I cheated on my boyfriend and now he says he wants to experience new people and take a break. what do i do?

Question

Here is the whole situation.. because in my question before i left some things out. He got sent to rehab for drugs.. and i hate drugs so that hurt me.. i waited for him faithfully for 5 months and my friends all hate him so they kept talking me into brekaing up with him.. so i thought i wanted to move on.. so i went to a party and got drunk.. i dont remember much.. but i guess i had sex with this kid. My boyfriend found out before i told him about it. He said he wanted to take a break and expereicne new people. I know he is hte one for me.. and i know cheating is ****** up.. but he kept messing up and having to stay logner in rehab.. and that hurt me bad. So i actualyl wanted to move on.. then i realized i loved him and it was too late because he found out before i could make it right and tell him. Why does he want to take a break? Why does he want us both to date other people? He asked me to go on a date with him to this concert in like a month.. and i just dont know what to do?

Answer 1

so u love him...... ur acting like u will never love again after hes gone.... but love is a strong feeling..... my guessing is.... that u should break up with him.... im sure he will never fully trust u again after that drunk night.... that will always follow him around... plus if he's into drugs and gets put away for months... hows that any good to u... like u said, it makes u sad right..... he still loves u but im guessing not as much as before... and i think u had the right to cheat, it doesnt seem like he cares enough about u to quit drugs...... the concert thing... he might try to find if theres anything left to salvage from ur relationship..... or maybe hes trying to get one last sex before you and him part forever..... i dunno... i dunno him that well........

but i'd suggest breaking it off.... you can stay friends but dont let him depend on u too much.... and dunno... good luck...

Answer 2

what's good for the goose is good for the gander. If you truly love him, as it appears, you will have to accept him on his terms, especially if he is accepting you on yours. I don't see a very positive outcome to you and him remaining together, there is way too much tension. I think if you want to be really really happy, then you should move on, do what you want to for a while, and when your tired of that, settle down with someone special....it might even be this guy, but right now, you and he are not good news.