Every time my brother and sister and I get into an argument, my Dad goes on a rampage screaming: "GO TO YOUR ROOMS AND SEPERATE!" He NEVER tries to solve the problem he doesnt say: "hat is the problem?" he just tells us to separate and that is that. Also, he says his life is to important to help solve our problems. What do you think?
2007-02-18 03:08:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
not a very good father. mothers & fathers are supposed to help there children solve there differences with others & sisters & brothers. he is just giving disapline. for him to say that his life is too important to HELP you solve your differences then thats selfish. plain & simple.
2007-02-18 03:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to teach you an important life lesson. Arguing gets you nowhere. You have to learn to work through your problems in a rational manner. He is separating you in the hope that you will figure this out. He could solve the problems, but one person or the other would feel slighted in the process. Instead of relying on him, find a way to talk through your problems. In necessary, discuss it with your father. I'm sure he would be happy to help teach you ways to compromise long before the arguing and scream starts.
2007-02-18 11:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the house and get a life! How old are you? Maybe youre the problem and maybe a few years in the military might help out. You dad sounds like a good guy and he trying his best to solve a problem that only you can solve (MOVE OUT)
2007-02-18 11:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by jon l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother would have given each child who participated a swipe across the back of the legs with a razor strap. Of course she had eight children.
More details are needed here. Does the argument get heated? Why does your dad "go on a rampage"?
2007-02-18 12:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your father should get involved in the situation and get to the bottom of the arguing. maybe you can mention this to him.. it always worked for me and my siblings growing up.. if there was a dispute Dad held a trial ( we had to raise our right hand and swear to tell the truth nothing but the truth)everybody had their chance to tell their side of things then Him and my Mom would decide who was right and what the punishment would be. after that was done and enough said we went about our regular activities until another arguement arose. which as kids happens alot.. if the arguement was just between two kids then the others had to be witnesses in the trail and tell what they saw or heard.. we look back on it now and laugh..but it worked justice prevailed everytime.Oh by the way we now range in the age of 35-50..
2007-02-18 11:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by raven1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling you guys to separate is OK if you guys get 2 intense. The problem is that he doesn't try to resolve the issue you guys are having independently and doesn't encourage you guys to make up to each other.
He IS your father so his responsibilities come over yours, but he also has a responsibility to watch over you guys in a mature manner. Next time that happens, ask your dad if you could talk with him about what happened later in the day. If you show him that you're willing to be civil about it, then he'll feel obligated to be civil as well.
2007-02-18 11:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mikey C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think its more of a pressure thing. He should try and help the problem if he can but the pressures of being a parent and running a household, plus working a job is alot of weight on your shoulders and its hard to sit down calmly sometimes and solve an arguement between your kids.
2007-02-18 11:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jesse's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that your dad should say things like that as well I think that he should try to have conversations with you all and not just demands. Listening to your children is very important because you get to know who are your children. Hey try having a conversation with your father about this and tell him that you feel as though you don't have a voice.
2007-02-18 11:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad isn't a problem solver obviously. Seems that you are. SO why argue with your sibling. Make peace and let it go. your dad has problems of his own obviously but they are not your problems so don't worry about that. Just be grown up enough to stop argueing with your sibling. Ok? then you won't hear your dad yelling.
2007-02-18 11:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i was in that situation, i would wait till everything cools down and personally sit down with ur dad and talk to him and ask him questions like " why dont you want to resolve the issue" etc.. if he refuses get both your sister and you to talk to him about the issue, a good idea also is to talk (just you and your sis) so maybe there wont be so many probs. where he wont have to tell you that. -kali
2007-02-18 11:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋