I've not spoken to my close female friend for 3 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. She only wanted to be friends.
She's txt bck:i really do not have the energy to keep explaining things to you.I will be civil but i'm afraid i feel the close friendship is lost...........
We MET ON FRIDAY at a friends party,we spoke a lot,but she still looked hurt+uncomfortable at times.
I apologised for hurting her i.e. wanting no contact - she snaped bck saying YOU NEVER HURT ME! GOOD/BAD RESPONSE??
I asked her if she'll join us on our group roadtrips - she said YES! - A POSITIVE SIGN OF FRIENDSHIP RESTARTING???
As she left I said that hopefully/possibly see you in a few months -she replied I'll see you at the roadtrip - we said bye and she gave me a tight hug - ANOTHER POSITIVE SIGN???
She needed a hug from my mate as it was too much for her to take in!
IS THE FRIENDSHIP REALLY LOST???Why she hurt???
2007-02-18 03:25:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I only want friendship-I finally realised this during the break,She's really a fantastic mate-I do feel guilty for what I done
2007-02-18 03:41:40 · update #1
ok, well it sounds like yeah, you definately hurt her feelings, hence the you never hurt me bit! she didn't like you romantically so you didn't want contact with her at all?! ouch! but oh well, for you. your friendship sounds like it's suffered significant damage but with some effort might survive. sounds like you're both putting forth the effort but you can hurt a friend by cutting them off. the tight hug means she HAS missed you.it's always a tough gig when you have romantic feelings for a buddy and they don't feel like that about you. in fact, it can really ruin a good friendship once you've declared how you feel. i mean, it can just get awkward...best of luck to you! (i ruined my best friendship by sleeping with my best buddy. now we've got a kid in the mix and trust me, some people are just better off as FRIENDS-no matter how many obstacles you think your guys can get through, romance is the ultimate test of anybody's true colors!)
2007-02-18 03:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by green eyed sole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is hurt because you wanted no contact to be friends. Wemen are emotional men are physical. You really hurt her feelings and there are a lot of positives here and you will be able to work them out through the road trip, I am sure. Take your time, tell her you care and quite asking her to explain stuff this is bothering her too. If she brings up a subject then go with that and have a good conversation. I think she just wants to be friends and was hurt that you thought that you needed space. Take your time and enjoy the friendship, it can only get better, Take care Heather
2007-02-18 11:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she really did like you and needed you so when you wanted no contact she got hurt. I'm sure things will be okay.
2007-02-18 11:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by AshesToAshes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no friendship is not lost .Looks like she is gaining interest in ya
2007-02-18 11:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by x_boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously doesn't want to lose you as a friend.
Good luck.
2007-02-18 11:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by Alterna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not. If you were good friends before...you'll still be good friends...she's not hurt.
2007-02-18 11:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by ohioguy4jc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋