I recently let a female friend of mine know that I was interested in her. Her response was less than desireable: "Sorry, but the feelings aren't returned. There's not really a reason for it. I'm just not attracted to you." Her actions, however, seem to go completely opposite of this. As time goes on, and we talk more and more, I believe she's getting a better idea of who I am and what I'm interested in. However, no matter what advance I make, she still maintains that she's not attracted to me. Is there any way that I can simply put this girl behind me and move on?
2007-02-18 07:45:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop seeing her..the more you have in contact with her the more those feelings will come up. She's already told you that she's not attracted to you. Move on and keep yourself busy doing other things. I understand that it is hard because you like this person, but if the feelings are not mutual you are just wasting you time! Don't let her reject you again. It makes you look desperate if you keep trying to make her like you. The chemistry is either there or it isn't. Thankfully, she was honest about it. Some women take advantage of men who they know are willing to do anything for them. Do yourself a favor and find someone else who is attracted to you and wants you. Go out with friends and family...you'll find someone! Good luck!
2007-02-18 08:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what I'm talking about here. Except the girl lead me on, she was/is my best friend. I know you're wondering, why I am still best friends with her? It is because I AM OVER her that I can continue being friends with her. I still think she's hot and such but ever since I stopped liking her in that way, she seems like she would go out with me. She even said one day out of nowhere, one day me and you should go out with each other, to which I replied maybe. Because lets be honest I don't have the same feelings I did. Anyways this may all seem irrelevant but it is not. This may happen to you. Just don't be a kiss up etc. I learnt that and it works. Anyways to get over her...simply try not to interact with her as much, it'll will take alot of time (in my case it did) but realise there ARE other girls out there, they will want you and you will get over her. I did and I am glad I am over her, our friendship is better now.
2007-02-18 15:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over her will be hard! But Ill tell you that the same thing happend to me recently, we had a heart to heart and he said he didn't feel the same, but he still wanted to hang out and talk so we did. After about two weeks he was feeling the same way! It dosen't allways work like that, but there is a good chance that it could. If it dosen't allways look at it as there is someone else out there for you! It may take a while to understand that, but God put someone out there for you! and on the brighter note, this might make your friendship even better and you could get together later down the line! I hope that helps!
2007-02-18 15:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by irishcountrygal07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you really need to just move on. if she is smart she will realize what she is missing.. and then you can decide if you still want to give her a second chance. don't keep chasing her if she keeps running.. because if she's simply just "not attracted to you" she sounds kindof shallow. because you sound like a really great guy... and i'm sure someone else out there Will be attracted to you, and you need to let this girl go before you can find her! this girl obviously isn't that great if she doesn't want YOU! good luck! :)
2007-02-18 15:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by coolio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just try to find another girl and/or move on. Either this girl seriously does not want to pursue anything with you, or she's just taking her slow time trying to figure out if there's something there. If you stop contact with her (online/via phone), and begin to start something new with someone else, one of two things will happen. She will either not care - which is good for you so you can move on and focus your brilliant attention on someone who truly cares for you. OR, she will come to her senses and stop wastin her time not doing anything with you. Good luck!
2007-02-18 15:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by YinxSphinxmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend has this same problem and i'm going to tell you what i told him; what you need to do to but your feeling for this girl behind you is to just be a true friend to her. make her feel like she can really talk to you about things. even if you want her to be your girlfriend just try and be great friends with her and from that something could happen.
2007-02-18 15:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by ♥LOVE♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a flirt. She wants to be your friend, but she doesn't want anything more. She'll exploit you liking her to get what she wants on occasions, or even just to be a tease because she knows she can be, but nothing will come of it relationship wise. I've known the type, you'd be better off moving on to better girls.
2007-02-18 15:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by Candle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is, an obvious way!
Stop talking to her/meeting her.
FInd urself someone who is attracted to u.
2007-02-18 15:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just hold it in and move on.just think of her as a friend
its better to be friends than nothing
2007-02-18 15:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by neil q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet a new one
2007-02-18 15:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋