date supervision?

Question

I am 13. This guy just asked me out and I said yes. so i asked my parents and they said ok and i was so happy until they said they wanted to come and sit w/ us. then i was so mad. i argued w/ them forever, but they wouldn't give in! It was just going 2 the movies. and it wasn't even like they wanted 2 sit in the way front while we sit in the way back or vice versa, no, they wanted 2 sit with us, like next 2 us!!!!!!!!!!and i'm in 8th grade, so its not like i'm a little kid that needs to be that closely supervised through just a movie!They wouldn't even settle for different rows! That kinda defeats the purpose of a date! What should I do?={

Answer 1

Parents can be overprotected sometimes. Let them sit by you guys and if your boyfriend isn't touchy or seems ok to your parents, maybe they won't be there next time. Just act like they aren't there, but don't hug or get intimate or else your parents may get suspicious and might not leave you 2 alone.

Answer 2

explain the situation to the guy; tell him your parents want to be there on the first date, and if he doesn't understand that, then he probably isnt someone you want to be dating. At 13, I think its still okay for your mom and dad to make sure you are safe. But, if you go to a movie that's packed, then you may end up having to sit in different rows!

Answer 3

Well, parents can get annoying. You should probably tell the person youre going with that you can't makeout and everything throughout the movie. You should go this one time and earn their trust. If you show them that you are responsible at the movies, you will earn their trust and maybe next time, they'll let you go without them. Or, if they don't know the person you're going out with, they probably want to meet him to see if he's a good kid or a scumbag that they don't want you dating.

Answer 4

Alright.. First advice, Since your parents refuse to budge and assuming they won't change their minds ( they only really care about you, that's why).. Here's one thing you can do.

Tell your date beforehand that your parents will come with you (as it may be your fist date). If he really likes you, he will still go on the date with you. When you do go to the movies this once your parents will come with you. but once they see that they can trust you and the boy, they will not come for the other dates.

Its just a matter of trust, and you and your date have to understand, they care about you.

Answer 5

just let them come, so they know they can trust you. Im 16 and my parents trust me and my boyfriend but 6 months ago on our first date we had to be supervised. Now we dont have to be because they know me and they know him so they let us go everywhere and hang out pretty much whenever we want. When i was your age my parents sent my brother with me. you can imagine how much fun that was. my brother being the protector he always found a way to keep the boy in line. but just let them know you have nothing to hide and they will trust you and eventually you will not need supervision. hope i helped =)

Answer 6

It's obvious from your statements that your parents are exactly right. You're not mature enough yet to go out alone. There's nothing wrong with going out with your parents right now. If the guy is worth your time then he won't mind either.
You should consider yourself lucky. My daughters wouldn;t be allowed to date until they were 15, and then I'd be right there.

Answer 7

introduce ur boyfriend to ur parents then mayby they would feel a little better about sitting in at least different rows if he makes a good impression trust me my girlfriends parents did the same thing only i made a really good impression and they took for 2 rows lol

Answer 8

Be thankful they are letting you go at all. It takes time to build trust, and that's what this arrangement is about. They want to get to know the guy and to see how he treats you. It's a first step, so don't complain and eventually they will be comfortable with giving you guys more freedom.

Answer 9

depends on how cool the guy is. if hes one of those guys that wont be cool with it then cancel. he might be the doosh that will come to school the next day and tell everyone how horrible and embarresing your parents were. believe its hapened to me. but maybe talk to him and see how he responds like "hey how would you feel if my parents came along with us" and see his facial expression, if he gets worried just be like "just kidding" so you dont look retarded. and if you reaalllllyy like him then maybe do it secretive. but think about the consequences though chick. its could ruin dating for a long time if you screw it up. just do what you think is best.

Answer 10

just go... fighting w/ them tellin them not to go is gunna make them think ur doing something wrong or hiding something from them... my parents are very over protected... they never went on dates w/ me BUT they sended a third wheel... aka my lil sister.. lol lucky we're not so far in age so after awhile i came up w/ an idea to ask a guy to bring a friend or brother who kept my sister busy =) lol but just let ur parents go and stay calm try to have fun but dont be so flirty so next time he askes u out maybe ur parents will let u go alone... lol maybe next time u should go out to eat.. b/c parents just happen to think the movies are to make out.. atleast mine did!!