somebody help me pls......pls......?

Question

i have a problem.....its about my girlfriend.....i love my girlfriend very much and i trust her with all my heart.....i was hurt by what she have done...i dont get it why she did it to me.....its about my girlfriend drinking beer.....my girlfriend promised me before that she never drink...and i found out that she is secretly drinking behind my back...and i was hurt coz she lied to me.....after that i forgave her and she promised me again that she would never drink beer again......then after promising me...after how many months..i caught her drinking again...i was hurt again...and she keeps promising but forgets it.....and im really confused if i could trust her again...and this happend already many times.already....i really love her and im afraid to lose her but still...why is she doing this...its like shes forgetting me on evry promise she break....she keeps bresking my heart.....can somebody pls. help me...i really dont know what to do...im afrtaid to lose her and i love her vry much

its like to her,beer is more important than me, i really dont get it wjhy is she doing this to me,i've never done any wrong on her,i love her, i took care of her,i did evryhing to make her happy, and she promised me back again that she woud'nt do it evr again...and i have this feeling tht she might do it again behind me back......pls. help me,what should i do,i love her very very much, and i dont want to lose her

i almost forgot to tell you guys,were both 17 and were on the same school

i talked to her many times already about my feelings, its okay for me that she drinks, whats hurts is that she keeps promising that she never drinks, and keeps breaking them....

Answer 1

well are we to assume that the reason you are upset about the drinking is that your girlfriend is underage?

i am sure it is a concern to you, not only is she doing possible harm to her body, but it is illegal.

she might have a physical need for the alcohol, like addicted. or maybe it's a 'fitting in' kind of thing.

you need to sit her down and talk with her. but not in a pap-pa preaching kind of way.
more like a i love you and am afraid that something bad is going to happen to you way.
if she means this much to you then you do whatever you need to do to get her 'clean'
i know the possibility of losing her scares you. but if i were in your shoes, her getting mad at me and never talking to me again would hurt alot less than NEVER being able to talk to her again, because she drove drunk or died from alcohol poisoning.

Loving someone means letting them know how far you will go to do the best that you can for her.

maybe if talking doesn't help you should go to the school councilor, who will keep it confidential, but yet take the proper steps in resolving the issue.

i hope that for both of your sakes that something is done. do it as soon as possible. waiting might make you rethink your actions. and waiting could be fatal.

thank you for loving her enough to seek help.

****if this is an adult then you just need to tell her straight up. i have had enough of the partying, i stuck by you every time you over did it. and i just feel like you don't care enough about how i feel to change the way you are going. like i said sometimes 'LOVING' someone truely does mean letting them go. and by all means do not look for future girlfriiends in the bar, or anywhere that you will find people that have that kind of behavior.

GOOD LUCK which ever your situation may be.

Answer 2

Without knowing your ages, it's difficult to speculate. You didn't say how much beer she drinks? Is she an alcoholic or something that this causes you so much distress?

Obviously she enjoys drinking, she lied to you because she isn't ready to stop and doesn't want you to know. If this causes you so much distress there must be more to it than her having an occasional beer.

Personally, my husband and I don't drink, but I see nothing wrong with anyone having a casual drink now and then. It's only when drinking is in excess that it becomes a problem (or if the person drinks and drives).

You need to sit down and have a serious conversation with your girlfriend. She needs to understand how her drinking makes you feel and what it is doing to your relationship. If she is unable to stop drinking then she obviously needs some help. Unless she is ready for some help, there may not be anything you can do.

Her "drinking" may be out of your control, but the decision to stay in a relationship with someone who has this problem is entirely yours.

I wish you both good luck.

Answer 3

Is she an alcoholic? If she is, help her. By telling her not to do it, i think its just like a casual remark she might forget and continue doin it. Try drinking with her together, tell her to stop when u think its enough for both of u. Keep this going, set a table, only drink once or twice a week , then slowly reduce to 0. Observe her, keep her busy, bring her for supper, give her the impression that u are willing to help her or overcome this craving together.. when u think its finally over. I suggest u don't stop there, occasionally both of u could just chill out, drink abit this could help her to kick of the idea of going back to drinking again. i hope this could help so then Good Luck!

Answer 4

oh brother..get a grip.

Obviously she is doing her own thing. Its too bad that its something that could potentially harm her down the road. The question is Not what she should do about it but what you should do. Shes not likely to stop shes proved that a couple times now. So the question is for you is the drinking something you can deal with.. IF NOT MOVE ON.. if it is then quit making her feel quilty over it. making her feel quilty is likely to keep her drinking

Answer 5

Hi, Its okey that you love her very very much but you have to realise also that she is in love with you very truly or not. If her behavior is not honesty then she may not be in love with you. If she loves you very much then she shouldn't break promisses.
If you want a complete solution, then sit a peace place and ask her that why she is breaking your heart again and again. Also ask that is she loving you as much as you love. Make a final decision

Take Care dear and don't be upset. Here are soo many girls waiting for your true love. :-)

Answer 6

Be sincere to your partner and try to understand things at your husbands home and respond. Show the willingness to adjust and compromise. Take bold decessions to issues that affects your identity. Discuss issues with your husband in a fair manner without blaming anybody. Never loose your mind to any issue may arise in the future. Try to be a good partner of your husband. then, things will come on your way. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Face the fact that she is an alcoholic and won't change to please you. I know, I divorced an alcoholic after 27 years of marriage, they aren't going to change! You have to decide if you want to put up with her lies, knowing that the alcohol consumption WILL get worse. If you want a normal, healthy and trusting relationship, then you are going to have to cut her lose and move on.

Answer 8

maybe she has a problem and she just has to drink but talk to her help her out with her drinking problem nothing nastier then kissing a girl that smells like beer. thats like kissing a guy girls dont suposse to drink beer its not very feminie

Answer 9

she's addicted 2 beer n u can never trust her, she'll always drink it..... so u have 2 choose... even u brake up with her or u love her with her beer

Answer 10

grow up, dont be so emotional. if u don't like her habit, ditch her immediately as smoking, drinking, drugs r habits which u can't get them off from. so go find another girl.
for ur additional info, there r guys who look specifically for drinking women.