A friend of mine has this saying that if a person is too picky and always looking for perfection in a partner that they will be left on the shelf because nothing ever satifies them, so they are forever searching for that perfect person....what are your views on this is this true do you think? and is there such a thing as a perfect person?
2007-02-18 04:05:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your friend is absolutely right. in love, you dont love someone because theyre perfect, you love them because you accept and love their imperfections. looking for the "perfect" person is unreasonable, because there is no "perfect" person. everyone has flaws. you just have to find the flaws you like ;)
2007-02-18 04:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by midnightsnacker13 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, there is no perfection where humans are concerned. Period. We are flawed and fallible creatures and I'm glad of it...perfection would not only be boring, but to be with someone who was perfect would lead the non-perfect person to all kinds of insecurities and inadequecies as they tried to measure up. How miserable would that be?
Another way to look at it would be that if you desire a perfect partner, you should also be perfect as they would deserve nothing less. What kind of arrogance would need to exist in someone to believe they were perfect? *rolls eyes*
Can someone be too picky? Yes, in a way...however better to be picky and sit on the shelf than to "settle" and be with someone you don't really like.
Have realistic expectations and desires for a potential partner...and don't require anything of them that you are not capable of and willing to give in return.
2007-02-18 04:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a perfect person and I think there is some truth in what your friend says. The key to happy marriages (from what I've seen) is embracing and loving your partners' imperfections, because that makes up who they are and what you love about them.
2007-02-18 04:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you and in basic terms you are the director of your existence. There at the instant are not any set guidelines on what you ought to do at what age. you will possibly no longer meet the guy who's your soul mate for some years from now. Hell, possibly you will certainly no longer get married, this is nice if that's what you want or what you do no longer want. you are able to no longer enable human beings be your handbook on a narrative that throughout the time of basic terms you are able to write. you will be as choosy as you want to be, no person else would be living your existence for you.yet from my own own journey, i will share that i grew to become right into a unmarried mom with an uncontrolled wild 4 year previous son and no father interior the image. I did a type of relationship issues and after assembly fifty 5 adult adult males that I rejected, i desperate to resign and settle for that i might purely be by myself continuously, with my mom telling me a minimum of as quickly as a week that I should not be so choosy. #fifty six got here approximately 3 weeks later. we've been thankfully married 32 years now and my son loves his Dad very plenty
2016-12-17 18:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by gurrola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word is discerning. That's what you are and it is a fine quality to have. The perfect partner is different from one person to the next. That you are discerning is to your credit, because it indicates that you have a pretty good idea of what you are looking for in a partner and it is not perfection--it is an issue of character.
2007-02-18 04:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is perfect. True love is unconditional, it accepts the person for who they are. It is not the person that is perfect, but the love you have for them is. Your friend has not yet experienced true love with someone. Maybe she isn't mature enough for it. I lost my true love because I was immature and picky. I only realized it when it was too late.
2007-02-18 04:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by tenno1234 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO person is perfect.
We all DO have our preferences though. We can't help those. Like not wanting someone to smoke, not wanting someone to be controlling, big things like that. That's understandable.
However, if you are picky to the point where you can't have someone who has blonde hair or cracks a joke sometimes that you don't like, that's going too far. Everyone has their faults... everyone has their imperfections... well things that YOU think are faults and imperfections. You also have to accept the fact that people aren't going to be exactly LIKE you. You have to allow that person to be different... accept them for who they are.
You can't deny the sparks if they are there.
You have to accept that person for who they are.
2007-02-18 04:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a beautiful, single friend who just turned 36. She's had boyfriends up to this point, but no one was ever 'perfect'. Now her options are drying up.
Good for her for not 'settling'. Now she can grow old and die alone. At least she stuck to her standards.
2007-02-18 04:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one is perfect so no one will find that perfect partner. you might miss a lot of fun waiting for Mr. Right. don't settle for just anybody, but don't expect perfection either.
2007-02-18 04:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋