Why is that if someone treats me really nicely i push them away and go for someone who does not like commitement?
2007-02-18 08:09:13 · 10 answers · asked by elnett 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
may b cause u not ready 4 commitment yet when we push the good things away its kinda good it shows we dont acctualy need them to strive off we can do it on our own...
2007-02-18 08:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be many things, one you could have a low self esteem, in this no believing that the person really likes you and would-like to commit.It also could be that you yourself is afraid to commit and your inner self automatically pushes them away.
On the other hand you may also enjoy a challenge.
My advise to you would be to try to appreciate the ones that treat u nicely, this does not mean u should commit if you are not ready too, but remember that these are the people who see your worth.
As for the ones who do not want to make commitment they too may not be ready to commit , but could also not care enough to do so.
i suggest u compare the two and start making the right decisions as to who u would like to continue a relationship with.
Remember that it could be that you are afraid of disappointment, that u simply want to explore many avenues, or are meeting the the wrong person every-time.
Good luck
2007-02-18 16:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by ladybird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes there are other reasons why the person who will offer you commitment still isn't the right person for you to be with. There is more to love than commitment &just being treated nicely, you need respect, a partner, a man & not a doormat who will offer you all those things rolled into one. I guess you haven't found him yet!
2007-02-18 16:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by ATP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You prefer to be treated badly as this verifies the feelings you have for yourself. These 'self-fulfilling prophecies' are common in people with low self esteem. It will never change until you realise that you are a person worthy of decency and respect. That takes time and courage. Women always make bad men-choices when at a low point. I do hope you learn to like you and enjoy being treated well - its what everyone deserves.
2007-02-18 16:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say because deep down,you're not ready for commitment. Yeah,it's something we all want-but commitment can't be had unless both parties are 100% ready. Take your time-I'm sure the day will come when you'll meet someone wonderful and feel ready to commit to them.
2007-02-18 16:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because secretly you do not like commitment either so you go for guys who you know it wont last with.
Have you been hurt in the past by guys you have allowed yourself to trust and possible love?
If the answer is yes to this then it is possible that somewhere in your sub-conscious you just don't want to get hurt again.
You have to try and work through this, get over what has happened in the past and live for the future.
Good luck babe xxx
2007-02-18 16:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are afraid of commitment yourself.
2007-02-18 16:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by trixi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say because you are afraid to let people know who you really are. You might be afraid to let yourself really love some one because you are afraid of being hurt.
2007-02-18 16:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by laughoutloud22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because its too easy, and you feel as though you don't have to work for it. Maybe they are just not the right person for you.
2007-02-18 16:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are scared of getting hurt.
...let yourself enjoy things while they last!! you never know what could happen unless you give it a try!
2007-02-18 16:12:31 · answer #10 · answered by coolio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋