Here's the deal, right now I have a crush on this girl in my class, I won't call it love because I don't know her enough yet to say, but we talk and were good friends. To say whether it is love or a crush, I want to ask her out. But here lies my problem.
It's a friend problem. Her best friend has a monster of a crush on me. We're not talking little girly fixation here. When I’m not in class all she talks about is me, when I’m in class she spends the whole time staring at me, she dreams about us marrying and proudly tells all her friends about it, yet goes incredibly shy about me. She's not a bad person, she's a great friend. But I just don't see her as a girlfriend.
But with her being like that and being my crushes best friend, would asking her (my Crush) out cause a problem between the two of them. They've been friends forever and I don't want to the bad person here, but even I can tell there would be trouble. So what do I do?
2007-02-18 08:03:54 · 7 answers · asked by Bluesky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your trapped in the horns of a nasty dilema, my dear. You cant ask the girl you like out without making the other one mad. I would still ask your crush out and if the other lady brings it up, sit her down and tell her that you only want to be her friend. If she still cant deal with it, then thats her problem. Watch out though, because what you say to the girl could come back to bite you via your crush, so use caution. girls are just kinda strange like that. Good luck. :)
2007-02-18 08:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most mature thing to do is to talk to the one you like first. See if she has any feelings for you or would beinterested in dating to see if she does. While you're talking to her about this, then you'll also need to bring up the situation with her friend and make it clear to her that you don't want any kind of bf/gf relationship with the friend. If she's a good friend then she may balk at dating you because it would hurt her friend, but if she likes you also then she may agree that there's no reason not to see each other if the friend has no chance with you.
Then you both need to discuss some way to break the news to her friend in as nice a way as possible. You should both be there and be sure that you both want to remain her firend. She'll be hurt, and it will take time for her to forgive you guys, but if you do it right then she'll be OK eventually.
2007-02-18 08:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by ExperienceD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, find someone who likes the girl who's crushing on you. Once some other guy asks her out, she'll jump on it. Trust me -- I was a teenage girl once. And that will leave you free for her friend.
If you ask out the girl you like, and she says no, you've lost your chance. And if she says yes, their friendship is over. But this plan will be the best of both worlds.
2007-02-18 08:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by rkldwg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are as good as friends as you say, then most likely the girl your crushin on wouldn't do something like that to her best friend. I know that I wouldn't. Talk to the girl your crushin on, let her know how you feel and ask her how she thinks her friend would feel about it. It's better to know than just have this burning question on your mind... good luck!
2007-02-18 08:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you like her friend then go out with her,if you dont you could break her heart and that will leave your crush in an awkward position to choose
if you dont like her let her down gently
2007-02-18 08:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by neil q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest in whatever you do, and you'll sleep well at the end of the day.
Yes, it would likely cause a rift between the girls. But that's between THEM......
2007-02-18 08:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by wildflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT GO OUT WITH HER IT WILL BREAK HER FRIENDS HEART SINCE ITS ONLY A CRUSH U'LL 4 GET HER
2007-02-18 08:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋