Im NOT happy in this relationship and i have talked about it sooo many times and nothing changes so im have serious thoughts about ending it! Been with my boyfriend for 6 months and it was great for the 1st month or so, he would send me cute little texts and always ask when he would see me again, we have had some problems and sorted them out but to be honest when he goes back home his a different person, its like he does not want to know me. Im very polite towards him, show respect, and also very thoughtful, i say nice things and try to flirt with him but he has none of it, im not needy or over the top, but i miss our chats on the phone and the odd soppy text message, im not asking for him 24/7 but he never makes me feel special anymore and makes me feel like i cant text or call him as often as i want incase he thinks im being a pest as it seems now his going on about his future and golf and im just being a pest, we dont really have sex anymore, and he never seems to want to.
2007-02-18 05:51:51 · 28 answers · asked by ice_castles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so last night i decided to cook him a meal at my house and wear some sexy underwear, he did not even lift his head and that made me feel so low! i just want a man who can appreciate the few nice things i do, i want a man who can give me a nice compliment or maybe cook me a meal now and then, make me feel a little special, after all i am his girlfriend, im not asking for soppy romance 24/7 but his changed and i feel like im doing all the work. i think if i dump him i will get relief but then again ill miss him, its a no win situation, i cant talk to him cos he says im starting a fight, or his sick of these chats, and i dont wanna have to tell him to do a nice thing for me once in a while, i want him to do it without me telling him, like he used to do for me. if i do end it i know he wont take me serious.
2007-02-18 05:55:33 · update #1
Two points:
1) Americans too often run out of relationships when it isn't their vision of what a perfect relationship is. All relationships have great times, dull times, and hard times. Americans expect relationships to be wonderful all of the time which will never happen.
2) If you decide to dump him, in the future, get to know someone prior to committing yourself to him. Take your time in doing so and the relationship will be far more rewarding as your expectations are in line with what your "getting to know" phase reveals about that person.
If I fired my brother or sister every time they got on my last nerve, I'd be an orphan.
I hope this helps...
2007-02-18 05:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Chi Guy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two things that I read that makes me say YES dump him. Your very first lines says that you are not happy. That is reason enough to dump him. Why stay in a relationship if you are not happy being in it. And the second thing you say that he is not really interested in having sex. Well every guy is interested in having sex and if he is not getting it from you he is getting it somewhere else. It really does sond as if he is cheating on you so I would be a bit cautious. If he was really into having sex with you before and it has dwindled down to hardly ever then I really think that he has himself a piece on the side. Get out now!!!!
2007-02-18 05:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by JDUB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the romance is over,in the beginning of a relationship,most people do all the cute little things with each other,because your just getting to know each other and you want them to know that you care for them.But if he is becoming distance towards you,and doesn't find the time to be with you,then maybe you should rethink your relationship with him and move on,try talking to him about how you feel and if his reaction is less than interested then you'll know what to do.
2007-02-18 05:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have sex anymore with him? He never seems to want to? Are you kidding me? A guy? That should be your smoking gun right there. If he is not wanting sex from you then he is getting it somewhere else because guys are crazy about sex!
Not to assume too much ,but I would suspect another women in his life. He is starting to act different to you that is another sign maybe he is not infactuated with you anymore and there is someone else now in his life.
Be strong! Be upfront! Ask him why his feelings toward you have changed. Ask him if there is another women. Ask him why he never wants sex anymore. Don't be afraid to hear the answer you already suspect. If you feel he doesn't love you anymore, tell him that!
Don't be afraid to break it off, but I would confront him first and make demands. If he can't meet your demands you are going to leave him. If he cares about you he will try to meet your demands.
2007-02-18 06:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask yourself why you're still with him then it's time to dump him. There is nothing we can do, and you can't change the way he feels toward you. It is best just to let him do what he will, and you what you will. I honstly think you should leave him and look for another boyfriend. I'm sorry about you're relationhip, but that is what I honestly think.
Live long and Prosperous
Akiidoka H
2007-02-18 05:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm sounds like there is something more to the situation, has he met someone else to fill his needs? id get to the bottom of the situation and have a serious talk about taking some time apart.
2007-02-18 05:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and get on with your life and if he does happen to send you any sloppy text send them back and say you need someone who is true to themselves not some wishy washy little boy like he seems to be
2007-02-18 05:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is more than "cute little text messages".
Find someone who can be there for you emotionally as well. Don't wait around for someone who plays mind games.
2007-02-18 05:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do not need a man that is going to make you feel bad about yourself, if he doesn't show any interest in you or what you do then i would say dump him and move on no person deserves to be treated that way ,
2007-02-18 05:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by want to know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a guy, I can say just dump him he'll get over it if you're telling the truth.
2007-02-18 05:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋