Any ideas on how to potty train a boy who doesnt want to be potty trained?

Question

ok so here is the story. My son who is now 3 1/2 is being very stubborn with training. I started last summer(when he was still 2) and everything was going good, then my niece was born and ever since he just is not interested in being trained. He goes pp perfectly he just wont poop in the toilet. At first i thought well he will just have to take his time and eventuall get it but he has been going pp in the toilet since august last year. I have tried lots of techniques. I gave him a small potty chair and had him sit on it periodically all evening, but still nothing. As soon as i took him off and got him dressed, he pooped in his underwear. So then i tried making him change himself when he did it, which only back fired. I though he would be grossed out and then wouldnt want to do that anymore. He would go change himself and come back in and say tada i did it arent you proud? Oh and he has made the coment "i dont want to go to the potty i want to be a baby" several times. HELP!

Oh and i used rewards to get him to pp and that worked great. I told him if he poops in the toilet or his potty chair i would take him to mcdonalds for ice cream and still nothing...

Answer 1

It's not uncommon for some children (IME, boys especially) to learn to poop on the potty later than peeing. I had this same issue with my 2nd son/4th child, who finally started using the potty (to pee only) when he was about 3.5, after being determinedly opposed to the process since I first introduced it around age 2 (with very little pressure to actually *start* potty-learning).

I have a very hands-off approach to potty, because experience has taught me that pressuring them only leads to major conflict and potty issues. They are 100% in control of the process, as much as we'd like to think we influence it. We can motivate, bribe, cajole, threaten, punish, whatever, but when it comes down to it, the end result lies with the toddler.

That being said, I sure got tired of changing his poopy pants! I also enlisted his help in cleaning himself up, but another thing I did that really worked was to start giving him cool baths to clean the poop off. If he pooped his pants, I would show very little emotion other than a slight disappointment, and a comment that the poop goes in the toilet, then I plopped him into an uncomfortably cool bath to wash him off. He hated it! I told him that only cold water could clean the poop germs off. Totally backwards, I know, but I needed some toddler logic and that seemed to do the trick! I tried my best to never do this in anger or frustration, but with a calm and matter-of-fact attitude. Sorry, son, I know you don't like the cold water, but that's how we clean up the poop germs so you won't get sick (or get a rash). He would scream bloody murder; the neighbors probably thought I was beating him, LOL. But it was just a cold bath. About two weeks of doing this almost every day, and he decided it wasn't worth it to mess his pants any more!

I'm actually dealing with this now with my 6th and last child, a girl, but she isn't even 3 yet, is just starting to use the potty to pee, almost 100% by herself with little help from me (Little Miss Independent, LOL), and I'm not considering it to be an issue just yet. We're still working on praising for pee-pee accomplishments, so I don't want to go into any negative consequences just yet. If she hasn't got the hang of pooping on the toilet in several months, I'll probably be a bit more proactive then.

Good luck; all you have to do is find a consequence that seems logical to *your* child, that will motivate him to do his business in the office.

Answer 2

Boys are especially difficult to get them to go #2 on the potty. I've often told parents that this could be the worst 2 months - 2 years. Keep up the reward system! and try not to embarass or put him down when he won't do it. One thing that helped with my middle son was that I bought him a big boy toy (a transformer that his big brother would typiclly like) and told him when he's a big boy all the time, then he can have big boy toys. I put it in my closet, and showed it to him once in a while (when he wouldn't go). It still took some time (probably a year and a half total), but he eventually got it. Your son will too. Also maybe try to remind him that he can't go to school like a big boy until he does this. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Greater than likly he's simply no longer capable but. In case your concerned concerning the rate of diapers i might suggest getting some cloth diapers. Even though you are not able to buy a ton of them they're going to still help unfold out how lengthy that you may go between buying diapers. Not to point out they believe extra like actual underwear. I also let my son run round bottomless when we're at residence. After a little even as he realised he must run to the potty, and no longer go on the ground. I not ever spank for accidents. They are simply that, and kids at that age aren't occurring the ground on motive. Sure, you'll have got to clean up some pee along the way in which, but oh good. That is being a father or mother.

Answer 4

A new baby gets a lot of attention, especially when its time for a diaper change. Try taking him with you when you have to go and give yourself a treat or a fun acctivity that you get to do because you used the potty. Make sure he doesn't join you in either reward though. Explain that when he wants to start useing the potty for 1 and 2 that he too can have the rewards. Mostly he wants time for special attention.

Answer 5

the whole big boy/baby thing is what finally got my son wanting to potty train. he's 3 and a half too. his friend who is a couple months older than him is trained and when he started calling my son a baby for wearing diapers, my son decided it was time to train. and he's actually more concerned with poop than pee lol. if he wants to be a baby, then treat him like a baby. carry him like a baby (much easier said than done but i've done it!), make him sit in a high chair, no tv watching, no games, none of the fun things big boys get to do.

Answer 6

extra effective than likly he's in basic terms no longer waiting yet. in the experience that your disturbing on the subject of the cost of diapers i might advise getting some cloth diapers. whether you won't be in a position to purchase a ton of them they're going to nonetheless help opened up how long you could bypass between finding out to purchase diapers. to no longer point out they experience extra like actual undies. I additionally enable my son run around bottomless whilst we are at living house. After a rapid mutually as he realised he could run to the potty, and not bypass on the floor. I under no circumstances spank for injuries. they are in basic terms that, and young babies at that age at the instant are not likely on the floor on purpose. specific, you will could freshen up some pee alongside the way, yet oh properly. that's being a make certain.

Answer 7

Interesting story madam, very interesting. But you son seems to be a bit grown to do such a thing. These things also depend on culture and the environment.

Maybe you should relocate - what do you think?

Answer 8

Get him a puppy. When he sees the puppy squatting outside maybe he will figure out to go out there and drop his pants and use it in the yard. Then you wont have to clean him up.
Good luck! Pat the little feller on the head for me!

Answer 9

I did that too. My mom Yelled at me and told me that I could never do "big kid things" like TV or computers or go to school and I had to stay in my crib all day. It worked!