Why are people so judgemental?

Question

Why are people so judgemental when it comes to teen mothers. Im not pregnant and i don't have kids. But i do baby sit a lot and when people see a teenage girl with a baby they are not exactly kind. One time some old woman actually told me i was going to Hell . Its suprising how critical people can be even when you are an adult you get criticised for being unwed or divorced.

To Baileys mom you must not have read my question well enough because you didn't read the part that says that i am not pregnant nor do i have any kids.

Answer 1

You know how it goes- these ridiculous people who go to church and act all pious but they are usually the worst, most judgmental kind of people out there. Sure, they spend their entire lives in church, but they seem to forget the verse about, "Judge not, lest ye be judged yourselves." Instead of getting the basic message about loving everyone and being tolerant of all lifestyles, they just decide that since they are "good Christians" they are obviously better than everyone else and have the right to judge others' lives. The joke's on them, though, because when they die, God's going to probably put the smackdown on them for being such judgy bitches.

Answer 2

People are judgmental because they think they have the right to be. It is hard to see how times have changed in such a few years....when I was a teen & out with the kids I baby-sat everyone assumed I was baby-sitting. And they did the same for all my friends as well. Now, well, it's anybodys guess what child belongs to what child. And the older you get the harder it is to understand!!

With all the medical knowledge and all the ways we can prevent unwanted pregnancies....teen or otherwise....and all the education in schools and out it is amazing the numbers of unwanted/unplanned for and teenage pregnancies there are. Especially with the risks of AIDS/HIV and the many STD's that are out there.

To have sex unprotected from deseases much less pregnancy is life-threating, irresponsible and thoughtless. It you can't protect yourself then how can you be a good parent or protect a child?

Answer 3

Because people are losers sometimes. People are extremely hipocritical. I am eighteen and I am pregnant, I am married, and now legally separated, have a restraining order and a protective order on him, and hopefully the divorce will be final a couple of days after my baby is born and people still ask me if I've learned anything. Are they stupid? Don't worry about them, they are only judging other people to keep others off of their back... Oh and she had no right to tell you that you were going to hell, even if you had fourty kids all with different dads. She doesn't know what kind of relationship you have with God, she'll get whats coming to her. When my step sister's mother died and my uncle died some woman told us that it was because we were leading a "sinful" life. She had no right to say that either.

Answer 4

People can be cruel. I know that when I was in High School a friend of mine since the 3rd grade got pregnant, and my mom made me stop talking to her. I know that the things she said about the girl was out of fear. She wanted to protect me and make sure that I did not go down the same road. Others do it just out of spite or religious beliefs- although that one always tripped me out because most religions say that you should be kind to your fellow man and leave the judging up to god- so I don't know what to tell you. Life is not fair, and people aren't either. You can only control what you do, how you act. Be kind to those that are in those situations, let them know they are not ostracized.

Answer 5

i know what you mean......i baby sit too and the one day i was in walmart with my younger brother and my younger cousin (both 3 at the time and i was 16) and this old women says wow she looks way to young to have two babies that age what a shame....people just assume they are yours even when they may not be......and i think society needs to realize no matter how much they complain about teenage moms they aren't going anywhere and they just need to deal with it...everyone makes mistakes whether it be having a baby too young or a divorce....nobody wants those things to happen and nobody is perfect.......people just need to mind their own business!! plus just because you may be a teenage mom or a single parent doesn't mean you cant raise a child!!

Answer 6

lol i know. this is what some moron said to me-- (The truth really does hurt, doesn't it. I really don't understand why women like you cut yourselves so short. This guy you're with had an affair with a married woman, got her pregnant, and ruined her marriage. Now he got YOU pregnant without marrying you, and if he disappeared tomorrow he would owe you absolutely nothing. Sure he might owe you some child support if you happened to get a court order, but what kind of life is that for your child? There is a RIGHT way to do things and a WRONG way to do things, and you did things the WRONG way. You gonna honestly tell me that when you were a young girl you had dreams of growing up, getting pregnant by your boyfriend, and having a child without being married? Let's cut the crap! If you were smart (which clearly you're not) you would INSIST that your boyfriend marry you and do what's best. Or you can keep doing what you're doing, be an idiot, and come back in 12 months complaining that you have yet another child and that he's cheating on you with his ex! So I'll keep an eye out for ya! Good luck. You're gonna need it if you keep making stupid decisions.) i agree totally with fizzygurrl. just the other day i got into with this "christian" idiot on here because i am 19 with a baby, even though me and the father are committed to eachother, because we are not married and he has a previous child we are the scum of the earth. these people act like they are so damn perfect. they can kiss my ***! ill have as many damn kids as i want and not get married, as long as i take care of them thats all that matters. those morons perfect life will come crashing down at some point and they wont like it very much when people start talking to them the way they speak to everyone else. all you can do is ignore them, or like me email them and call them every name in the damn book to vent your frustrtation. and when they tell you your going to hell just tell them ill see ya there! cuz they are just as guilty as we are. sorry so long but people like that piss me off

Answer 7

I don't understand why people could be so judgmental without knowing that person. The truth is like my father once said, "You can't make everybody happy". Unfortunately, ignorant people will always talk the only thing you can do is forgive such people and go with your head up high. Even though your not a parent its still shocking isn't it? very sad indeed.

Answer 8

People who are judgmental usually have something missing inside, either they are full of fear or they have very low self esteem,if i can point out your flaws then i don't have to look at mine.They're saying,if your wrong, that makes me right! The good thing is you don't have to be that way. I learn gratitude from the ungrateful, kindness from the unkind,tolerance from the intolerable, yet strange, i am ungrateful to these teachers.

Answer 9

Well, there are a lot fo differences among people and this you must understand. When there are positive comments, there will always be negative ones. Turn deaf ears and don't bother. Go on with your life.

Answer 10

That's a glimpse into how people behave. Imagine if you were black (you can't take away your skin color). Now you know what it is like to be discriminated against. People tend to be ignorant when they judge. (Including yours truly, but at least I know this and I try to correct). :)