As an ex christian, I can confirm that ive heard many other cases like mine, where a child was raised christian, and they had fear, guilt shame, they were picked on at school and didnt have the self esteem they needed to fight back, the ones raised christian had a lot more social and emotional problems than the ones without it, I know this by research and experience.
2007-02-18 02:28:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
tarnished how would you know if im bitter? youve been tasting me?
2007-02-18 02:31:42 · update #1
Don't blame Christianity for the problems caused by denominational-ism.
I was raised a Christian and had none of those problems.
2007-02-18 02:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by drg5609 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
that has not been my experience at all. Not just mine personally but all those I know. I would like to know what "research" you are referring to but as far as experience mine is different. In fact, Christianity taught me who I was in God and that I could be strong and let things go instead of holding them inside. It taught me that I was a kings kid with not only the privileges of that but the responsibilities as well which helped me develop not only self esteem, self worth but the idea of accountability. I have received nothing but good from my Christian experiences and training. There was no fear or guilt - there was alot of excitement, joy and plain ol' fun as a kid. I was picked on at school some but most kids are about one thing or another. It did not "scar" me nor did I find it "excessive." I was very social in school and mature for my age. I don't remember having any emotional problems - I was an honor student, in concert and marching band, played for church congregational singing since the age of 12 and taught a Sunday School class since the age of 14 (I taught the little junior class). I was well adjusted, had great friends and a full life. What is so bad about that?
2007-02-24 15:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by wd 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand I know many children including my self who was raise in Christ and I love the lord and never was pick on maybe your blaming your short coming on something else maybe you where pick on because you where different as children love to do.
but as a child of GOD they taught us that the world hated Christ Jesus who was sent into the world to save his elected from death, so my question to you is why wouldn't you think they wouldn't also hate you.
you need to understand that everyone isn't going to like you and everyone isn't going to be your friend some because of the GOD you serve and some because they just don't like you as a person or your ways, It's life
P.S.
I think I'm a better person because I don't let the world tell me who I am and who I should love maybe your hurt and a ex christen because you couldn't stand strong in your faith and now dislike those who did stand for what they believe. and as for weak some of the strongest man and woman I know are Christen's and always fight back you need to pick up the book again and see how strong christen are and as for guilt we all have a little bit. guilt will stop you from doing some mix up crap in your life.
2007-02-25 14:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by cute as a button 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is ok to raise a child this way but do not force religion on your child. Let them choose their own ways. Most people in the US are Christian of one form or another. You say in school kids get picked on. Well, the kids picking on them were probably Christians as well just not to the degree that you were.
2007-02-18 02:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you were raised under legalism, big time! The law kills but Grace and Truth came through Jesus Christ. I was raised in guilt, legalism etc. and I found the Grace of God. I have raised my children under grace and they have believed in Christ and they are growing Christian adults. There is much legalistic abuse in the name of Christianity. Sad!:(
There is hope for you, find a good Grace ministry. When you get
beat up by legalism them you come to the end and find a Loving
God with much grace to give you! :)
2007-02-25 04:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by war~horse 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the other children don't understand Christianity. Picking on someone for their religion is like picking on some one for their race. Children are often cruel because they are naive or misinformed.
God bless
2007-02-25 14:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by rocker_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats bull. Im 13 and Im a strong christian and i dont have social problems. If i were u i would just ask God to help me when u were little and stay with him. You suffered here but then u would be rewarded in heaven
2007-02-26 00:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Christianity is a CHOICE. I wasn't raised anything.....
I learned about God and what Jesus did for us because a neighbor asked me to go to Sunday School with them. I learned, and accepted Jesus the Christ as my Savior. Yes, I was picked on and laughed at, but I just felt sorry for those people...and I still do. One day you will bow before Him and try to explain why you rejected Him, explain why you didn't teach your children about Him and His commandments. EVERY knee shall bow and every tongue confess.......
I'll be praying for you.
2007-02-26 01:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by afewideas 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have the right to raise a child however you want as long as you are not hurting them. But I do think it's wrong if they do not allow the child to think for themselves and question their beliefs later in life.
2007-02-18 02:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My spouse and I are atheists, but we've not raised our child with any of our beliefs, which are based on intellectual concepts above her mental level. Nevertheless we have traveled quite a bit and our child has been exposed to Hindu, Buddhist, Moslem, Amazon shamanism cultures, as well as the Christian culture of the US. So on her own experiences our 11 year old child believes that in a world with so many different beliefs, it is absurdly egocentric for any person to claim to know the truth.
She has Christian friends who believe she is going to Hell because of this belief. Her Christian friends also believe that their Jewish and Moslem friends are going to Hell. My daughter tells me that her friends are psychologically tortured by worrying that their non-Christian friends are going to Hell. So I'll go along with my 11 year old daughter's opinion, yeah it is psychological torture to indoctrinate a child with such a belief (that you go to Hell unless you belief in such and such a Christian way).
2007-02-18 03:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by Dendronbat Crocoduck 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋