i am threatened by woman who NEED something from me - why is that?

Question

i figure, that if they NEED something from me - that they are unsatisfied with themselves and looking for a guy to fill some gap for them and ultimately after the newness wears off they will return to that unsatisfied state and find reasons to blame me for thier inherent discontentment . I figure contented people are content and needy people are needy

is my point of view flawed? am i just a selfish bastrd?

if you are answering this question could you please ID yourself as an unsatisfied needy person or an already fullfilled satisfied person?

and NOT that there is "anything" wrong with being needy and unsatisifed!!!!

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Answer 1

This fulfilled, satisfied person agrees with you wholeheartedly. Any woman who NEEDS a guy in her life has a deep-seated self-esteem issue. If we must have men in our lives at all, they should only be additions or enrichments to what we already have. Smart women know to seek true fulfillment elsewhere and put relationships off until it has been won.

Of course, some of us are so fulfilled that we don't want men at all. But that's another answer.

Answer 2

Yeah - your point of view is flawed.

I am unsatisfied - this does not make me needy, and certainly not for you.

Any contact I would have with a man is born of desire and not need. And my dissatisfaction has nothing to do with men or sex or relationships in general.

If I were "needy" in the way you describe I would stop saying no so damn much and accept some decent offer of "love" and stability.

What is this thing you think women need from you? Sex? Affirmation? Some feeling of belonging?

And "contentment". I experience that as a episodic kind of thing.

Just boggled by your question.

but love your azz just the same.

Answer 3

My name is K-E-G and I'm an unsatisfied needy person:

I think you are threatened by all women that has any flaws and that is ALL WOMEN.

I'm glad that you finally admitted that it is all your fault that I am unsatified with myself because I am in NEED of the perfect guy to totall fufill my desires. I think you are selfish lowroad. You are self-absorbed and heartless. You never answer any of my very few questions anymore just because I smoke and that is not fair. You can't breathe any of my second-hand smoke over your computer screen so you don't have any right to judge my character over a dad-blame cigarette (yeah, I thought I'd bring some Southern slang into it).

You are right about the newness part. It always has for me anyway but I want you to do me this one favor lowroad:

From your questions, it seems that you are looking for something. As in someone that is perfect in all respects in your eyes and that is definately saying something conidering the source. If you ever find your flawless soul mate who is willing to put up with your 75% YAPPING on Yahoo Answers please let me know about it because if that happens, I might give it a try myself! LoL!

Answer 4

No, that's understandable. People need to love themselves before they're truly able to love somebody else. Some men like being with needy girls, they like to sort of.. rescue them. Other men are not into that and don't want to have to babysit their girlfriends.

I personally am a very independant person, and I like to do things by myself. I can carry my own suitcase, and I can shovel snow just as well as a guy can, but I love having a boyfriend because when I'm having a horrible day it's nice to know that there's someone who's going to cuddle you and things are going to seem better. I don't know what that labels me as, but yeah.

Answer 5

There must be something about you that you attract needy women. Look at yourself and figure this out, then change it to attract self supporting and independent women. As for me, I'm very independent and don't need a man in my life. I would like to have a man around but I don't NEED one and that's the difference.

Answer 6

Males or females who date or seek out others due to "need" have issues that emotionally healthy people tend to not want to deal with. It's much more preferable to be wanted/desired in a relationship, not needed.

As stated, "need" tends to indicate there is something in this person's life that isn't as they' d like it but they seek others to fix it for them rather than doing it for themselves. That also puts a burden on the other person, which is unfair.

I don't need anyone...what I may want, is a different story. ☺

Answer 7

satisfied here......not needy.....there is a very big difference between wanting and needing.....