but she doesnt want to be in a relationship right now,she subconciously flirts with every guy at school.She says she does that with her best friends without knowing.We have been really good friends for about 4 months. She said if she ever hurt me it would ruin our friendship.Apperently her last bf hurt her pretty badly and she didnt want to risk anything but 2 months ago i told her that i liked her and she said that she kinda liked me but didnt want anything right now. 5 days ago when we talked about her flirting problem she asked if i liked her and i said yes. Her answer was that she was just confused right now. So i dont know what to do,she is really cool and i like her alot but i dont understand what the problem is.She says she likes me and then she says she doesn't want a relationship and then she says she is confused.Should i try to be friends with her even though i will always like her or just move on?I dont think i can just be friends with her.We talk about 2 to 3 hours a day.
2007-02-18 01:48:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're in a tough situation because you love this girl but you don't know how to move to the next step forward. If she really is still hurt with her previous boyfriend, I honestly believe you should give her space for her to heal. I don't really like the idea of being the reason she'd get over someone. I'm putting myself in an unfair situation because she will just transfer all of her hurt emotions on you, and expect you to heal them all. And if you don't, I think she will go on and find another person who might add to that healing process. Are you getting this so far? You'd want her to heal by herself and let her accept the fact that she has to move on from her past and she must heal. In this process, if you are willing to wait for that to happen, you can first tell her that right now you understand what she's going through, and that she doesn't have to commit to anything with you because you don't want to pressure her. Tell her that you care for her, but that right now it would be best if she treats you as a friend first. (This will take away all the pressure from her) Let her know that you're there for her. However, a word of warning. Don't do this because you have an agenda or because in your mind you want things to happen for the two of you. You have to be sincere that you want her to heal first. Otherwise, you just have to give her space and let her other friends help her heal. If you find this hard to do, then tell her that right now you are feeling something for her but you don't want to pressure her so you need to back step a little bit and give each other space. I hope this helps, even though i know you're in a tough situation.
2007-02-18 02:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by J.P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is not looking for a committed relationship. Just be her friend. And, go out and enjoy your life. And, always remember, its not what a person says to you, it's in their actions that count. Anybody can say anything to you...that they like you or love you...what that person does to prove that is really what matters.
2007-02-18 01:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she really likes you. but, thats why she's confused. she'd rather just be your friend for as long as she can than to date you for a while then break up and things become so awkward that you don't even talk anymore. if you seriously like her and you can commit long term than tell her that. tell her you don't plan on letting go any time soon and you know she's confused but your willing to wait and let her figure it out.
2007-02-18 01:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by rainyday<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if being with her is bothering you and you have told her. why would you wait to get hurt again. i would have to say it's eather friends or nothing with this girl. she made it plan as day. i don't think she will ever change.
2007-02-18 01:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is flirting a problem, she just havinf fun being a tease, you are thr problem , quit bugging her , go away, you little stalker you beat your monkey in the lu with her pic
2007-02-18 01:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by koleary388 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why she is confused doesn't want to ruin ur friendship and doesn't want to date cause it might be awkward.. just dump her and move on..
2007-02-18 01:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her and move on
2007-02-18 01:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by EFF U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋