I used to love this guy. A lot, as I’m now realizing. And he was in love with me. But I was only 18, and he didn’t want to be in a committed relationship, and I’m very flighty, so a man who I thought was much better swept me off my feet, and I cut off contact. Me and man number two, let’s call him Al, got married, and had a son. I talked to man number one, let’s call him Fred, about everything, and we decided to be friends, but it was never the same again, and we lost contact.
Long story short, Al, and I are getting divorced, due to his inability to stop cheating on me. And now I guess I’m looking back on my life and wondering where it all went stupid, and … well, I’ve been thinking about Fred a lot. And the beauty of the internet is it allows you to pseudo-stalk your former lovers. So I’ve been thinking about him even more.
My question is… should I contact Fred? I think he should know how I feel and I should see if there really is anything left between us. So what I’m really looking for is someone to give me permission to spill my guts, haha. But I also know that if I do contact him, I could end up getting humiliated and feel worse. And I am on the rebound…
Anyway, any ideas? Not knowing is killing me, but knowing could make me feel worse… Help?
2007-02-18 07:41:13 · 6 answers · asked by rkldwg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do think you should call him, but only after your divorce. If he is single and wants to start dating you don't want to bring the drama of you divorce to the new relationship. You also need to take time to know your self with out being connected to a man.
2007-02-18 07:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should contact fred and see how it goes becuz not knowing can drive u crazy...so just see where fred iz in his life and see if it can work or just start slow...i hope things work out
2007-02-18 07:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by pain&pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really love him then yes call him and don't be nervous cus he most likely likes u to so ask questions like do u have any dogs, what kind of dogs do u like\have,and then at the end of ur conversation ask him "do u what to go to the movies with me or do u what to go out". i need help to answer my question? PLEASE
2007-02-18 07:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by mo-mo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in touch as a friend. Don't expect anything big to happen and then see what happens.
2007-02-18 07:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need call him that's the only way to fix what ever your problem is.
2007-02-18 07:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by Pokahontaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way don't get messed up with him yet, he's not ready
2007-02-18 07:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋