We had been going out for a while,when i decided me and my bf needed a break.We went on a break for two months,but really missed eachother so got back together.I felt so happy,and everything was going great four months on.He was always nice to me.But one night when i said i wanted to see my guy friend he phoned our friend to invite my guy friend out,just to stop him from seeing me.I got really upset and didnt go to see my bf bec ause i was meant to be seeing him also.The next day he was meant to be making it up to me,but instead he swore and shouted at me and my friend.He then cut himself with a penknife and showed our friend.When i talked to him,he told me and my friend how sorry he was,and said he was an idiot for cutting himself.He said he had been mad because i had got upset and not wanted to come out the night before =S He bought me a diamond necklace,and has kept apologising.I feel like everything has been ruined in two days.What do i do?
2007-02-18 07:09:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd be weary of a guy who yells at me, humiliates me in front of my friends, and cuts himself. Break up with him as gently as you can.
2007-02-18 07:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With guys, getting and keeping a girlfriend can become an obsession. Usually it is harmless and if the relationship doesn't work out, everyone does a little grieving and agonizing over their losses and begin to move on in a few days or weeks.
But some people get stuck in the infatuation phase. They create an imaginary wonderland that they will be in with the object of their desire, and before long, they are so invested in this dream that they can't bear to let go of it. So it's more about them and what's going on in their head than it is about you.
That said, you need to recognize when someone, anyone -- has poor personal boundaries. It is not ok for someone to attempt to control others just because they want something. That's just selfishness. Its not ok to mistreat anyone, verbally or otherwise either, no matter how upset you are. If you are with someone who is doing this regularly, you need to talk to them about their inappropriate behavior, and if they still cannot control their behavior, it would probably be best to break things off.
"Cutting" behavior is a sign of serious emotional difficulties, usually at home. It often indicates a deep fear or feeling of being helpless and not in control of one's life.
If you really like the guy for other reasons, perhaps you could ask him to talk to a counselor about why he can't control his behavior. If he is open to it, it may just change his life for the better.
2007-02-18 15:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by bearvarine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, it's not easy to hear. But just listen *or read, whatever* I was with a guy like that, cute, funny, sexy, smart, sweet. Until my guy friend from my childhood came to visit. Even though I invited my bf to come over because, you know, I wouldn't feel comfortable if a girl was visiting my bf without me, he refused and started calling my friends and saying i was cheating on him with this guy! Then he called me and said he was going to commit suicide. He turned all my friends against me and made up stories every time I did anything without him.
Listen, your bf is manipulative and controlling. If he abuses his own body when you upset him, just think what he'll do to you. And none of your friends will want to be around a nut like him, and you'lll be stupid *sorry* if you stay with him. He obviously thinks you are stupid enough to accept gifts as apologies and forget it when he is abusive behavior like that. get rid of him! You never know what he will do to YOU
2007-02-18 15:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by hell hath no fury 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would break up with him asap because that is to much drama to deal with and why would u wanna be with some1 that controls your every move just let him know how u feel and tell em u dont wanna be with him because if he cuts himself then it will lead to even more things by hurting you next
2007-02-18 15:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by LifesJourney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better be careful, your boyfriend does not sound too stable. May be it is time to move on. or just be friends with your boyfriend. I would just leave, it seems like too much drama with him, and he is too controlling!
2007-02-18 15:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try a little longer..if he cuts himself when ur still with him..think about what he can do next
2007-02-18 15:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by XXyeaaboiiiXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. If he is hurting himself imagine what he may do to you. good luck
2007-02-18 15:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he did that dump him or he'll start to control who you hang out with
2007-02-18 15:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by nightfallsid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should dump him. if i was with a guy who did that i'd call him PSYCHO. i hope this helps.
2007-02-18 15:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by army girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live and love and forget
2007-02-18 15:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by theonewiththequestions_13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋