This is wrong isn't it?

Question

My ex husbands and his new wife just had babies. Today is one of my childrens birthdays so my ex and his wife are coming with the babies to the party. I have a puppy who is everything to me [besides my children. They come first] he always needs to be near me and one of the babies is affraid of dogs so the wife is making me take the dog somewhere else for the babies. I found someone to baby sit my dog but I am worried she will lose him. [he is very wild] Isn't it wrong that she is making the dog leave JUST for one of the babies?

Just remember it's a baby, and he is affraid of everything including piano, wind, banging and well DOGS

Answer 1

I think this has very little to do with the babies and more to do with a new wife wanting to control a situation and make a big deal about her new children at her step-daughter's party. Confine the dog for the time of the party if the dog will be jumping all over the kids. She isn't making the dog leave, you are letting her tell you what to do. you would now what she is like more than anyone here so if you think she is just being a pain in the ****, put your foot down. You should be able to confine the dog in a bedroom for the day. I have had no problems with kids, it is annoying parents that make me speak up.

Answer 2

While you should be appropriately concerned about guests in your home, your dog is a member of your family and it is his home too. Not everyone understands this. I know a few people that I'd love to lock up in another room for the comfort of my other guests because they are much more annoying than my dogs! But seriously, you can't let your dog go crazy and if he is at all aggressive toward the baby (or anyone) then he should be contained somewhere during the party. However, if (other than normal excitement over the presence of extra people around) he is generally well-behaved and you are able to watch over him to prevent jumping on people or whatever his bad habits may be, then you should let the dog stay. It doesn't hurt to point out that the dog means more to you than the particular guest - if you really loved the person you would probably not feel so bad about putting the dog somewhere else. It's fair to have those feelings. Not all people come before the dog! You should just tell her and/or your ex that while you would like them to attend with their children, coming to your house means accepting the dog and if they need to find a babysitter or decline the invitation all together that is their choice. It's not like you purposefully got the dog to make them uncomfortable and keep them away. Mark your territory!

Answer 3

It is your house. The new wife knows there is a puppy and that her child is afraid. There has to be some exposure for the baby and the puppy. Shielding them both is probably not the best thing to do. If something can't be worked out, then maybe she should get a babysitter and then they could have a birthday party later on for the child at their house, so the other siblings can enjoy it.
I hope that helps. Good Luck

Answer 4

I think it is wrong for you to send your wild pet with some one who may not be responsible enough to handle the the pet. Also, I would think that it is safety first for the babies, since they are coming to your house for the party. Maybe you should think of investing in a little cage to contain the pet while the party is going on. Or you could send the pet to a boarding kennel for that day, or a few hours until the babies leave. It is so easy to find fault, but the best person is one who is not selfish, and can see beyond

Answer 5

I think your puppy needs to get some training, because just based on what you've posted here, you're not doing your pup any favors. He's "very wild" and "always needs to be near" you. Those to me spell trouble in the long run.

That being said, there's no reason why the pup couldn't be crated or put into a bedroom or something while the party is going on (and that would likely be better for the pup anyway, if he's so scared of everything and unpredictable), so you wouldn't have to take the pup somewhere else.

Answer 6

You are forgetting one thing here. You child that is having the birthday party. This is her day and I would think I would do anything to have her mommy and daddy in the same room to celebrate her birthday. We are talking one day not every day and a very special day at that. I can understand what you are saying though, but it isn't for you it is for your child birthday.

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If this was an normal visit or anything else other then their daughter birthday I would tell the ex to **(**&&^^&^%% but we are talking about a little girl birthday party. I wouldn't take the dog out side the house but i would put it in a bedroom or away from the kids until the party is over. This is a little girl birthday, why make an issue about this. Plus with all the kids around it may make the dog a little nervouse. so it may be just as good for the dog to. Kida have a hard enough time over a divorce. They can handle it as long as you can. Just something I had to say here.

Answer 7

You put the dog in a back bedroom and don't let the kids in. As long as the baby is not exposed to the dog thats the most important thing.

BABIES - come before pets! Pets come after the child.
I have a small dog and love the dog as much as I do children - however - even though my dog would never intentionally hurt a child, if a child is terrified of dogs I would keep her put up.

The exhusband's wife has no right to make you removed the puppy from the house as long as the puppy is put up. That is totally insane for this woman to dictate to you how to run your business.

If she don't like the arrangement of your putting the puppy in a separate room - then she can stay home. Its not complicated. This woman is not doing her baby any favors by keep the child away from dogs, but insuring the fear will remain for a long time.

She really needs to get a really mild tame puppy for her children and expose the baby to it it small steps. Eventually the child will get over the fear. Fear can cause a dog to go aggressive depending on the breed of dog and its temperament.

Answer 8

No! this is not right or fair to you or your dog!You should not have to send the dog away for one child who is in no way related to you!But im sure you do not want to ruin the party for your child,so its a tuff desicion,but im sure she does not ask her FRIENDS to get rid of thier dogs before she comes over so i dont see why you should!It is your house,Your child and Your dog,What else does she want?A wind blocker,for you to through away all your plates, or for you not to get your your child a baloon just so HER babie isnt scared?As long as the dog is not trying to attac the babie,she should let it rest,and even at the most ask you to put him on a leash!Your pupy's {whom is very important to you} Saftyness should come before her!But its your desicion-i could understand it if the child was allergic but come on!And anyways this shpuld be about your child not thiers!I hope thhis helps-and for your child,try not to let it bother you too much!Good luck!

Answer 9

Congratualtions on keeping a healthy open relationship with your ex and his family! The house is yours and the dog should remain. Of course putting the dog up is just curtious. This way the dog is nearby for you, and the scared child can see it but not be harmed by it in any way and hopefully eventually grow to respect it, and it will keep your pup out of harms way too, from poking, pulling, exicted children and foods that he shouldn't have anyway!

Answer 10

Well, people should come before pets. Although it is YOUR home and you should do as you wish, don't turn this into a big control issue.
I think it would be classy and gracious of you to put the dog somewhere ( locked in your bedroom, laundry room, outside on the patio, etc ) so he cannot actively jump on the kids but you can still monitor him. ( New toys and a couple of new "chewie bones" go along way to distract dogs for a few hours ) I would bring the dog a new little toy every half hour or so when you check on him. Offer to teach the little one not to be so afraid of dogs, but don't push it.

Have class but don't bend over backwards and do something you might regret ( and then be resentful about ) later.