She says she loves him as a person and she wants to be there for him. She also says shes not haveing sex with him or anything. for now i'm just being cool about it and keeping things open...opinions?
2007-02-18 02:55:24 · 18 answers · asked by Mike 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is wearing that thing out and she is loving it . if you want it back you need to tell her how you feel
2007-02-18 03:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by bjrj812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether she's telling the truth or not you don't believe her. If you don't trust her then your relationship will not last. It may be more complicated than this but if she is sleeping with him why are they not together. Why would she hang on to you and go through argument after argument about her exboyfriend if she wasn't telling you the truth? I think you've been bitten by the jealousy bug. Try an exterminator. :) If you think about your thoughts and feelings like an apple crisp... You'll realize that your true feelings and trust for her are covered up by a layer of a cruchy hard crust. If you break that hard crust off of the apple crisp you'll find sweet, soft apples. Try to get past your feelings of jealousy and act as though "he" is not a problem at all in your relationship. Let go of arguing about him and show her the soft loving side of you and you'll soon see that she'll become warmer to you. Hopefully she'll realize that "he" isn't so important to her anymore. If she doesn't then you've done all you can and you'll know that you're worth more. After all ... you deserve the very best! Good luck and God bless!
2007-02-18 03:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "sleeping"? Catching zzzz's?! You can be there for someone without being stuck 24/7 with 'em. And if they already had an intimate relationship, then chances are that could er, flare up again. That's my opinion and I would tell her that she can "be there" from a distance aka NOT IN THE SAME FREAKIN' BED! And if they have to be physically close to one another, then I'd just break up with her. Because that's loving him as a person TOO much to my liking!
2007-02-18 03:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by green eyed sole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this what you want in a G/f? If so no biggie..continue on. However I'd say your human - and have needs and Intimacy is a special thing shared by two people who care for each other. I'm speaking of EMOTIONAL INTIMACY as well as physical. He obviously fills some need in her life that your not and you also fill some need in her life that he does not. No one can fill all of our needs but their are healthier ways...If you like STD's, broken hearts and low self esteem hang in there. You'll get plenty of all of them. I doubt she could ever convience you that she's NOT with him if it came down to that.. All it would take is a good aurgument and she's off with him again...Leave her friend and go for something far more healthy.
2007-02-18 03:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Scott L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her loyalties should be to you exclusively, when it comes to being there for someone. If she's sleeping with her ex b/f, she's not going to tell you the truth is she? Be cool all you want but I think her priorities are a bit mixed up & right about now, she should become your ex g/f.
2007-02-18 03:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what about you in all of this? She is speaking of her feelings for him and wanting to be there for him, but if you are a couple, this should not be. Saying and doing those things should be about and with you, not someone else. It sounds like he is still a very big part of her life and she has not let him go and I don't think this is a healthy situation at all. I don't know how much this bothers you but I think if you value herself more than she seems to value you, you should let her go. She is not ready to be with you or anyone at this point.
2007-02-18 03:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Li 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"sleeping"...well ask her if she would feel comfortable with u "sleeping" with ur ex girlfriend...its all up to u what u want to do but i would suggest let her go...she should kno if u are with someone u just dont do that...u can be there for them on the phone or something
2007-02-18 03:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by hermione3291 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by "sleeping" you mean having sex then dude that's bad. If by "sleeping" you mean they are going to bed in the same bad that's all, then why put up with that. That's YOUR girlfriend, SLEEPING, in the bed with HER EX!
2007-02-18 03:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by Harhar2930902 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are kewl with her sharing a bed with someone else, that's your biz. I wouldn't be...she's disrespecting you whether she's having sex with him or not. She can "be there for him" emotionally and as a friend, without spending the night. She's playing you for a fool.
2007-02-18 02:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's hanging around her ex to be 'supportive', she playing you for an idiot. Dump her cheating hind end and find somebody who will appreciate you!
2007-02-18 03:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋