My boyfriend and I have been fighting now for two days. Last night, I was drunk and very billigerent, while he was sleeping on the couch for over two hours. I woke him up(which he was not thrilled about) and we found ourselves in a fight. While for an unknown reason to me I was screaming, crying, and hitting. I kept blaming everything on depression(bad idea, i'm aware) and he ended up bringing me home. I called him this morning and he was asleep and said he will call me back. What is thebest advice, to break up or not? Also, should I have him come over to talk about it, or go over there or not?
2007-02-18 03:42:47 · 18 answers · asked by McKenzie J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well--either break up or stop getting drunk. A conversation would be in order to get to the bottom of whatever issue you have with him currently. In the meantime leave him alone. If after a couple of days you haven't heard from him then assume you are broken up. Oh--and don't turn into crazy stalker or drunk dial him either.
2007-02-18 03:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is seek counseling for your drinking and depression. You have a serious problem that is tearing your relationship apart. Take some time to work out your issues and give him some time away. Then, you can work on the relationship. Sit down and discuss the root problems together without arguing or fighting. Take breaks as necessary. It may be too late to save the relationship, but it is not too late to save yourself.
2007-02-18 11:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why go directly to thinking you should break up with someone b/c you have been fighting for 2 days? Communication is key in a relationship and you should both sit down, like civilized adults and discuss what your issues are. When you are ready to talk to each other, it won't matter who went where to do so. Just talk.
2007-02-18 11:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kiss and makeup. don't fight over little things, it isn't worth it and less off the alcohol, it could be why you guys are fighting. Stop using escape goats meaning you're blamining your problems on something else for what you should blame yourself. Meet at a place and start talking things out and the first step to that is set a goal for your relationship.
2007-02-18 11:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Stephbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are even asking whather you want to break up you already know the answer. But you both deserve a sober talk, so do that first and see what if anything you can do to save your relationahip. Otherwise wih each other luck and go your separate ways.
2007-02-18 11:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let him contact you regarding talking about your problems. Don't contact him. You don't say what all you were fighting about, and it really doesn't matter. Is this a new thing (the fighting) or do you do this a lot? You may not be meant for each other - contrary to popular belief, love does NOT conquer all.
2007-02-18 11:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a professional, but i would call him first to tell him I'm coming over. showing up out of no were is not good. you go to his house. then make sure you say how sorry you are and that you did something wrong. during the whole conversation, never blame anything on him. if he won't accept your apology, then break up.
2007-02-18 11:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of the drinking and drugging. You want love in your life, then get it together and stop making excuses for your bull@#$%. Let the man be for a moment. Sounds like you like to fight over the little things, you will lose every one around you if you don't pull yourself together. If he cares, he will help you. Stop picking on him cause you are miserable.
2007-02-18 11:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ronnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have a few choices.
you could A, break up and go on being a dumb annoying drunk
B, stay together or be a dumb annoying drunk in a constant fight with her bf
or C, get some damn help and not be a drunk and have a successful relationship.
i would choose the latter.
2007-02-18 11:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by midnightsnacker13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I see someone needs to talk to head doctors about irrationally acting out and making haphazard decisions because your adrenalin is making things happen to slow.
Get that help please. Your boyfriend wont last long if your going to push pull. Actually you remind me of my first wife. Even though I Loved her so, she had emotional problems which to this day keeps her living alone and empty inside because of her outbursts and haphazard emotional issues.
Fix it before it leaves you in a worse place than you are now.
2007-02-18 11:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋