i had a wonderful boyfriend when i was jst 16 and i gave up that although he didn't wanted to. But i really loved him...and i know he was the same..but i wanted to concentrate more on my studies..that's why i gave up...
now i'm 19+ and i think i need him back...but now he's in US!! i frequently chat with him.but i feel that he doesnt want to have the kind of relationship we had earlier.....
2007-02-18 03:57:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well unfortunately human relationships aren't like commodities that can be got and disposed off at one's will. If he doesn't want it now, time for you to get over it and move on. He respected your wish once upon a time and now its your time to do the same.
2007-02-18 04:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure a lot of changes has transpired since you broke up with him 3 years ago. Maybe he has learned to let go and has moved on. Or maybe he fears being turned down again and he's being discreet now of his feelings about you that's why you feel that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore. Have your fear confirmed, ask him if a second chance is still possible for you both. If it still is, well and good but if it is not, then it's time you let go of your feelings. If the two of you are meant to be, then you are meant to be. I wish ya the best.
2007-02-18 12:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Clouds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "need" him back, you think you want him back. The problem is not only is he now far from you (apparently) but you have both gone through 3 years of growth (intellectual and emotional) and maturity. Chances are you may not even get along real well as a couple anymore.
Leave the past in the past and move forward...especially if he shows no desire to rekindle the teenage romance you once had.
2007-02-18 12:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are different kinds of love. theres relationship love, and theyres also friendship love, which can be just as important.
i had a friend who i liked since fourth grade. we never officially went out, everything was too complicated, but over all of the stuff we went through together, we became really good friends. now with her as my friend, i have her to talk to when i need it (often to get a female point of view on an issue, which is hard to get sometimes) and shes helped me through a lot of stuff.
just because you cant be together like that doesnt mean you cant have a really meaningful relationship. youd be surprised how meaningful a friendship like that can become.
2007-02-18 12:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by midnightsnacker13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you could try contacting him and just be friends and try to become more than friends gradually. I had that same problem and I used this method and it worked! So I think just try to be his friend and talk to him more... Respect him like you would your own best friend and just act like nothing has changed over the years of being alone and once you start to get closer it will all fall into the right place!
Hope this advice helped if you need more help just email me at machenseylyn8@yahoo.com
-Kenzie
2007-02-18 12:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by machenseylyn8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may respect your dicipline but he knows the next time something important comes along he's going to be put on the back burner again while you pursue your own agenda.
Any relationship with you is going to be haunted by doubt.
You need to find someone else who doesn't know how unimportant they are yet.
2007-02-18 12:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has grown a little and so have you. You gave him his wings to fly. Maybe he will come back. In the US, this cultural mecca, he has been Americanized and exposed to other influences and choices. Give him a little time, or just move on.
2007-02-18 12:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ronnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may hurt but if he doesn't seem interested in having the same relationship with you then he did years ago there is really nothing you can do about it
2007-02-18 12:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by College Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then move on. You are looking for comfort, you will be better off with someone who feels the same way. Don't go backwards in your relationships
2007-02-18 12:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by loulou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he does feel the same way like before but is scared to hear the word NO. u realy need to speak to make everything clear. good luck
2007-02-18 12:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by ~Mevsim~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋