I like this girl, and she likes me.
but she doesn't know what she wants.
she doesnt think our relationship would work out if we were boyfriend and girlfriend.
we have hung out before, kissed, hugged, cuddled, etc.
but when i talk to her about what she wants, she says she doesnt wanna be friends who just do the couple thing without being in a relationship. but she doesnt know if she wants a relationship.
i told her to take her time and that i would wait around for her.
but she said she doesnt want to waste my time...
i told her to take her time and she just says 'i dont know'
=/
i don't wanna give up cause i know we have something....
she said she likes me and that we click.
im scared to play the field because i really like this girl and dont want to lose her.
and i like the way things are between us.
2007-02-18 05:14:27 · 14 answers · asked by kidD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
should i just meet new people?
she said she has a gut feeling that things wont work out and the always follows her first feeling.
2007-02-18 05:16:06 · update #1
ended her last relationship in november of 2006
2007-02-18 05:25:01 · update #2
IT WOULD BE VERY HARD FOR ME TO BE JUST FRIENDS WITH HER, BECAUSE I WOULD STILL LIKE HER.
I DON'T WANT TO SEVER ALL TIES BECAUSE SHES AN AMAZING PERSON.
2007-02-18 05:31:04 · update #3
Sorry pal, but she just ain't that into you.
2007-02-18 05:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you really would like this to work between the two of you.You have strong feeling for her. I also can tell that she needs More than just some time. You both need to move on as far as romantically. You will both most likely remain good friends, but she is not ready now or maybe ever to be more than that with you. Each relationship we have either as friend or more, takes us to an even higher level the next time. Keep looking because when you do find that special someone - she's going to feel the same way about you. You seem to have alot to offer a very lucky lady. Best of luck Nanc
2007-02-18 05:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by nanc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation happen to me a few months ago...but I had the same thoughts as your friend does. My relationship went down in a ball of flames with the high-action explosion at the end. Hopefully the same will not happen to you.
Don't pressure her into anything she isn't comfortable to do. That could end badly.
She'l come around when she's ready, and only then will thigns work. I think she feels the same way that you do: you are both afraid to lose her, and both like the way things are. I would suggest to keep things the way they are now, and once she is ready, start from there.
Good luck!
2007-02-18 05:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your devotion is noble but that's about it. She doesn't know what she wants or what she has. She has some really serious self-esteem issues which lovers tend to be real good at addressing . She won't let you go that way. I think she will come around to you, but not anytime soon. But you are conflicted as well--you like the way things are between you two? I don't think so and she says doesn't want you waste your time with her.
I fear for you that she will meet someone who courts and sparks for her and there is nothing you can do about it. So much for waiting around. She will offer you her friendship but not her love that you want from her. In doing so, she will break your heart.
2007-02-18 05:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's surprising to find a guy that sounds as nice as you are. I think she's evaluating if you are bf material, have you found out if she just ended a relationship?
My advise? get to know other people and it will lead you to two things: whether she will decide for you or let you go... or you will realize you just had a crush on her.
If she ended a recent relationship, you could wait, but if you start idealizing her, you could end up hurt with something that was never there.
I think she's being honest enough with you... but you cant wait forever neither.
As for now, what both feel is physical atraction, but from that to clicking emotionally, you guys need time.
2007-02-18 05:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly..
It seems as if she is not interested. She may like you.. but obviously she does not want a relationship. Keep in touch as friends, and if her feelings change and your both single.. you can see where things go. But cut out the kissing and cuddling, for that will just cause for confusion and some frustration. It may be hard but thats what ya gotta do. And move on. Meet new people.. make new friends. Get out there. But keep in touch.
2007-02-18 05:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by wildchild47236 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate you want more but she doesn't and that is the awful truth.If a lady tells you she does not want a serious relationship then it will never happen.Don't let her waste your time.We ladies fantasize about guys "flowing" around us and that is exactly what she's doing.She's getting unnecessary attention from you and she doesn't deserve it.\
cut ties with her for a month to see if she might change her mind and appreciate your presence.It's time to flip the coin to her: make her chase you too if she wants you.It hurts to fall in love with someone who is unappreciative.She might be in love with you secretly but doesn't want to admit it.If she doesn't want for a boyfriend why would she entertain your kisses,cuddles and other stuffs? Don't let her trample on your feelings,you deserve better.
2007-02-18 05:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already told her boutcho feeling. Aint need to be worry,bro. You gotta respect the gals if u want em to respectcha. My word is, if she really dont want any relation yet, u gotta take that deep. Gal aint just talk when it come bout her feeling bro. My advise is, you just need to keep your relation close and grow to let her know how u really real feel bout her. Dont push her to be ur galfriend, no relations gonna be long if one's pushed to. And as I know, no good gals gonna dumped the one who real good to her,she gonna tellcha if she into somebody else. But as i readcho information, U gonna get that gal love as u deserve. One Love!!!
2007-02-18 05:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by love_u.mydad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you but not enough to commit? It sounds like she's using you. She's keeping you around for her own security. You deserve better than that. If you truly are happy with never getting this girl to commit then stay as you are, but if you hope she'll eventually come around, don't plan on it.
2007-02-18 05:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes look for another girl right away, you should not be expected to stand by until she pulls her head out of her ***. Dont be a doormat.
2007-02-18 05:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't play the field - just date her and don't worry about things just enjoy the moments you have now with her.
good luck!!!
2007-02-18 05:17:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋