over rape? any ideas besides talking about it, as its too hard to talk about.
2007-02-18 07:24:02 · 16 answers · asked by sasha 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Find someone who Loves you ASAP....and try and build a solid relationship... in time ..the hurt will hopefully be forgotten,,
2007-02-18 07:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I was molested when I was 14. It's really hard to get over it, I know. I'd get lots of visions in my head of the whole thing over and over again, and I had so much guilt and shame. I found it hard to trust, and when I did get into a relationship, he kissed me and I jumped and freaked out. But after two years I am almost completely over it now. In a way, I will always be scarred but it's no longe an open wound that hurts. Writing about it helps.. I know it's hard to talk about. But the more you talk about it , the faster you get over it. You can email me at blueyedblondej5@yahoo.com I'd love to help
Amanda
2007-02-18 16:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, I know it's hard to talk about, but it may really help, if you can talk to someone you really trust. other ideas include, getting rid all of the things that remind you directly, like the clothes you were wearing, etc.
The thing is, if you want to move on in a healthy way, finding a a way to get it out of your head is important. How about writing it down, write down how you feel, what happened etc. You can then choose to show someone you trust so they can help you without you having to talk or, you can choose not to show anyone and maybe do something symbolic like burn the paper you have written on, so you can say that those thoughts are gone?
2007-02-19 06:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by jop291106 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are starting to get over it now as you have made the decision to ask for help. It is truly astounding how many people have been raped these days and it is so unacceptible. So baby steps everyday. Start to do one thing each day that is positive for you such as remebering when you have helped someone and what it was like to feel wanted for you to be loved by someone for just being you and tell yourself each day how special you are and how no one has the right to belittle you or others like you...like the song says 'love can save the day...'
2007-02-18 16:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Zmithy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need to talk about it at some stage to get it out of your system otherwise you could bottle it up and it could ruin friendships and relationships. Talking to a complete stranger would be helpful or someone else who has been raped so you know that you are not alone and there are other people out there who are feeling exactly the same way as yourself.
2007-02-18 15:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
take things extremely slowly, from now on not another person will b trusted by the person that has bin raped. in fairness u will never 'get over' the fact that the rape took place, i myself was sexually abused wen i was younger by my oldest brother n since then i have truely never got over it, but i now face the fact that it has happened n iv moved on from it, it will always haunt me but i know i can still have a life even though the unfortunate event took place. its a scarey ordeal to handle on ur own so try not to take anger or insecurity out on other ppl, always b around ppl u know u can trust n soon ur confidence in other ppl will grow, its a long process but things always do get better within time, i hope this helps, take care n hope all is well, xx
2007-02-18 17:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by katluvsu4eva2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's something that will always stick with you. It is going to take sometime. It happened and there is nothing you can do about it now. If you do talk about it then it is best to talk to someone that has also been raped. Not trying to sound cheesy but you should make a chance to go to church every now and then.
2007-02-18 15:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by brennaboo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time is a great healer. Unfortunately the only way to get over it is to use counselling and confide in your friends. Your confidence has just taken a massive blow and you need to build this up gradually. Participating in things that you enjoy will helo keep your mind of this tragic event and you will gradually be able to move on. Good luck!
2007-02-18 15:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by Prince 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was raped by my ex husband in front of his mates you will never get over it this happened to me 10 years ago and it still haunts me im married again my husband loves me to peices and i feel the same but you must get help you need to speak to a rape counciler it will get easier
2007-02-18 22:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by zeuse 666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly talking to a counslor is probably going to be the best thing... I know it's hard, but they are going to understand that and not force you to talk about more than you want. facing things head on is the best way to confront it and that's true for any part of your life! :)
2007-02-18 15:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by still in love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was raped anout 4 years ago and i never told a soul only my boyfriend. i didnt want to talk about it and i still dont want to but it dont hurt me no more. im just angry that i cant gave the bastards head in now! i just keep in my head that the man was a prick and they arent all like that fortunatly. the world is full of fuckin weirdos and pricks and unfortunatly we was just unlucky enough to have bumped into one. x
2007-02-18 16:07:18 · answer #11 · answered by lipz20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋