I am chatting with a guy, who seems to be very nice, but now after a few weeks and the fact that he has me thinking about him more and more, he is acting or should I say playing cool. To cool. Why would he be doing this? When I was being cool he was let say hot.
Example. He calls me his angel and sends me hugs and kisses all the time, which is fine. Also would say things like I missed you and wish I were there, etc... Now that I tell him that I have missed him, we are communicating less. What is up with that? Is he starting to get nervous that I may want more from him? Because I am happpy taking it slow. Please Help!!!!
2007-02-18 02:20:07 · 18 answers · asked by stuffy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just wanted to thank you all for the great answers. They have all given me insight.
2007-02-18 02:35:07 · update #1
Well,the fact and only that you haven't met ...makes me thing what's going on here????
I'd say he's bored with that and he wants to stop....if you want to meet him and don't want to stop chatting with him then tell him you'd like to meet.
2007-02-18 02:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your questions upfront - because he's not serious to getting into a relationship with you. Why? Because if you've not known each other significantly well a.k.a. you are not friends, then it's so easy for a guy (actually sometimes a girl) to play around and make you confused and thinking of him. Why? because there are no strings attached. Most often guys just want that initial challenge, and when they get it, that's it. It gets pretty boring. This is what happens when no real commitment is involved. No strings are attached for him. You'd have to be there thinking, but he's cool and i miss him. Logically, do you honestly want a guy like that? Who doesn't seem to mean what he says? One day you're an angel, the next day you're just somebody else? HELL NO! Honestly, he's not worth your emotions. Invest your emotions instead on someone who has proven that he cares for you NO MATTER WHAT.
2007-02-18 02:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by J.P. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes take it slow. if you met him online then all you know about him is what he chose to tell you. I have a friend who is happily married to a man she met online but that is a rarity. It really depends on how far away you live because it is so much simpler to have someone that you will be able to spend time with. You can still chat on the computer with people but I wouldn't make any kind of committment.
2007-02-18 02:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by K-E-G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a game. When a woman plays hard to get the guy thinks it's a turn on. When the woman starts to get even a little "into him" he backs off, it's not so hot anymore. Take it slow, that's always best! Good luck!
2007-02-18 02:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like to be doing the chasing so don't act so eager, it scares them off. Play it cool and he will come around. The other option is that he's found somebody else to chase and has lost interest in you. Play it cool and see what happens.
2007-02-18 02:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitmentphobic. Simple as that.
Men want to play this big man game in dating to feel like the Alphas, but let me tell you girl, if a man ever plays a game with you, F*ck 'em. You dont need that. He thinks hes in control of things now. stringing you along, you give him a call and tell him to shove his thumb in his ***.
Believe me, feels nice.
2007-02-18 02:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want his attention then you're the one that should be playing it cool. Suggest that you don't tell him you miss him and he's going to be more open. Guy, men, enjoy the chase.
2007-02-18 02:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Freddie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he has been busy. I would ask him why he hasn't been communicating with you as much as he was before. I would also say that maybe, just maybe, he has someone else now. But, I would go with what I said first, which is that he has been busy lately.
2007-02-18 02:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by layanne1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is obviously confused with what he want in a relationship, he must not expect from you what he saying or maybe he just i dont even know.
2007-02-18 02:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by teasefreak09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hooked. He might be reeling you in by playing hard to get now. Back off a little. See how he reacts. just my opinion.
Edit: oh, and be careful.
2007-02-18 02:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋