okay, so there is this guy i really like, but at least one of my friends likes him, and they have had texts that basically say they both like each other, and my friend still doesnt know that i like him, what should i do, she is my best friend, and i dont want to hurt her!!! Help!!!!
2007-02-18 01:49:08 · 12 answers · asked by dancin' chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So don't hurt her....that simple.
Just back off and let their relationship take it's course...how ever long that will be. They like each other...let it be.
You could choose to pine for him while they are dating or focus your attention on the many other guys that are out there...
Friends are so precious, don't mess that up.
If you and that guy you like are meant to end up together it will happen just be patient...
Play different scenarios in your head...like for example...you tell your friend you like the same guy hoping she'll back off and let you two be together...Instead she'll get mad at you maybe not be a friend anymore because how could you do that to her....Not only did you lose your friend but you eliminated any chance with that guy because she'll tell him how selfish you are or worse.
Another scenario... You back off and remain best friends with her...in the mean time while they go out you get to know the guy. You find out that they are meant to be together and he isn't your type afterall. Not only do you have a best friend still but you gain another friend.
Or... they date, they find they aren't suited for one another but you still like him... you and your friend talk weeks after the break up and you gently tell her (ask her) you'd like to date him because you got to know him and would it upset her if you dated him. If she's okay with it no problem. If she doesn't like it plead your case only if you could picture yourself in her shoes and imagine how you'd feel.
If I was in your situation I'd weigh all the pros & cons and decide if he is truly worth losing a best friend over. The older you get, the harder it is to find a real best friend.
You could end up without either one of them...upsetting her to the point of the downfall of your friendship and this guy might not even like you in that way.
Work on the sure thing, the lasting friendship.
I promise you that there will be an even better guy out there for you...it just will take some patience on your part.
2007-02-18 02:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-24 01:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so you like this guy....
Your friend likes this guy too.....
This guy likes your friend...........
Does this guy like you too?
If he is going after both of you at the same time....tell your friend and then both of you find a NICE guy and forget about this one.
If this is not the situation , then you need to find out if he likes you too, if he says yes, then ask him what is between him and your friend. That should make your decision a lot easier.
Best wishes......
2007-02-18 02:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since she is your friend, it is a good idea to be truthful with her, so tell your friend that you like him, but if they both like each other then dont try and get in the relationship and take him away from her. if she respects your feelings and is a good friend then maybe she'll even stay away from him because she wouldnt want to hurt you and make you jealous
but just remember, dont get this guy get in the middle of you guys friendship, its not worth loosing over a stupid guy.
2007-02-18 01:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by x0zreneex418 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just solved your problem when you said, "you don't want to hurt her." she's your best friend and you know she likes the guy and he likes her. i know its gonna be tough but the best bet is to leave the situation alone.. don't get involved with him even if things doesn't work out with him and her don't see that as your chance. get the thought of him out of your mind. remember real friends don't date their best friends crush, girlfriend or boyfriend. just keep that in mind and you'll be ok.
2007-02-18 01:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Blake 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, im in the same boat- my best friend just got asked to prom by the guy she knows i like. two days after that, theyre going out. i havent said anything to her b/c i dont want to upset her and i know she'll deny everything and it will tick me off, but there are points when i really want to tell her..
as for you, you can tell her you like him too but your not going to go after him b/c theyre getting close. also, let her know that things might be awkward for awhile if they decide to go out. but this guy is going to go for te girl he likes ( i know thats kinda harsh but true)and neither of you can change that. best wishes!:)
2007-02-18 01:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have had such situation some time ago, and i dicided that i like this boy not so much to hurt my friend, and i can forget this guy in a minute and have another boyfriend. i wouldn't hurt my friend for a boy
2007-02-18 01:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by salio53 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just stay away from that guy.
You are young. You will find many. Do not lose a friend.
2007-02-18 01:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she was your best Friend she would let you date him instead of ruing your possibility's ... that's my point of view but remember there's plenty of other fish in the sea and read my question that says omg help please and answer it please ....
2007-02-18 01:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he'll go with the girl that puts out
2007-02-18 01:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by EFF U 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋