i like love this guy who has been my friend 4 ever and he said that he didnt want to date me becuase he didnt want to ruin our friendship. i dont get it! he says he likes me alot to ! but he doesnt want to date ! its confusing! please somone give me an explanation to why he is doing this. thank you !
2007-02-18 06:06:25 · 17 answers · asked by Chelsea Rae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you're younger (which it sounds like it) just give it time. he'll come around. continue being his really GREAT best friend... if it's meant to be, he'll fall in love w/ you and you guys will be able to get together :0) but i know it's hard, especially when you've got a crush :0) keep your head up!
2007-02-18 06:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by who cares! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He values your friendship. He is afraid if you two take it to the next level and it does not workout. He will loose you forever. Even though people say I still want to be you friend after a break up. It may take years to get back to the point of friendship if ever. So he is just being careful that's all
2007-02-18 14:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clarity - "he likes [you] a lot," means that he likes your ways, who you are, but he is not attracted to you as a girl-friend. Since he is not attracted to you as a girl-friend, he does not want to ruin the relationship by attempting to have a sexual relationship with you -- it's better to have you in his life as his friend, than not having you at all.
I've been there and the guy was not truthful -- it's not a good thing. Find yourself someone else -- it will be worth it.
2007-02-18 14:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by Faerie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes being honest with you i guess its like knowing a boy in your school, or street that you grew up with and knew everything about,,, you just dont see them that way, i would just stay friends with him why would you want to ruin a friendship after all good mates are hard to come by,,, happy searching
2007-02-18 14:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by tinkstaffy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the exact reason he said he doesn't, he values your friendship and if you two were to end up in a relationship and it didn't work out, then he would probably feel very uncomfortable being your friend afterwards. -Most people miss out on the best relationships for of fear of losing a friendship.
2007-02-18 14:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by trusted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well alot of times when close friends date it does ruin the friendship..i think that your guys' friendship means a whole lot to him and he would rather have you as a friend than end up being nothing..i would take that as a complement that he said that
2007-02-18 14:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by BLEHH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a good friend. He has made it clear that he doesn't want a relationship with you. He is telling you he likes you alot because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Don't push it any further or you might lose him as a friend. You probably are not seeing this clearly because in your mind you want more. But he is clear. Don't waste your time! You'll find someone. Good luck
2007-02-18 14:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by mora fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with the fact that he is ur friend and he cares about u. He doesnt want to date becase hes worried that if things dont work that u and him wont be friends anymore and that would hurt worse than having ur heart broken
2007-02-18 14:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by boevek02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He truly values your friendship. He is right when he says he doesn't want to ruin it. Going further than friends has been known to ruin many good friendships.
2007-02-18 14:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thinks that things aren't going to work out as boyfriend and girlfriend, and because of that you are gonna end up enemies instead of friends. so, to be on the safe side he doesn't wanna ruin your friendship because of a romantic relationship.
2007-02-18 14:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by A Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋