I care about him a lot and I've known for sometime now that he likes me too. I don't want to come off as if I'm buying him, how I want to do so much for him. I can afford it all. Help me out here!!!
2007-02-18 06:36:25 · 11 answers · asked by qtediva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Save your money and give it to me instead! Lol
I think that you are going the wrong way about this because deep down inside you want him to be with you so bad that you want to complete him. He wouldn't want that if he is a man he would feel like less than a man to have a woman taking care of all finances. I think that you should chill out. Buy him stuff and have fun doing it give him presents everyday if you want but don't tell him that you want to take care of everything even finances.
There also is another way of this how would you know if he genuinely likes you or all the things that you do for him?
Do things the natural way and just buy him stuff but this would only result in a bad way if you tell the guy that you want to take all responsibility for his finances.
So take my stupid advice if you want to have a comfortable relationship and avoid a bad and uncomfortable situation for him and yourself by asking him to just let you spoon feed him everything he needs in life men love feeling independent as much as possible so please don't try taking away the only thing they take pride in which is wearing the pants in the relationship.
2007-02-18 06:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy has any pride or backbone the situation would never exist. How about lowering your standards a bit and allowing him to take care of you. Or at least meeting somewhere in the middle. Your deep pockets can always be used on a rainy day. The more you at least let him have the appearance of being the bread winner the happier the relationship will be. Don't twist the rolls around cause you don't want a man that sits around and watches Oprah all day. And take notes from Britney and K-Fed would you really want to be in her shoes now.
2007-02-18 14:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by ARM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't agree with you. A relationship is suppose to be 50/50. If you're dead set on having this type of relationship, tell him that you'll pay for things but he needs to pull his weight too. Maybe do more chores than you. And when he does have some money, he can buy you things too. You really don't want him to become completely dependent on you because then you'll feel more like his mother than a lover. And that's not healthy.
2007-02-18 14:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please be very carefull.
If you are OK financially because you are a responsible person (and not because you won the lottery) than chances are in the long run you will try and turn him into a financially responsible person too. ..Unless of course you are a perfect succer. If he is a manipulator, you will loose everything you have.
If you're looking for something else (like sex) than take what he has to give you but don't pay for it.
2007-02-18 14:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by l r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. Let him take care of himself. If you do it for him, he wont learn, and he does need to. BUT, I do think that if he's struggling through a temporary difficult phase, it's okay to help occasionally if you both are on the same level and trust each other. But by taking care of him, you make it too easy for him and you run the risk of his losing respect for you and taking you for granted. Plus, you may lose your sense as to where to draw the line financially. He'll be okay. Watch and see.
2007-02-18 14:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if he considers him self a man then you should'nt have to care of him.. besides maybe you should focus on ur self then skip around for others... it's okay to feel the way you do, sometimes helping others makes you feel great and that could be the reason y u do what you do!!! just remember do what comes from the heart cuz their the reallest feeling ever, and can not be ignored....... :} U can buy feelings but not love!!!!!
2007-02-18 14:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by lookingdabest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds as if you want to give someone a bribe to be with you, if you have to do that, you may never find love, because everyone, will only be with you for the money! Have more pride and faith in yourself.
2007-02-18 14:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dedicate the song Upgrade U from Beyonce' to him he'll get the point.
2007-02-18 14:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by annitra25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and spend it on me, he'll never luv you like I will and besides he's been cheating on you!!!
Just kidding.
Let him know that you like him and want to spend on him because it's how you show affection (one way anyways) and that you are not trying to buy his love. Because honestly, you can buy sex, but you can't buy love and so therefore you ain't trying to.
2007-02-18 14:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way im old school.... He can financially take care of me ,,, I will take care of him in other ways
2007-02-18 14:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋