my mom is dating my ex boyfriends father. dont know what to do!!! ive told her my feelings about the whole relationship and she just ignores me.
2007-02-18 02:01:36 · 33 answers · asked by x0zreneex418 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, honey hate to break it to you, but there is nothing you can do.
Your mom is happy with your ex's father. You should be happy for your mom, and even if you don't like your ex you are going to have to deal with it. Sometimes life is tough but you shouldn't push your mom away because she loves someone. It's like getting mad at a puppy for peeing on the floor.
She is probably ignoring you because you aren't giving her respect on her decisions.
I'm sorry it has to be this way.
2007-02-18 02:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by jenimiper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would feel bad, specially considering that he is an ''ex'' boyfreinds father, but then if your mother is lonely probably she found something nice in him that makes her feel good. Your ex-boyfreind may have really hurt you, but that is not his father's fault, is it ? And then, was this relationship before you split with your bf or after ? If its after, did she know at that point if he was your ex-bf father ? If she didnt, then its not her fault too right ? And if she did, obviously there have been many situations where they may have interacted personally, taken a liking towards each other, and they are dating...and she just cannot help it. Why did you split with your bf ? What were the reasons ? Just stay away from this, I mean, perhaps he is a good man, unlike his son, and probably he may be really caring for your mom. Just leave her life alone for now, distance yourself just a bit, and give her some space, if he is a bad guy, she would find out for herself, or else, you just need to appreciate it if he turns out to be a sweet person. I think you are more concerned about your break up withteh ex, and it annoys you to see your mother having anything to do with them....its but natural, but please give it a while, and just be there for your mom. Time will prove, to her, and to you. Dont mix up your pains, and reflect it on your mom. She is grown up, and I assume she is lonely (divorced/widow) and she deserves some happiness too. Unless ofcourse if there are other explanations beyond this, like, if the father is married, that is his family is there, or probably your dad is around, or...something totally unacceptable....in which case, again, you really dont have to do anyting about it, she will anyway end up getting hurt and then again, i hope you are there for her..
good luck
2007-02-18 02:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day, it is your mom's decision not yours. Sure your relationship with the son didn't work out but that does not mean that your mom isn't entitled to be happy...
You have already let her know how you feel about it all so just relax and let things happen naturally.
2007-02-18 02:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by singsong 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is a grown woman, you can't tell her who to date and who not to.
You told her how you feel, so I'm sure if she sees some major problem coming from her relationship with him she will do what she has to to make sure you don't drop over dead or anything.
Just because she is dating your ex dad, doenst mean you have to get back with your ex or anything, so get over it.
It's never as bad as it seems.
Try not to be so centered on you and how you feel and maybe consider your mother's feelings.
She would never do anything to hurt you, but she has a life too, and its not fair of you to expect her not to live any part of it wether she is dating our ex dad or not.
2007-02-18 02:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change who your mom cares about or loves. It may be uncomfortalbe but you will have to tell her that you are very glad she is happy, but is there ways that she could help you feel less awkward about the situation. Can you avoid certain things like going to supper when your x will be there, just ask her for her advice and see what she says after you tell her the above. Take care Heather
2007-02-18 02:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your Mom's life. How is it affecting you that she is dating your ex's Dad? Unless they are getting serious in which case you will have to see your ex on occasion it should have little or no effect on your life. How about you think about what your Mom feels instead of what you feel.
2007-02-18 02:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom has a life too, was the relationship bad? so bad that your Mom has to stop seeing this man, give it some thought and if you still can't handle whatever it is you can't handle then have another talk with her. Good luck.
2007-02-18 02:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That tramp,she takes photos of herself making pouty faces on the digital camera,purely like a slut does. OMG OMG OMG!!!! Edit-what's relatively humorous is all the morons who thinks it relatively is severe.
2016-10-15 22:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tough one. Let your mom know how you feel about it. You might not like it but there's very little you can do about it. The decision will still be up to your mother, just trust that she'll make the right one.
2007-02-18 02:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by Candie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if there's much you can do...if she's into the guy, maybe you should support your mom, I know that'll be hard to do...but if you've already talked to her, there's not much more you can do....you can make your feelings known again, and leave it at that...but if you interfer...you could ruin your relationship with your mom as well
2007-02-18 02:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋