know what happened and how you feel about it...the entire situation.
If she was going shopping to get some snacks or whatever for the children, OK. But if she just went out on a lark to go shopping to get away from the kids, that's another situation.
Talk to her seriously. Maybe she and her husband are having difficulties and need some help.
Please don't put the children in the middle of this situation.
I'm sorry you and your daughter had to go through this.
Like I said before, talk to your sister first. She was the first one in which you entrusted your child.
The fact that she handed over that responsibility to her husband is her decision whether that be right or wrong. She was the one responsible for your child.
'nuf said.

Answer 5

A 4 yr old and an 18 mo old should definitely not be left home alone or with your 7 yr. old.
Talk to your sister and tell her that you will report her if she does anything like this again. Then report her to Child & Family Services.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, you will have to supervise your daughter's visits over there. That is actually against the law what you're brother in law did.

You need to firmly tell you sister that it's against the law and for the safety of her children she needs to not leave them unsupervised again. Tell her you would hate to be the one to call DCFS on her. Her and her husband could end up losing her children and be in the system for child neglect. Not to mention, it's very dangerous to leave children unattended. They could end up hurt, kidnapped or dead.

Answer 7

You are right to be concerned. He is a jerk. I agree with you to not allow your child to stay there again. Consider calling Department of Children and Family Services. What if there was a fire while the kids were unattended?

Answer 8

It would not even count that they have got been diverse sexes. You have been going to artwork, no different adults have been there, so there replaced into no person to be in charge for somebody else's 7-12 months-previous youngster. it would have been irresponsible to no longer deliver the lady back to her very own home in the previous you left for artwork. i'm uncertain the 11-12 months-previous might desire to be on his very own all day long the two. Now, as for the boy-woman element, lots of incredibly youthful ladies have been sexually molested via adolescent boys (inclusive of their very own brothers, so a blood relationship would not unavoidably look after them the two) that i do no longer think of this is staggering to allow the possibility for it to ensue, despite in case you do no longer think of the boy has such intentions. Intentions can form particularly immediately, tremendously once you're left on your very own gadgets for hours. i do no longer understand what the youngster's mom replaced into questioning, tremendously if her daughter is already misbehaving and appearing out. i think of it's time to debate floor rules for travellers in the residence you the two share (and my first subject count could be not extra boy-woman sleepovers). Or stumble on a sparkling roommate. there is not any reason you will possibly desire to might desire to ask your self or worry approximately what's happening on your very own place.

Answer 9

Tell your sister that she is jeopardizing her children by not kicking him out. If DCFS, knew that the children were left alone and she didn't do anything about it, they would take the children away from her as well as her husband. You are smart not to send your daughter over there anymore. If your sister refuses to do anything about it, call DCFS yourself.

Answer 10

Never leave your kids over there again, that's for sure.

You can call child protective services, but be prepared for a major fallout with your sister. Small price to pay though if children are at risk.