He says he has been depressed for a very long time. He says he feels empty inside and like he is not good for anything. I have talked to him all morning, right now he is asleep. I have an appt for him to talk to our clergy tonite. What more should I do? He doesnt have insurance or much money...he is 21 years old. What programs are available to someone like him? What should I be doing in the mean time??
2007-02-18 07:05:33 · 16 answers · asked by terisa b 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you love your son take him to a hospital. There are state hospitals for psychological problems. You could also take him to ANY hospital. They CAN NOT refuse treatment because he has no insurance or money. If he can't afford the bills it will go on his credit. Most places (buying a car, renting an apartment, or buying a house) will not even LOOK at medical bills, good or bad, on a credit report.
Most importantly get him HELP IMMEDIATELY, or risk loosing him forever.
2007-02-18 08:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There should be a Community Mental Health Clinic in your area. Get him a doctors appointment and forget the clergy. Your son does not need someone to judge him right now. Take him to the hospital because if he tried to kill himsepf once he may try again when you are not awake to watch over him. I know that you may be in shock right now but you have to get him some medical professional help.
2007-02-18 07:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I'm sorry this has happened to your son and to you. I can't tell by your question, whether I'm speaking to the mother or the father, but I do know it takes a man to teach a young male how to be a man. He feels like a failure for a reason. That reason needs to come out, and he needs to see that he is not a failure. It may be something he needs to learn by being guided through a success of a goal that he can set and reach. He most likely needs a healthy life coach that can help him with financial, relationships,educational, spiritual, and physical health concerns. I also think it would help him if you watched a new DVD that's out called the "Secret". The investment is small compared to the benefits. I wish you the best and I am sending a prayer to our heavenly Father for you and your son right now. May you and your son be blessed and may this experience be used by God for good. Amen.
2007-02-18 07:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by babydoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have extremely bad depression. You might want to call the local hospitals around your area and ask if they have any programs. A hospital a couple miles away had a "coping with depression" program, and it really helped me out a lot. What are some of the things that he enjoys? Encourage those things. He needs to be seeing a counselor... also, is he on medication? I am on Zoloft, and if I don't take it, I go completely down hill! You can see a psyciatrist about medication. It will help him out a lot! Good luck with this.
2007-02-18 08:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, any people that I've known that have tried to commit suicide were people who weren't involved in anything. Try finding something that he'd like to get involved in. Exciting and interesting sports and activities such as horsebackriding, scuba-diving, surfing, maybe even photography, etc, can help him meet new people, and give him something to do in his free time... Just some suggestions. Obviously make sure he is safe before anything. Remind him of his accomplishments. I also have an idea, even though I feel stupid saying this, maybe get him a dog or something so that he has something that depends on him...but you have to be SURE that he WILL take care of it...that may not be a good idea though, so maybe not. I really hope this helps. Good luck!!
2007-02-18 07:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Oblivious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs help. call county services if you do not have insurance. it could be a chemical imbalance that needs to be addressed. Teens are 75% more likely to commit suicide when diagnosed this early in life so dont screw around. Clergy is ok but not the professional help your son needs. Talk to school counselors if you are unsure of your options for help, they will point you in the right direction. do not take this lightly, and do not wait.
2007-02-18 07:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder your son is depressed... I would be too if my parents were religious fanatics and wanted to take me to the "clergy" for help. I would suggest taking him to a therapist, because it's most likely a chemical inbalance in the brain. Certain anti-depressant drugs would probably help. Asking God for help most certainly will not. I only hope you and your son find the real truth, science, before it's too late!
2007-02-18 07:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by James 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is the answer,feeding him full of scripture right now would be a mistake but leading him to God is what will save him and give him purpose,he needs to know that the empty place he has now will disappear when he connects with God and that God is His best friend to talk to Him like his best friend he doesnt have to talk out loud let him know that God knows his heart and sees his hurting and justs wants to be his friend that he can talk to just between the two of them there is nothing that he could do that would cause God not to love him you must trust God and stand aside and let Him take over there is a void that must be filled that only God can do let him know how much you love him but you have turned it over to God and cant do anymore then let God handle it.................God Bless you both
2007-02-18 09:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call Health and Human Services in your area...there are counseling places that charge what you can afford...Call the local hospital and ask for places....the police dept. anyone that can help...Maybe talking to a stranger would be easier than talking to family at this time. It could be a mental condition, not only an emotional one, seek some help,,,,,for both of you
2007-02-18 07:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget clergy. Get him to a psychiatrist fast! This is a psychiatric emergency and he needs help from a doctor. This is beyond what you and the familiy can do for him.
Saves his life. Get him a qualified psychiatrist.
2007-02-18 07:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by marleyfu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋