My girlfriend wanted to talk to me. She said it was very important and after she blew me off this morning I told her just to text me. This is what she sent me…..
"i don't love you. How can i love someone who has made me cry for the past two nights? Who has me in tears right now!! Who ignores me for two days straight? Who screams at me in the car till I'm in tears because they think I'm lying when I wasn't! How can i love you when i am never on your mind? While you are trying to meet other girls behind my back even after being with me for TWO YEARS. How can i love you when all I do is cry? When you don't care one single bit that i cry! I said i needed to talk to you and all you could do was tell me to text you. So I'm writing this HERE IT IS!! I wanted a valentines day with you...considering we couldn't do anything on Wednesday. I went out of my way to buy you gifts I knew you would like and you lie to me tell me you got me stuff when in reality YOU FORGOT! How can you forget about me?? Am I not that important to you? I don’t want to cry anymore over you. I don’t want to cry PERIOD! I just want to be HAPPY!! I got you one more thing for Valentines Day that I did not give you. I wanted to wait till our actual Valentines Day date which was supposed to be tomorrow. But I realize today that Monday is never going to come! So here is my note to you! Yes I’m crying! Yes I’m VERY VERY UPSET right now and yes I just want you to hold me in your arms and tell me everything is going to be ok. But today is the LAST DAY I will EVER cry over you!! Things will be ok with or without you in my life!
I think I REALLY REALLY HURT HER!!
-did I hurt her?? I had no intention of hurting her!! I don’t know what to do now!!
2007-02-18 02:46:18 · 12 answers · asked by Mike T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after she said that i said
"I'm sorry i don't know what came over me when I yelled at you I'm a bad boyfriend."
she then text me back replying "that's all you can say huh?"
i said "i have to accept that you don't want me anymore. It's your decision"
she then reply back "No it's not that i don't want you it's that you do not want me and you've made it very clear."
WHAT DO I DO?
2007-02-18 02:49:42 · update #1
wow....you are clueless
2007-02-18 02:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds as if this can be fixed but the ball is in your court right now. You guys need to have a serious heart-to-heart. You need to be quiet and listen to everything she has to say and she should do the same. Apologize profusely, if you really didn't mean to hurt her. Promise her it will never happen again and then see to it that it doesn't! If you really want this relationship to work then you're going to have to work hard at undoing whatever it is you did to make her unhappy.
If you don't want to be in the relationship with her don't be mean to her. Tell her a relationship is not what you want right now. Don't yell at her and don't see other girls behind her back. Be a man and be up front and honest. I hope things work out for you both
2007-02-18 03:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez, Mike, I would say that yes, you hurt her. Are the things she said in the note true? Could they be interpreted as true even if they're not?
Basically, what you need to do is not look at your recent behavior but at the long-term pattern of behavior. Did you know this Valentine's thing was important to her? Then it should be important to you.
You may have lost this one; her note sounds like someone who's been neglected for some time. The key is to take this opportunity to examine not so much your actions as your attitudes as you move forward.
Good luck.
2007-02-18 02:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Evan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, you are a world class DUMMY, there are guys all over the world who would give their left testicle to have a girl who obviously loves them that much. I'm detecting a hint of hope in her email,but your window of opportunity to make things right is extremely short. If you want this girl in your life, you have to get with the program, I would suggest that you seek out some kind of counselling to help you overcome your inability to appreciate her and communicate with her. A GF isn't a possession or an ordament you hang on your arm, she is your reason for living , your inspiration the one that makes you happy. If you can't fix this, then I really feel sorry for you man, you are an empty, pitiful shell of a man.
2007-02-18 03:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by al b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send her flowers with a card attached "Pick you up at 7" and then go on your Valentines date tonight instead of Monday. Make sure you tell her how much she means to you....and apologize for being so inconsiderate.
And for God's sake DON'T FORGET !!
A girl will only go so long feeling neglected and unappreciated before she walks....and then you will lose her for good. There won't be a text message basically begging you to put some effort in your relationship....it will just be over and nothing left to put effort into.
2007-02-18 02:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does sound like you hurt her pretty bad, and let me explain to you the pain she's feeling inside cause I've felt that same pain and I still feel that same pain. She's feeling like her whole world is cashing down on top of her and it's seems like she can't pick her self back up. Her eyes are swollen and red, hurting from crying all day long woundering if it was something she did wrong or it is that your just a complete asshole. Her heart is breaking into tiny little pieces like someone has pushed over a million knives into her chest. It's a pain that is very powerful, something that stays with you for life. Now you can put it behide you and move on without letting it affect your next relationships but learning to deal with the fact that your going to get hurt more than just once before you find the right person is very hard to do after feeling pain like this. Most people can't deal with it very well and they end up putting a bridge up inside to keep themselves from letting anyone in so thet know they wont get hurt again. Look if you realized that you treated her like ****, realized that you really do love her and your willing to do anything in your power to win her back then show her really how sorry you are for makeing her feel the pain thats she's feeling. Show her how much you'll willing to give up to be with her. Now I can't tell you how to win her back but i can tell you that if you really want her then you will be able to search deep down inside your heart and figure out what you have to do. Maybe even after you try everything you possibly could think of, she still might not give you a second chance. But would you really blame her, cause no girl wants to feel that kind of pain and to tell you the truth no guy wants to feel that either. But your going to have to fix this on your own cause nobody can really help you with this one. You put your self in this whole and now it's your turn to dig your self out of it. Good luck and I hope everything turns out ok, but before I go let me say this.... If you haven't detroyed all her love for you, then if her love for you was stronger than she ever believed she could love someone then she'll come back to you, but first you are going to have to do anything in your nature to prove to her that your going to change and treat her like an angel should be treated.
2007-02-18 03:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that out of note with her that you don't even feel it when you hurt her, yell at her or anything like that. This means that you two are very far apart in compatibility and sensivity level; its best to make up an stay friends, but my opinion is - What happened will happen again and again and again...and you will end up on this site asking the same question ///What do I do??? And by then you will be married to her with 2 children.
Good luck
2007-02-18 03:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have an answer, but I too received this text on my cell today Sat 5/26/12 at 6:55am-woke me up actually. Damn spammers. Thanks for posting the question. At least I know not to "go there".
2016-03-29 01:15:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER YOU LOVE HER AND CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT HER AND YOU NEED HER AND YOU'RE SO SORRY YOU MESSED UP BUT YOU DO LOVE HER AND YOU DO WANT TO BE WITH HER! TELL HER SHE IS IMPORTANT TO YOU AND YOU ARE GOING TO TRY AND BE A BETTER PERSON AND SHOW HER THAT YOU REALLY CARE!
2007-02-18 02:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by AshesToAshes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you screwed her pretty bad
2007-02-18 02:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by Chad Parries 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you hurt her bad you better apologize or she would hate you forever and if your almost crying I think you know you really hurt her.
2007-02-18 02:53:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋