and she tries to parent me and yells are me when i do something wrong. Once i missed the bus and she yelled at me and i started crying. so i told my dad i was sick of her and he got mad. I don't know what to do! should i tell somebody how i feel? I don't want to hurt my dads feelings. please help! thanks!!
2007-02-18 03:22:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i forgot to add, she's been with my dad since i was 1. and now i'm 14. she was with my dad when my mom was married to him
2007-02-18 03:59:39 · update #1
explain to her she is trying to hard, tell her how you feel and I'm sure if will help you to understand her also, this way here you bother know where your coming from and what you both expect form each other things will be a lot smoother for you and your dad too. good luck
2007-02-18 03:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by qsue19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I yell at my kids when they miss the bus also. Ask yourself if your mom would be upset for the same things your step mom is upset about. Weather or not she is your real mom, she is still the woman of the house, and her responsibilities include making sure you get to school. Does she also make sure you have clothes to wear and that they are clean? Does she also make sure there is food in the house for you to eat? Does she also make sure that your house is clean and a comfortable place to live? You cannot just have it nice all the time. Sometimes people in our lives get upset with us. Stop throwing it in her face that she is not your real mom, or that she was dating your Dad when he was married to you Mom. Good grief that was over a decade ago. Stop beating a dead horse. Be grateful that some one cares enough about you to yell. No relationship is perfect, and you don't seem to want this one to work out.
2007-02-18 04:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by monica_d_23608 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy onher. I am sure she is just trying her best. You could talk to her and tell her how you feel but she is a guardian of you whether you like it or not. You dad married her so you cant do anything but make the best out of the situation. Imagine how hard it must be for her.
2007-02-18 03:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by pryncess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had issues with her before this, like major ones??? Have you tried to have a family discussion about how your feeling? This may be helpful, where everyone, sits and someone has the talking rock, and no-one else is allowed to speak unless they have the rock in hand, there fore no interruptions.
I hope this helps, Take care. I know it sounds lame, but it does work.
2007-02-18 04:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Cindybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew! I'm so0o happy you said that! my mom has a boyfriend that seems to always yell at me and tell me what to do..and i get mad because he ain't my daddy! But just remember that she's trying to help you be responsible, and ready for the real world! I totally understand! You have no0o clue!
2007-02-18 04:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kaybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is trying to be a good parent and mother and wife and its got to be stressful for her. its not easy going into a family like she has and try to fit in. try to let her know she is doing a good job and dont give her the chance to yell at you for doing wrong. hopefully whne your an adult you wont have to go through the stuff she is now.
2007-02-18 03:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she kinda is. But yeah i see what you mean it would suck to have a step parent I guess you could always see like a school counsaler they are there to help with problems. maybe they have advice for you. good luck
2007-02-18 03:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by bearcatz_07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor lady just trying to fit in family atmosphere
sit down and talk to her tell her your feelings
2007-02-18 03:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋