The guy i'm seeing is very needy and i find it a total turn off. He constantly txts and calls me,and if i dont answer in 5mins he will send another txt,he accuses me of cheating if i dont see him often enough and sometimes he calls/txts early hours of the morning. I've told him to calm down and stop but he doesnt listen. Have you dated someone like this?what was they like?
2007-02-18 07:38:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No- I couldn't stand someone like that. It's manipulative. He's not doing it because he cares, he's doing it to manipulate and control you-- obviously, because when you ask him to stop, he ignores your wishes.
2007-02-18 07:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Usually when a guy is really needy, something has happened in his life that caused him to be that way. One he could have been cheated on for the reason that he calls/txt you all the time. Two he could really like you and cant stand to be away from you. Three, maybe someone has told him that if he really likes someone he has to show them tons of attention to keep them. Four, Maybe someone has told him that you are a type of person who can not commit and he is trying to get you to.
You should just talk to him about it. Tell him that if he wants to keep dating then he is going to have to stop with all of the calling and texting. You told him once that he doesn't have to worry about you, Now just give him a warning, if the warning does not help, then just tell him you want to be friends cause you can not stand what he is doing to you.
2007-02-18 15:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle_204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES....I just came out of a relationship with a girl who was like that. You're going to have to be very direct and tell him that all his "clingy-ness" is turning you off and pushing you away. Maybe he'll get the point.
The only other way is to give hime time to get used to you, but by that time you may be sick of him. The problem is that he is very into you (and calm the hell down), and since you're not showing as much interest in him as he is to you, he's pouring it on and his insecurity is wrecking the whole thing. I've been on both sides of this so it's tough for me to tell you exactly what to do, because the only thing that's going to make this guy happy is if you all of a sudden started playing the game his way, but if you're not feeling like that yet then there's just nothing for you to do except communicate to him exactly what you said in your question....Let him know that he'd better "BACK OFF a little or I'll back you off permanently."
2007-02-18 15:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by ExperienceD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needy individuals often end up becoming controlling nutcases in relationships (and your guy is already showing the signs). Trust your instincts (they're working for you!) and get away from this guy asap. And you should take precautions once you end the relationship. He's not going to let go until he can zone in on some other poor girl.
2007-02-18 15:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this guy does not have a job or anything else to do that will occupy his time. Perhaps you could introduce him to some friends who might be able to interest him is getting a life outside of text messages and early morning calls to you that interrupt your daily routine. Otherwise, tell him you are no longer interested in socializing with him and/or have your telephone number changed.
2007-02-18 15:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm dating one of those right now. She texts me like 30 times a day while we're both working. I just don't respond all the time, and she understands. I think it's cute that she's obsessed with me, though. Every once in a while, I just tell her that I need some time with friends or by myself for a day or two, and she's cool with that. It's just how some people are. Deal with it or break off the relationship.
2007-02-18 15:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by KC Slim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have, and your right it was a big turn off. He became obsessed with me. We lived about an hour and a half away and that still didn't stop him from breathing down my neck. I had to put a halt to it. Otherwise, I would of made mincemeat out of him verbally. Which I started to do. He finally got the picture and moved on. He needs to go, otherwise he will slowly start to drive you nuts.
2007-02-18 15:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! If he already accuses you of cheating run baby run! Jealousy only becomes worse with time. Have a serious talk with him and if he doesn't change, ditch him and find sb else who can make you truly happy. Love is about trust not control! And phoning in the early hours is just scary!!!
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2007-02-18 15:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Sophie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's immature, insecure, and controlling. If he don't change, or if you stay with him, it'll even get worse. I've seen guys time their wives coming home from work......even checking the mileage on their car. It's miserable to be with someone like that. Had a girlfriend like that once......and it didn't take me long to dump her. Think about this very carefully. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-18 15:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You remind me of something that happened to me when I was probably your age.
This guy was constantly calling me and coming to my work, unannouced at my house, and thought I was cheating. I dealt with it for 2 months until I had enough and had a guy call him and tell him to lay off because he was my boyfriend now! It worked. What a relief to get him off my back!
2007-02-18 15:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this person has a problem don't get to involved. guys like him can get to possessive and dangerous in the end. read tips on relationships to help you better on this site
2007-02-18 15:42:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋