how would you punish a 12 year old?

Answer 1

Mom used to make us write a story what we did wrong ,why we did it, what we would do next time how we would fix the problem. andmaybe what our own punishment should be.She made us read it aloud. It was awful and kind of humiliating and made you think what you did was pretty dumb when you see it on paper. If it wasn't good enough we got to do it all over again.. Punishment usually clean the garage and yard work, no play that day for sure. I guess it worked because by the next day we were usually off the hook Grounding for more then a day is just parental punishment, unless you need a maid in training.hahaha good luck.

Answer 2

Plane and simple, LIKE A CHILD. NOT A TEEN. They are getting close to teen years, but not there yet. My oldest is 10, yes the responsibility level goes up, I expect more out of my 10 year old, then my 7 year old, and she is also allowed a little more privileges. However just like my 7 year old, she is still part of our 3 strikes policy. 1=Warning, 2=Time out, Grounding (taking something away, appropriate for their age level), 3=Spanking. Yes I would spank a 12 year old if I have to, It's my hope that none of my 3 daughters will need spankings by 12, however that's clearly up to them.

Good Luck

Answer 3

It really depends on what he's done. I'm all for logical consequences, and they must be attached to what the action was. Lose your temper and hit someone? Go out in the snow and gather firewood. That'll cool you off. Make a mess and leave it for someone else? Then you get to do that person's chores for the day (or longer if you cop an attitude) Lie to me about something? I don't believe anything you say, not even if you say you're hungry ("Oh, I'm sorry. Since you told me that lie, I can't trust what you say. How do I know you're hungry? So no snack")

We try to treat our kids with respect, and they respect us in return. We really don't have many issues with any of them...those are the only ones I can think of.

Answer 4

It all depends on what they did. Simple punishments can be removal of privileges like Television and Phone. More severe punishments can be grounding to their bedroom (minus an tv, phone, computer and the like). It all really depends on what they did, even additional chores can be punishment. Also forfeiture of any allowance is standard.

Answer 5

Oh, Lordy, have you asked the Million Dollar Question! Now, a trip to one's room leaves most kids watching tv, talking on a cellphone, listening to cds, playing games - you name it, they have it. With my children and grand daughters as well, taking away their phone/tv/CDs was the biggest answer. Also, no visiting friends was a biggie. Look, listen, and learn what they like to do most and use that as leverage!

If all else fails, serve the English Peas, Broccoli, cabbage, brussels sprouts, and crowder peas! NO pizza, spaghetti, hamburger, hotdogs, or corndogs. Oh, my kids really bellowed at these!

Answer 6

well if my 12 year old ever done something to make me mad or got disrespectful with me i would ground them and tell them no tv no radio, and whenever they come home from school they have to do their homework right away. just like any good parent would do. and i will still show them the unconditional love and support they need and deserve,

Answer 7

Take away activities/things that are important to him or her. Tell them ahead of time "You know, if your room isn't clean by Friday, you're not going to the sleepover." then give them a few reminders throughout the week... and if the room isn't clean by Friday? NO SLEEPOVER. NO MATTER WHAT!

It's a process of letting them know the expected behavior and the consequences of misbehavior... and then following through.

Answer 8

No I-pod, Laptop, TV, for a specific amount of time... At 12, though, they usually can listen to you if you offer your help as a counselor regarding the misdeed... You can reward her/im for listening to you by listening to her/im.

Answer 9

You could send him/her to their room, or sit them on a chair facing the wall. My parents used to do that. With the chair facing the wall, I was not allowed to talk or get off the chair during the time facing the wall. If I did talk or get up, I would be sent back to the chair and given an even longer time (e.g. five more minutes).

Answer 10

My daughter is 10 and when we punish her....she gets no tv, no xbox, and no friends over....she HATES it!