Is it rude to invite people over for pizza, and then expect everyone to pay for it ? It seems to me that is you say, "why don't you guys come over and we'll get pizza?" instead of "why don't you come over and we can all chip in to get pizza?" that it's assumed that the host is going to cover it. I'm interested in other's viewpoints. (The people involved are all working professionals in their 30's.)
2007-02-18 02:14:17 · 17 answers · asked by tmel123 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
as for cost ... we live in CT, and it was $43 + tip (delivery) for 2 large pizzas and 1 medium. They asked everyone to cough up $6.50 (it was like 7 people) ... I hadn't brought any money, because I completely didn't expect this. It just really struck me as rude ! I mean, some people then only ate 2 slices, and some ate 6+ !!!
2007-02-18 04:15:19 · update #1
as for cost ... we live in CT, and it was $43 + tip (delivery) for 2 large pizzas and 1 medium. They asked everyone to cough up $6.50 (it was like 7 people) ... I hadn't brought any money, because I completely didn't expect this. It just really struck me as rude ! I mean, some people then only ate 2 slices, and some ate 6+ !!!
2007-02-18 04:15:54 · update #2
why don't you say, "Hey, lets all put our money together and see how much that pizza costs
2007-02-18 02:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by jl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that such invitations imply that the host will cover the price of the pizza, unless a potluck is explicitly mentioned. It would be petty for a host to have everyone chip in for a simple pizza or two-- why, medium-sized pizzas are only $5 each at Little Cesar's!!! This pettiness is magnified when all the people involved are working professionals in their 30's, which would also probably mean that none of them are unable to dish out those ten bucks themselves.
I JUST SAW YOUR UPDATE: I guess it is a little more expensive over where you live, to purchase a pizza. But still, I stand by what I said before: a host should pay for the pizzas unless EXPLICITLY mentioned beforehand (which your ungracious host obviously didn't, considering how you showed up with no money-- an embarrassing situation which was definitely not your fault). However, a good general tip my mom would always remind me when I was younger, is that you should always try to keep a $20 bill in your wallet for tough situations (although I still feel that you shouldn't have been obligated to pay). I still use that tip as a rule of thumb to this day!
2007-02-18 10:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by -- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the host should have made it clear that it would be an everybody chips in party.
On the other hand, most of the time when people are over, just dropped by say, I would say how about chipping in for some pizza? This does one of two things, gets everyone fed without me cooking, or reminds them its time to go home. Win/win.
2007-02-18 10:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Firespider 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if someone invites you over, it does mean they are the host and they will pay. However, our culture in really big on splitting the bill, and some people just don't realize that, traditionally, the people who did the asking did the paying.
Don't judge your friends too harshly. A nice way to influence them would be to invite them over for pizza, and when they offer to pay, say "No, no, I'm the host and I invited you-this is on me."
2007-02-18 12:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy Lou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you ask them to come over for pizza I would assume you got the tab. However you need to be more clear with your intentions. Next time tell them to come over and let them know we will be ordering pizza when everyone gets there. that way whoever chips in eats that night and whoever didn't chip in don't throw any food their way. They are grown ups and shouldnt expect hand outs.
2007-02-18 11:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude!! When you invite people over for a meal, unless it's potluck, then you as host/hostess are responsible for providing the food.
Working professionals in their 30s ought to be aware of this very simple fact.
2007-02-18 10:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by castle h 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! That's cheap!
Rude? I dunno!
As long as the party isn't too large, and the bill not substantial, that is!
I mean. Don't expect me to feed 30 ppl for no reason whatsoever.
2007-02-18 11:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by shrek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when people are guests in your home you should never ask them to pay for anything. (You should offer food, drinks whatever you can but never ask them to chip in!)
The host should be in charge of providing everything.
I would have been surprised and uncomfortable.
2007-02-18 12:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct. Every person would assume that the host is buying with that invitation.
2007-02-18 10:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sort of rude for them to expect you to chip if they didn't specify that you should. But it's also kind of rude to not offer to help cover some of the cost when they're feeding you too.
2007-02-18 10:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like it is more unthinking about the actual meaning of what is saying, then actual rudeness. Many people say one thing, and actually intend something different.
2007-02-18 10:29:06 · answer #11 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋