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Question

Hey why cant i get a girlfriend?


My buddies go out to the club they pick up girls they get there phone number and toss them in the garbage like if it was nothing . yeah they can be a-holes like that i am a nice guy i dont really know what to say i am timid and sometimes i am shy around girl what should i say when i first see a girl and i dont know her and is it my looks thats keeping the girls away here is a pic of me and yeah i like to wear dress shirts i am a bit nerdy my friends say

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if the first one dosent work the second wesite will work

i am the black guy in the pic

Answer 1

Man, you're a handsome dude though!
Glad you're aware of some guys being a-holes with phone numbers too. That shows a certain sensitivity, which we females do like a lot.
Maybe you need to "push" yourself beyond your comfort zone a wee bit when approaching a girl. I don't mean being phoney, but being a bit more courageous in making eye contact, smiling a big toothy grin, (I bet you wear a nice cologne too) and find your own voice and an opening remark that's specifically for that girl. You can be a bit forward and do use laughter.
If you're the nerdy type, I'd try carrying a rubber chicken just for laughs. It doesn't hurt any to make a silly fool of oneself...it gets the laughter going and breaks the ice.
I just love rubber chickens myself. And I'm considered a nerd in my circles, too.

Answer 2

It's hard to say why anyone doesn't have a girlfriend or boyfriend. Sometimes it's looks, sometimes it's a personality thing, or sometimes it's just how your life is panning out right now. My advice to you:

1) Don't underestimate your qualities of being timid and shy - those can be endearing.
2) Don't overestimate your qualities either. Forcing yourself or being some showy, "all eyes on me" kinda guy is a turn off
3) Don't rush things. Don't make a relationship happen just because you want a girlfriend
and
4) God's timing is perfect. Not sure what your faith is, but I firmly believe that when we are alone, that is our opportunity to make ourselves better and prepare for the right person to come along. God isn't ignoring you and has forgotten about you. He's just getting everything in order with (and her) before your paths cross.

Best of luck to you! Your question is one that my single girlfriends and I ponder all the time!

Answer 3

Ok, well physically I don't see anything right away that is wrong with you, you don't look exceptionally nerdy. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places for girls. If you are a nice guy like you say, go to places that interest you and try to find someone there. Maybe go to a place where you would have to speak to someone, all else fails try doing speed dating, if only to help you learn to talk to women, not necessarily to get a date. Honestly go and let them know you're shy and not sure what to say, tell them a little about your interests and see if any fish bite. Good Luck and I'm sure you'll meet the right person when it's right for you.

Answer 4

no its not your looks, you are very nice looking :) Im kinda in the same situation, I know im not drop dead gorgeous, but Im not a donkey! and a lot of my girlfriends are out to use guys or just get them to buy them drinks, me I like to be the nice one that is everyones friend still after my girlfriend uses them. Anyways, people always see me as a friend and it pisses me off. I try as hard as I can with guys sometimes, and then I feel like just giving up.
I think in your situation is your shyness that the girls sont know how to take. Maybe they think you have a girlfriend or your a jerk cause you dont talk to them very much. I use to be really shy and some people told me that they didnt want to approach me because they thought I was *****. I guess I just gave off that vibe. . . .
I'm not sure why a girl wouldnt just approach you? You have very warm and friendly eyes and you just look like a very nice guy.
maybe you just havent found the right girl for you. you shouldnt have to change who you are, but to get out there and meet more people try and be a little more talkative, or when you see a girl that sparks your attention, try to get into a conversation with her, compliment her if you see something nice about her. Take the time to ask her how HER night is going.
Sorry im not like Dr Ruth or anything but If you ever wanna chat, maybe we can help each other out, lol I need advice to on some things :)

good luck

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Answer 5

You are attractive, so it's not your looks. I think that perhaps you're just an introvert. I mean that you're shy and you don't to play the stereotypical guy roles...as in using overrated "pick-up" lines.

If you want to talk approach a girl, the first thing you might want to do is smile at her...give a little eye contact and this will let her know that you're interested. If she smiles back like she's interested then you just need to walk up and introduce yourself...and just see where it goes from there.

Good Luck.

Answer 6

You are a handsom guy but you look like you have more class then someone who would go to a club and try and pick up numbers. I think you will end up being happier and having a better realationship then the guys who you hang out with will.

Answer 7

I'm guessing you're the white guy cuz the black guy looks confident. That's what you need. Confidence! You have to act like you know you're hot and the girls will flock to you. Why not take pointers from your friends? It's sad, but the a-holes usually get the women.

Answer 8

there is nothing wrong with you appearance-wise. you are a very attractive guy.

clubs... tehehe... that is where the girls you don't want go to get quickly laid....

try smiling with your teeth showing... unless they are SUPER crooked... because smile is a big thing...

also, just be yourself. relax... and don't try so hard! really! what the girls like is the guys who "act" like their hearts aren't pounding out of their chests with nerves. pretend you are calm and pretty soon you will be! i can't explain it any better than that. you probably won't pick up girls at the clubs because you aren't that kind of guy and it is not your scene. so, try asking a few random girls out. ones that you think are cute, but won't embarrass you too much if you get turned down. you just have to learn how to do it. confidence comes with experience. but you don't want to turn into *** holes like your friends!

Answer 9

You need to project confidence. My friends have said "I make shooting guys down an art". Of course I don't think that!! The guys I like project confidence and persistence. Just consider them practice, and keep trying. It's not your looks your very handsome.

Answer 10

your really really cute. just try to pretend you have no insecurities when you ask a girl out. we like guys with confidence. try this just walk up to a girl with your shoulders back and your chin up but not in a cocky way. then look at her eyes nowhere else and just say can i meet you for a coffee sometime. improvise the coffee maybe a movie a soda or a walk but then it would be would you like to take a walk with me. and dont worry if they refuse at first its all practice. good luck