I thought that dating was kind of practice for marriage. I also believe that I can do anything in the Lord and I have made a lot of mistakes in our relationship, but I am willing to let God guide my life from now on. He doesn't want to continue and I'm hurt because I do. He also believes in God and I know that it could work but I guess I've messed up too much...I would appreciate any serious advice because I need it.
2007-02-18 06:40:45 · 9 answers · asked by megan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he sang it..."breakin up is hard to do".
2007-02-18 06:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea of dating is to get to know what could be your future wife or husband. There are no contracts in dating. It could work or it couldn't. That is all it is. You should try to know the person and see if there is a connection.
If the guy doesn't want to continue then it is tough. Its hard and sad but thats the way it is. Believe me, you cannot force anybody to love you end of story no questions ask. That is the way it is. Religion has nothing to do with this. A person either loves you or they don't. Trying to force someone to stay in a relationship is a selfish act. Look at from the other his side. Would you like to be forced to be with someone you don't love? NO!, This can only lead to unhappiness for both persons. One will be unhappy because he/she is living a lie and is force to do something she/ he doesn't like. The other person will be unhappy because no matter how much that person loves the other that love will never be reciprocated.
As you mention, he believes in God but, the same can be said about many other people. What you should mean to say is that God plays an important part in your life and you would like to be with a person that share those same belief. This is very reasonable. However, being with a person for this single reason alone is definelly not going to lead you to happiness. If this where true then you might as well go out with any other boy in your church who are also believers.
2007-02-18 14:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what god says about breaking up... but breaking up with boyfriends/girlfriends is just a part of life. You can't marry everyone. Dating, to me, is just a way of learning what you want from a partner until you find a perfect match. You can't make someone love you either. If he is ready to move on it's probably the best thing for both of you to just let him go. You're going to meet more people. Everyone does. It hurts at the moment but one day your going to be with someone you love and loves you back and are going to look back on this and be glad he broke up with you because you never would have met the person you have now... ;-) Good luck sweetie. Hey, pray about it too. Maybe he will give you some peace with this.
2007-02-18 14:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by K.A. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now you see why in biblical times pretty much if you were 'dating' or 'engaged' you were as well married. It is not like that now - women and men have to be very independent and find mates and are allowed to change there minds especially before marriage. If you bf changed his mind for whatever reason you two will never have a happy marriage even if you win him back. Let it go, deal with the pain and keep busy.
2007-02-18 14:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Beverly (Bea) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont Know what God thinks about it but. I think sometimes if you make the right choice he supports it. If you make the wrong choice he lets you know. For example, I broke up with a girl that I had known for a while and everything was going great, however I got the felling she was cheating on me and when I asked her if she could replace me with anyone she kind of stopped and looked around. Later after I broke up with her cause I got the felling she was cheating on me. I found out that she wasnt. Know she hates my guts cause I got suspicious and dumpped her for no reason.
Know I feel horribleand iind of want to get get back togethher and apologize, but everytime I call she hangs up.
I think that it is sort of God saying that I made the wrong choice, and I dont deserve to get her back.
2007-02-18 14:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to show him that you have changed your life around and you will do your best to live for God
2007-02-18 14:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by courtney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking up up is one is the part of life. marriage though is no divorce . god doesn't like divorce .the only reason u should divorce is if one commits adultery
2007-02-18 14:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray... God answers our prays one way or another. Believe me when I say it's not always what we want it's what he wants for us
2007-02-18 14:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does god say about breaking up?
He doesn't.
It's called free will.
Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you??
2007-02-18 14:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋