Met a wonderful girl in Boston where I live, in the beginning we were just friends and didn't expect more, but as soon as we started seeing a lot of each other we quickly developed into lovers. We were both in another relationship at the time, and she broke up with her boyfriend (to my surprise),but I didn't leave my girlfriend for her and while I suspect that it broke her heart a little, she said it was for the best and we just reverted to being friends again. Now, a year later, and i've realized i still care a lot for her and am trying to work out if we still have a chance.She still sends strong signals, but when it comes up explicitly,laughs & says that she only sees me as a friend and couldn't imagine us having ever been a couple (this after she hounded me for weeks to break up with my gf & be with her).Is she just afraid of being rejected again or have i really killed this one?Do girls ever say they just want to be friends, for fear of losing control, when they really want more?
2007-02-18 03:54:55 · 7 answers · asked by jack white 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She doesn't want to pressure you, as she enjoys your friendship and you have fun together, and she doesn't want to lose that. She might have resolved with herself that if it was meant to be than it was meant to be. If you are still with the GF then drop it but if you are single, start SLOW (don't bumrush anything) and take things from there.
2007-02-18 04:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it came down to a choice between the old g/f or the new g/f, which would you choose? And could you HONESTLY STILL BE FRIENDS with the...err...loser?
To be honest, I can't go backwards from a serious relationship to just a "let's be friends" non-commital friendship" with a woman! Simply because I've been too emotionally close!
It's nice to want to "stay in touch" with a former lover or spouse, but realistically...how many of us DO?
2007-02-18 04:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by argytunes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she still likes you. But, she thinks you feel differently about her and don't want to be hurt again. Since she broke off with her b/f and you stayed with your old g/f. She probably feels that you don't care for her like she does you. Like it is sort of a one sided type thing. If you really want to know, maybe you should talk to her about the relationship both of you had before. Since she is trying to save her heart and won't admit that she wants a "lover" relationship with you. Maybe you could let her know how you really feel about her. It might open the door for her to be a little more honest with you about her feelings.
2007-02-18 04:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...well, i think she still wants to be with you, but is afraid of rejection. i guess you can try talking to her about it, so that you guys can sort out your feelings and see if you want to start a relationship. but its true about what you said, some girls say they just want to be friends for the fear of losing control when they want more, ive done that too many times...its not very rewarding.
2007-02-18 04:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you.If you have felings for her go and tell her.She is waiting.
2007-02-18 04:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that you already hurt her and she is afraid of being hurt again.
2007-02-18 04:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by hotcookie1993 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be.....
i think she probably still likes you...
2007-02-18 03:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by dang-duh! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋