me and my girlfriend of two years broke up. she mentioned another man but said they only talked for a bit then stopped talking. recently during the last 3-4 weeks we have been seeing each other as if we were together again. for valentines i got us a nice room with fireplace and jacuzzi on the balcony with rose pedals and the whole nine yards. the next day i was getting my things out of her car and found a necklace from the same guy with his number on the receipt. so i called him and had a chat with him. he says they have been sleeping together and she had basically had the same relationship as i had with her. she says after she told him she chose me he still would try to talk to her and was in love with her. and the only reason hes saying lies about sleeping with her is so i could get mad, never be with her and he can pursue her again. he did say a few things in our conversationg that i knew were not true, but should i believe her or him? she knows if she slept with him we could not be
2007-02-18 07:16:30 · 16 answers · asked by pitmonster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
shes not worth the pain you going through..if shes cheated once she'll do it again
2007-02-25 19:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When trust is broken, it is hard to trust again. You may not ever find out the truth. Did you two ever discuss this issue in detail? Sounds like most of what should have been discussed was swept under the carpet and you too went on as if nothing ever happened. That was the mistake right there. Just because you started back seeing each other does not dismiss the fact that she started another relationship with someone else. You openly took her back and believed her. I think it was more than what she is letting on.
2007-02-18 15:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by ~Secretrose~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up !! if she had done this b4 their is 50% chance she do it again. I would ask her.. tell her what the man had said about her. the way you can tell if shes lying if shes not looking at you eye to eye and is not staying still as in moving around lots.
hope it helps & good luck
2007-02-26 12:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by xcrazyx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now...you are on a he says...she says thing. and there is no way for you to really find out who is telling the truth unless the 3 of you sit down and really talk about it. but before going into this....ask yourself...if your girlfriend says one thing and the guy says another...would you believe your girlfriend? if yes...go fight for her. if not...go and find another.
or hire a private investigator. it may be a little costly but at least you get to the bottom of things & find the truth....remember...its the only thing that can truly set you free...the truth.
2007-02-18 15:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. She's lying to you at least in part. Why didn't she tell you about this other guy until AFTER she got caught?
You deserve someone faithful who you can trust. This girl sounds like neither of those things.
2007-02-18 15:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by CHBN 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
everybody deserves a second chance... seems you do love her since you did go the whole nine yards.. but you know what, what does your gut tell you then?? beats me, you deserve someone that you can really trust.. this is the most basic foundation for a profound relationship..
2007-02-18 16:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by yen yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel she has not been honest with you, She should have came clean, to you about him, sounds as if you may always have problems with her, about being honest. You need to have a talk with her, to see where her head is at. And then sit down an decide what you are going to do.
2007-02-18 16:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look homie its up to you how much you trust and love her regardless if shes been doing this other guy or not. if you love her you'll put your foot down and let her know she needs to stop and make her jump through a few hoops to prove she has. if you don't then get rid of her there alot of fish in the ocean. in my opinion it sounds like shes been sleeping with him dude. women are great lairs when they don't want to lose something...........good luck
2007-02-18 15:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by MIA DA BOTTOM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Solve this , show your g.f. the necklace and the reciept phone number etc. Tell her to be HONEST about just exactly their relationship was. Does she call him ? Does he call her? I think you will find your answers then. Good Luck
2007-02-18 15:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by lady_tiko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
step back from the situation, look at the whole picture. look at what each person is doing, if you don't know who to trust, then you need to step away from the situation to think things through.
2007-02-18 15:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by wendy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls point of view. . . she's lying to you. I know it might be hard to let go of someone that you've been with for so long, but in this case why would a guy go out of his way to lie to you and make up all of that when she doesn't like him anymore. I dunno seems a little fishyy
2007-02-18 15:30:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋