My 13 year old daughter has been looking at inappropriate things online etc. male's parts, people doing "it", and people taking off their clothes what should i do?
2007-02-18 05:58:43 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't let her get on the computer anymore.
2007-02-18 06:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, she's a teenage girl and probably curious about "IT." have you had "the talk" with her yet? this is normal i'd think and maybe considered inappropriate but i'd think it was not harmful unless she was looking all the time or at really graphic stuff-perhaps she doesn't know what a grown body looks like or what's "done" with it. talk to her. kids are getting too intimate too fast nowadays because it's what everybody else is doing-let her know what happens after two people take off those clothes! going to a nursery or hospital can really make it clear....watching someone give birth is even better. teens are going through a rough time though and if you haven't talked, you should. if you have already, then talk some more! find out why she's so interested in that stuff.
2007-02-18 14:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by green eyed sole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a teen and is no longer in the age of innocence; she is also beginning puberty and is obviously interested in boys. Plus, she's likely getting information from her school-aged friends.
The problem is this, if you take away the computer, not only do you mystify the content she was looking at, but she can always look up the same stuff on a friend's computer (which is where she probably first saw the pornographic material in the first place). If I were you, I would set up parental controls.
Furthermore, as a parent, you cannot allow her to get her information about sex from her friends and from Google. You need to have a well thought out conversation with her about how her interest is completely normal, sex, and relationships before she begins to experiment based on the information that she has gleaned from her internet research. Good luck!
2007-02-18 14:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by wendy_the_pyro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First beat her ***, then sit her down and tell her about the birds and the bees, let her know that that stuff is inappropiate. Then you put a parental block on the computers in the house and on your t.v.'s. Check her room at least twice a week for any magazines or movies if you find some take them out of her room. When she goes to find them and doesnt she'll know it's you and that will be embarrassment all by itself. And unless she's bold she's not going to ask you if you've seen her things. You need to nipp this stuff in the butt before it gets too serious. You dont want your 13yr old to have kids at an early age like these other 13 and 14yr olds in this generation!
2007-02-18 16:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by keisha B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could limit when the child is to be on the internet. Make sure to set rules for usage, including what is appropriate, and inappropriate. You could monitor you childs internet usage, i.e. put the computer in the family room. The more people that are around her the less likely she is to be looking at this stuff. Also you should sit down with her and do the birds and the bees talk, and find out why she's looking at this stuff.
2007-02-18 14:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by James S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say have the S-E-X conversation with her, she is clearly already interested (if you haven't already)... I would also talk to her about masturbation... I know this sounds stupid but whether or not your religion allows for this kind of thing... Add some "casual" safe sex practices (condoms since they protect against most STDS)...
My true story is I was already into third bases (at 13), ad If I would have had a parent to explain details... maybe I would not have been 17 and pregnant.
There have been many kids I have known started having sex in school at age 12+, I have heard of kids getting pregnant as early as ten.
I did not start searching for porn until I was already "doing it." So have a advanced conversation............ Definitely do not freak on her... It will make her not want to talk to you because you will punish her. I would know my father freaked on me and I just did it more, and more carelessly behind his back (mom was not in the picture).
2007-02-18 14:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by marymouse26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How bout be a parent and monitor your child's on line activities!!! Ya know if you don't have the time to control what your child is doing there is always the power cord that comes unattached and can be carried with you til you are able to properly supervise your child.. To me this is a silly question and simply one that shows lack of parenting ability! Sorry but the answer is quite simple.. control your child and stop looking for answers and ways to simplify your own life. Be a parent!
2007-02-18 14:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every grrl I have ever known wanted to know EVERYTHING there is to know about sex, especially a 13yo. Usually they are too shy to ask. If she has not discussed this with you, something went wrong in ur relationship with her a long time ago and it might be too late to correct it. She is probably using these images to form fantasies she uses during masterbation.
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One thing I have found unusual is these young teens cannot distinguish between what real sex is like and the exagerrated dramatizations you see in porn.
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Okay, my recommendation is that you tell your daughter she needs to discuss with you any porn she is looking at because as the parent you need to know how she feels about what she is looking at. You also have to find out how she imagines sexual activity fitting into her life.
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Good luck - u r going to need it because some grrls really are cross-eyed crazy horny.
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2007-02-18 14:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by glen_loves_fun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is just curios. have you given her the "talk" yet? if not i think now is the time. if you have then just explain to her that that is adult content and she shouldn't be looking at that....and make sure to let her now if she has any questions she can come to you....and that you would rather her ask about sex rather then look it up online. i would also have restrictions with the computer if its in a closed room i would move it out to where anyone could see it when they walked by also i wouldn't allow her on unless there is an adult in the house.......good luck
2007-02-18 14:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by first time mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Block the website with parental control and make sure you talk to her about the birds and the bees soon. She maybe being influenced by others at school. Give her the sex talk, the whole 9 yards tell her about pregnancy and STD's. Good luck and hope things work out.
2007-02-18 14:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her get on the computer anymore or sit down with her and talk about like who told you about this where did you get this information at..tell her you 2 young for all that stuff you have 2 wait when you older hope full these ideas can help you out
2007-02-18 14:08:41 · answer #11 · answered by kike070 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋