and the family of the boy are coming to town because"they want to see the baby" I don't want them hanging around my house.. they have traveled 3000 miles to come see the baby I want to set time limits to their visits, the baby and my daughter not to mention me and my wife are very tired! after 3 days in the hospital, they only decided to show up once the baby was born ( I think its novelty to them). My wife and I don't want our daughter to get married to this boy and we certainly don't like his family, and even my daughter doesnt want to be with this boy either! is it prudent to set 3 hour time limit to their visits ?theyre only in town for 4 days
2007-02-18 03:43:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm gonna give you my honest to God oppinion. Your daughter made a mistake, but this boy and his family can go straight to hell. It's your daughter's child. If he was so concerned, he would have been around for the birth, and be working out a way to spend time with the child. I suppose the details as to how they met, and such are important to this, though. Mind filling us in on that?
2007-02-18 03:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jared C 2 · 2⤊ 7⤋
First, if you daughter is a minor you can tell the boys parent how long they can visit. But if she's an adult she has the right to decide. You have to remember that they are grandparents also. If they have to travel 3000 miles it was hard for them to be there before the baby was born. Give them a chance. They just might turn out to be great people.
2007-02-18 04:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i did no longer know there have been policies to PTO. you have a super sort of it consistent with month/consistent with 300 and sixty 5 days to apply regardless of the undeniable fact which you please. that's time which you have have been given earned. i've got by no ability informed all people my reasoning for wanting to take PTO. I only took it. besides, why would that is counted? human beings take PTO for holidays and stuff like that, so what if she's taking good care of her daughter? to describe: PTO (paid time without work) is a few thing that i do no longer think of a super sort of human beings comprehend. My boyfriend's business enterprise promises 18 hours consistent with month with a 4 hour enhance each 6 months. He schedules it in a working laptop or computing device device and waits in line to work out if he gets it. they do no longer ask him why he desires it or what he's doing, he only takes it. yet, he has to devise in improve nevertheless. For some thing like this worker's project, he would could get particular permission from a supervisor i've got self assurance. that's what she has asked. i'd provide her an afternoon or 2, possibly a Thursday and Friday yet unlike a week or something. what's there incredibly that ought to be executed? I advise, she'll be laying in mattress for some days.
2016-11-23 16:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you something for starters.. this is 2007 & there are MANY women & young girls having babies & are not married! It's not the best situation but its something you have to deal with now! Just remember at this point, the dad has just as many rights to that baby as the mom does! If he wants to bring his family to see him/her, then he can!!! And why put a time limit on them? Their only there for a few days, & what will it really hurrt anyway? Why would you want to cause more friction between the two families then you have to? And by the way, how old is your daughter?..... is she old enough to make her own decisions about her own baby? Good luck!!
2007-02-18 04:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by beckaroo 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How does your daughter feel about all of this? I was pregnant at 18 andmy mom kept trying to tell me what a loser this guy is and his family only wanted to be there when it was convienient for them. It drove me away from her and right to him. She was 100% correct. But I was young and I thought I knew what I wanted. I do think that the activity in your house needs to be at a minimum so soon after the baby is born. Don't be afraid to tell them that your daughter and the baby need rest. I'm sure you know that babies need as little stress as possible and I don't think you are being unreasonable. If this guy and his family are not in it for the long run your daughter will see that soon enough. Good luck
2007-02-18 03:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by Cheyenne 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My answer is Yes. Cyber, I don't know if you have a teenage daughter or if you are asking for pick-up lines that work on teenage girls, or about other asundry topics, but all of your questions do not follow a common thread and it is noticeable. I have a good memory and so do others. I am required to give you an answer: I think an ADULT has the right to set any time limits they want to set. And I hope you straighten things out with your honesty issues before you are reported for trolling.
2007-02-18 06:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't you think that it is a little late to get involved with your daughter's life? Right, wrong or indifferent the child is your grandchild, not your child. If you daughter conceived a child by someone she does not love and does not want to be with, then you have already failed.
Sure, it is your home, but at this point back out and honor your daughter's wishes about visitation. I suggest that you do not worry over what has not happened yet. Set up a signal with your daughter for the end of the visit and then leave things alone. Be prepared to give these other grandparents the bums rush if your daughter wants them out.
Keep in the back of your mind that the father of the child does have rights and can make your daughter's life miserable. Deal with the legal issues as soon as possible. If your family is ever to get any peace, you may have to get a lawyer.
2007-02-18 04:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by Richard 7 · 11⤊ 2⤋
Congratulations on your baby. I am sure this unexpected precious gift will be a benefit to you all.
You said the family of the boy is coming. Is the boy (father) coming as well? Is he listed on the birth certificate which makes him legally responsible for financial support for the next 18 years?
If the answers are yes, you should try to be congenial with the family. Get them to trust you (fool them if need be) so that they will be candid regarding their intentions. You should probably 'get inside their heads' to find out if they expect regular visitation, joint-custody, or have any other agenda!
If the answers were no and the father is not on the birth certificate, you owe them nothing. You could be courteous and meet with them one time to introduce the child, but after that ... they can go home!
Good luck. Stay on your toes around them.
2007-02-18 03:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by deja_xo 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you have a alot to deal with right now. and i agree when they call to come see the baby just plainly explain you can come for and hour or two then you must leave so they can get their rest..be polite about it..you don't want to make enemies out of them cause they may go back home and plot to get custody of their sons child..where i live Grandparents have rights now and they can fight to have weekend visits..i don't know if the boy is a good boy or not and if he wants to be in the childs life or not, and you said your daughter does not want to be with him . then maybe she can talk him into signing over his right and staying out of their lives.. that would mean no child support but it would be worth it not having to deal with him maybe..( but wait to see if he doesn't want anything to do with the baby before persuing the idea of a sign off.. don't stir up trouble you don't need..
2007-02-18 04:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by raven1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they didnt want to visit or nothing before,id set a time and when could visit especially if daughter doesnt like either, but you need be able get along some cause is the dad baby too. but just limit it, could be very messy. feeling have been hurt.just be careful what say and do could affect youre daughter and baby in future.they should be considerate enough to wait a while to visit since they couldn't while she was pregnant,
2007-02-18 04:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by skypearl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you have a perfect situation to help your daughter see what she will be marring into, if she marries this young man. You and your wife, should make it your daughters responiblity to deal with the potential inlaws. Go about living your life as you normally would. Take advantage of the fact that your daughter will have other helping hands around the house. Take your wife to the movies, out to dinner. Get a hotel room and get some good sleep. Maybe after four days your daughter will get a bigger picture of the type of man the babies father is and what kind of family he comes from. In fact I would kill them with kindness, that way you will come out of this mess smiling like roses, and if they are as bad as you say, they will come out smiling like @#*. Good luck.
2007-02-18 03:55:15 · answer #11 · answered by monica_d_23608 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋