This person I know will always show up with two extra buddies when I offer to treat him for dinner and make me pay the tab. Should I stop asking him out. When the bill comes he will either go to the restroom or go out to smoke. Other times he will enter the restaurant and say "Gosh! I forgot my Wallet." Any solutions for the three excuses and the extra guests or should I dump him?
2007-02-18 05:06:50 · 25 answers · asked by Kaliyug Ka Plato 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Stop taking this freeloader out! Clearly, he thinks that he can get free meals out of you. So, show him that he can't and stop dining with him.
Trying eating at home. That way, there's a set amount of food (so, if he shows up with guests that you had not planned on, you can simply say "sorry, I only cooked for 2") and you don't have to spend extra money. Whatever you do, never dine in a restaurant with this man again, and if you do insist upon separate checks so that you pay for yourself and he washes dishes.
2007-02-18 05:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sinthe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not bring other people to dinner if they weren't invited. Proper etiquette says he should call and let you know he is bringing someone else. Then you have the chance to tell him you didn't have the funds for this other person.That maybe you could meet them at some other time unless he had the funds to chip in. I damn sure wouldn't ask this guy to meet me for dinner again. If he ask about it, tell him you were waiting for an invite from him. Let him know as soon as you get there that you really appreciated the invite since you are broke and you were beginning to wonder if he was going to reciprocate. Kind of make a joke of it. While joking say at least I came alone.
If you ever invite this person to dinner again let them know that he is to come alone. You just don't have the money.
If he still does it, tell him "we'll just have an appetizer and iced tea."Just act like it was what you had planned all along. The people he brought with him may not know what's going on(they probably do, but maybe not. give them the benefit of a doubt).
Don't be a dummy and invite this person ever again.
2007-02-18 05:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Completely rude and inexcusable behaviour, i had no idea anyone actually did this. If asked out to dinner you should ask before bringing a friend.
For the excuses if he uses 'when the bill comes he will either go to the restroom or go out to smoke' ask for the bill to come in 5 minutes, so when he comes back he still has to chip in, If he uses "Gosh! I forgot my Wallet." just tell him to use an ATM.
And dude, this guy is seriously freeloading off you, just dump him already! Dump him! Dump him!
2007-02-18 07:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Susseruss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to say it is quite rude for him to do that. If you did invite him with the intention of just paying for your own check, then you need to specifically let him know that you are going "dutch" when you ask him to come along. Or if you like, right when you order your food just tell the waiter right away that it will all be on separate checks; he will get the idea. Or if you are really sick of him either don't invite him, or you use a lame excuse like you left YOUR wallet so he has to pay. Really it all depends on how angry you already are with him to choose a solution. It might be too late for you to even be civil to him. I know I sure would have a hard time being his friend. ohhhh or if you are really mad you can always throw it in his face, in front of other people, that you always have to pay for his plus his friend's food. One thing a every man is, is prideful. Hurt his pride and maybe he will try to show to everybody he isn't a freeloader.
2007-02-18 06:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by I'm Smiling Hapy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not okay for anyone to bring extra people when invited anywhere unless it's cleared with the host/hostess in advance and even then, the person should only ask in an unusual situation - for example a friend visiting from out of town.
Your "friend" is just rude and it sounds like he's using you. If I was in the same situation, I'd dump him as fast as I could.
2007-02-18 05:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First if you know him well enoufgh then it is time that you tell him that this is not accecptable, and if he does not figure in your priorities then do not invite him again.
Well if you want to teach him a lesson invite him and order the food for him and his cronies and then tell him very politely that you had forgotten to bring in your wallet and you are sure that this time he would not mind paying the tab. Also do not forget to take a second helping on your sweet dish.Try it and you will never face this problem again.
2007-02-18 22:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by Susheel B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him about it next time you decide to invite him for dinner. Tell him that you will treat him to dinner, stress the him, and any guests that he brings along will need to pay for their own meal. Don't think you are being rude if he brings his friends and 'forgets his wallet' and you have to say, "Well, I was only planning on paying for your meal, Bob, I didn't think you were bringing guests." Turn to the people he invited along and ask, "Do you mind paying for your meal?" Or you could just invite him out to dinner and not offer to treat him, stressing a pay for your own food dinner.
2007-02-18 05:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better stop this maddness right now. I have children who get an allowance once a week. when we go to the store, they have all kinds of things in the buggy, never once shelling out for a dime of their own money, no you must stop this now. Because when you get a mate you will have to shell out, then you have your parents that you like to do for then you will have children. Those are the only people that we should be suckers for. Let this free loader. And watch and see how many times he calls you to go out and get dinner. You deserve better than that. Move on, so God can send you a real friend who wants someone to be real in their life too.
2007-02-18 05:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Proper social etiquette would suggest that no more than one partner accompany a guest for dinner. It is very insensitive and inconsiderate to bring two or more guests with them. Depending upon how gracious your guest is upon each invitation, I would feel put out that this keeps happening. Perhaps you are being taken advantage of and should stop your generosity.
2007-02-18 05:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have invited someone for dinner and your guest wants to bring a friend , then he must ask you and take your permission.
If he is bringing his guests and does not want to pay, tell him, very firmly "I invite you but not your friends , Kindly come by yourself as invited in future".
If he brings his guests again then remind him in front of the guests that you invited him alone.
Still if he persists in bringing his friends along. STOP INVITING HIM.
2007-02-18 06:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋