I liked this guy, who is socially awkward &/or shy. we started a physical relationship. I try to get to know him better, and it is always me initiating contact, but he is always responsive. He rarely initiates contact with me but did read my blog regularly (don't ask how i know, but it's him) Out of nowhere, he tells me i think there is more of a relationship than there is and he doesn't want to lead me on. He was doing nothing to lead me on, showing very little interest and enthusiasm, I had actually given up trying to get to know him at that point. The last time we had sex he was very considerate and it was wonderful. Then he says afterward he doesn't want to lead me on, I should look at other guys, but he will make more effort to initiate contact with me, and "let's see where it goes". I was confused and our recent conversations have all been me trying to figure out what's going on, and he has been very responsive and eager to discuss it. I am very confused does anyone get him?
2007-02-18 02:19:02 · 8 answers · asked by jennykolletti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In person, he is shy & nervous around me, and its awkward because it is me directing the conversation the whole time. Our last IM convo was about how i thought maybe we shoudnt continue this unless we were JUST friends. He repeatedly said he didn't like me as a gf and never ever meant for the sex to have happened. This guy never says anything complimentary and even says things that are kind of insulting, and inappropriate/insulting things in bed, while I am boosting his ego and trying to be nice to him. He has always been responsive to me but during this conversation he acted as if he was doing me a favor talking to me. After this convo, i was under the impression that we were going to be friends. I just opened up to him. he seemed standoffish and mad and i asked hiim what was wrong and he denied anything, but then he deleted my facebook wall comment and my PRIVATE facebook gift! what is up with him? keep in mind how i described his personality earlier. I dont have time for this BS!
2007-02-18 02:26:40 · update #1
OK subquestion:
what about this ridiculous facebook comment deleting thing? who does that? We had settled it and are "friends" and I wanted to be nice and post something and he deleted it! it wasn't controversial or personal. I asked him, after i noticed this if he was mad at me, and he said no, don't know why I'd think that. Is this very petty? if he is mad he should speak up. I am not a mind reader. I am very much LOSING any old attraction to him FAST....i mean who does that?? if he wanted to show indifference he should just let the message sit there and do nothing. He deleted it!
Another thing on his personality: rarely talks to girls. Shows little enthusiasm for anything really. I used to be interested but I am ever less interested in him. I am starting to feel bad for him and I can give him good advice, if he'll be nicer to me. but if he is an ***, then **** him!
2007-02-18 02:38:48 · update #2
To put it bluntly, he doesn't really like you, but he does enjoy the sex. Seriously, stop worrying about what's wrong with him, and worry more about why you're willing to have sex with a guy you hardly know.
If you don't want to think about that, then perhaps you should wonder how many random strangers you'll have to bed before you accidentally find Mr. Right. Quite frankly, pregnancies and STDs are more common accidents.
2007-02-18 02:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Guncrazy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is talking in circles and there is definitely some thing way out of whack. Personally I'd dump him, unless you enjoy trying to read the tea leaves. He sounds as though he enjoys keeping you off balance so that you never really know where you stand with him. Maybe that is his way of keeping you interested in him, what a weirdo. You don't think he's married do you??
Don't stay in this, it just doesn't sound right to me. He sounds like a total flake and I think your just going to end up getting hurt in the end.
Find some one who is sure of who they are and what they want and isn't afraid to express it to you. He has issues and a lot of drama going on, don't let your self get caught up into it.
I wish you the best with what ever you do.
2007-02-18 10:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all men are all different. They say women are but at times they are more so then us. He sounds like he isn't sure of what he really wants. And that it sounds like he wants you there only when he wants you. But not all of the time. And he also wants to play around. Then on the other hand wants to keep you on a Very short string... That way you will be there for him when he wants you. So, my answer to you would be he is very immature to say the least.
2007-02-18 10:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by Question/Answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect yourself and cut him off. See if that shakes it up. But you're lowering your self worth. By just having some Guy, jam himself in you. `Cause that's all he's really doing.
2007-02-18 10:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't commit to u as there is something stopping him. So don't go to bed with him again and look for somebody else now.
2007-02-18 10:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by Cant stop thinking 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhh yea. Forget him. Seriously...obviously the boy's got issues and you're right you don't need that bullshit.
2007-02-18 10:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by AshesToAshes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do YOU want? Figure it out. Tell him. Then make your decision.
Good luck.
2007-02-18 10:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt sound like a guy.... dunno... ask him and take a long time to talk.... guys would stress when theres a "talk" coming... but like i said... he doesnt sound like a guy... so try.......
2007-02-18 10:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋