My boyrfriend and I found out that I am pregnant on new year's eve. Two days later he broke up with me. I later found out that he wants to be with his ex-girlfriend. It really hurts me because she disrespects him and treats him like garbage. She tells him how she feels about other guys and that she wants to be with other guys. He says he puts up with it because he loves her, but at the same time he tells me that he loves me and wants to be there for me. I just don't understand why he wants to continue to be treated that way when Im always here for him, and don't want to be with anyone but him. I don't know what its going to take to make him realize that he is being taken advantage of and getting hurt. He knows I love him and would do anything for him, but the most important thing to me is for us to be together and raise our children as a family and not in a broken home. I cant stand to see the love of my life let himself get hurt when he could me happy me & our children.
2007-02-18 05:01:46 · 9 answers · asked by j_marie_86 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
When I said our children i was referring to my daughter that he has accepted as his own and the tins that we are expecting.
2007-02-18 05:40:39 · update #1
When I said our children i was referring to my daughter that he has accepted as his own and the twins that we are expecting.
2007-02-18 05:41:39 · update #2
sounds like hes 2 selfish and that ur better off without him
2007-02-23 05:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been EXACTLY where you are. I spent so many years pining for the father and thinking "he'll come to his senses, I'll apologise for anything I've done to hurt him and it will all be perfect", nope. He maried a girl who treats him like total crap and has never told anyone about our son, including his wife of seven years. Some mutual friends know as they were there when it all occured. Apparently he likes being treated that way. I could not do that to someone so I guess we just weren't suited. Our boy is 9 now and the spitting image of his father. But it is all okay. I can tell him all of the good and funny things I remember about his father. He gave me the best break-up present in the world. I have the best part of him and am forced to only focus on the good memories.
Sweet-heart, you will be fine. Love your children and your self-respect. There is a line from a song that might suit your situation, "If you were loving me right I wouldn't hold on so tight, if you'd been loving me right I wouldn't need to learn to let you go". Let him go.
2007-02-26 09:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by loo_roll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be treated this way? Girlie-you deserve better than that! There is nothing wrong with being a single parent! Someday, the perfect man will come along and accept you, and your baby as his own. God has a plan for us all, maybe this relationship wasn't meant to work out. If he wants to do this to himself-his bad! I hope you find the answers your looking for, and I also wish you the best of luck with your pregnancy!
2007-02-25 20:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kasey P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make someone love you. you should never WANT to make someone love you. i would also like to say that IF THE GUY COMES BACK to you i would bet that he will break your heart TIME AND TIME AGAIN. if i were you i would raise the baby alone and count my blessings. i would NEVER force a relationship between the bio-father and the child... i'd let the father have the type of relationship he desired... even if he chooses to have no contact at all.
something i'm confused about... you said "our kids" and "our children"... do you have more than this pregnancy history with him?
please take a moment and look at the pattern of his behavior (i'm suspecting there's a longer history than you revealed here today). you may need some theraputic help in order to get past this relationship.
i wish you the best of luck AND i would like to congratulate you on the delivery of your baby!
2007-02-18 13:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you're right, but at that same time you are being used as well. you want someone who isn't in love with you either. you think that he would be happy with you and your children. evidently he thinks differently. children do not need two parents to grow up in a loving home. if he wants to get used by some other girl, let him. you have better things to take care of now.
2007-02-18 13:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be with his ex girlfriend and is staying with her even though she is messing him around, he may have a few issues that he needs to deal with. He is probably scared at the fact he is about to become a father, and feels as if he wants to have some fun and not be tied down. Talk to him and tell him your concerns, if he doesnt listen to you.. then maybe in time he will come around to the idea and realise that he's not going to get anything from his ex apart from the runaround and that you are the one who is going to be loyal and worth staying with. Good Luck, men can be strange in the way that they think.
2007-02-18 13:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but he don't love you. You don't treat the people you love like that you need to leave him be now hes made his choice why would you want him back maybe him and his girlfriend deserve each other you need to start thinking how your gonna be a good mum i wish u the best x
2007-02-18 13:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boy friend truly loved u he would of never ever leaved u for his ex i am sorry he is not worth your time. he leaves you while u are preganut with his chrilden he is a dog and u are 2 good for him.sweet heart i wish u luck if he truly loves u he will come back to u . maybe he dont know what he wants and he is scared? i say talk to him because this is not fair to u our his chrilden, my question to u is if in the future if he comes back if times get hard is he going to leave. how about trust are u going to be able to trust him? if he can leave u while u are preganut what makes u think he wont leave u again?
2007-02-25 19:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by crystal w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you want him-Forget him!!
Who wants to be with someone who dosnt want them?Thats not love!!
move on and find some one else who will take on your children as their own because THEY LOVE YOU.
Your children wont be happy living with parents who arnt happy so move on and concentrate on raising your children.
2007-02-24 22:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋