Should I give up?

Question

We was together for 7 years..Since I was 17 and been living together going on 4 years..This wasn't a planned pregnancy but he was REALLY excited and I was the one depressed for awhile. He is from up north and I am from the south. We was supposed to move to Wyoming because his dad could get him a job making 4 more grand a month, we was struggling with bills. His dad called about a month ago and said the job would not be there for long, so he moved up there. I was going see him for 2 weeks so we could pick out a house..He calls me almost 2 weeks ago and breaks up with me..I don't know what is going on with him. He calls me everyday and I only answer every now and then. Last week he was like WE ARE OVER,move on. So, now I am acting like I am moving on and he calls and wants to talk forever, he askes about me all the time. I don't know if he is scared because of the baby..Do you think he will come back? Sorry so long

His dad ran out on his mom when she was pregnant and my father did the same thing. He said he wouldn't repeat the same pattern but he is..Should I let him know the door is open incase he is too ashamed to come back? I have been reading self help books because he says that I took him for granted and I think that I may have...He knows that I am trying to better myself for our relationship and because I do not want my baby to have negative influences.
I don't believe he is seeing another woman or girl, but you never know. He works 14 hours, 7 days a week with his dad and his step mom keeps me well informed. His days basically consist of work,eat,shower, sleep. You never can tell though.
We actually went up there in December to check out the whole job thing..and I didn't believe he could make that much and his dad showed me his pay stubs. We was having money issues because I was having a hard pregnancy and quit my job but still going to school full-time. He is being selfish.

Answer 1

The relationship may be over at the moment, but he obviously still cares for you and the baby otherwise he wouldn't call as often as he does and talk as long as he does. Obviously the distance doesn't help but you need to let him know that your child needs a father and you feel disappointed in him for abandoning you just as he promised he never would. This is and will continue to be a difficult situation especially once your child comes. Let him know you expect financial support for the baby and he will be allowed visitation. Hopefully he will see what he is missing out on and either invite you to come up there to live with him or he'll come back to you. You seem to be rather well adjusted for the sake of your child. If his calls bother you, tell him you have your own life now and you cannot afford the time to spend the whole day on the phone with him, he may realize what he is missing and apologize, if not continue to educate yourself for your sake as much as the baby's. Good Luck and Hopefully everything should work out like it should.

Answer 2

i would just let him know that you still love him and want him in your life......ask him why he broke up with you and if there is anything you can do to fix that......ask if you can work on the relationship if he says no just let him know you will only wait around for so long before you can finally move on as well......just keep in touch for your babies sake.....good luck

Answer 3

Move on. He's not worth it. You and your child don't need a lifetime of his inability to make a commitment and your child needs to know he or she is loved unconditionally. But see a lawyer and make sure you know your rights. Your child deserves child support. Make sure you get it.